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Why Do Small Things Matter in Life?
Some of my friends were really struggling. I wish I would have noticed. I wish I just would have asked. You know, I've lost a few people to that. And it hurts. It hurts because the small things matter. They do. They matter. And there were certain times I wish I could be there for people and I wasn't. Every time I've looked at any big thing that affects me in my life, any kind of problem, any kind of issue I've had with my mentality, with myself physically. it was always the result of smaller things. It was always a buildup over time. It's not like my emotions and my thoughts eroded in one day. No, it was over time. And that has led me to believe that the small things matter. They actually matter a lot more than we think. The small decisions that we make every single day that we think are going to be inconsequential, that we think, well, whatever. No, they add up. And I wish it wasn't that way. And I wish that we could just wish it away. But there's a good chance that you have been doing small things to yourself every single day.
You don't even realize affect you now in the way that they do. And maybe some of them aren't even conscious. Maybe you have picked them up from a family member, a certain kind of role model. Or maybe you have just created them on your own, right, as a coping for something you didn't have or as trying to figure out and deal with an emotion that was rooted within you. But it doesn't change the fact that these small things, they matter. And there's a good chance that they have added up. And now they're pressing on you. Heavy. What do we do? Oh my goodness. Okay. The first thing we do is we have to acknowledge that there is a problem with the small things in our lives. That we have an issue. And maybe the issue is not actually the fact that we binge eat, that we are gaining weight from binge eating. In my case, that was a big thing. Or that we are choosing bad partners, which was also a thing I did a lot because we were trying to seek something out of them within ourselves. It's more about figuring out why you ended up there. What is the trigger of that?
Because the bullet is the action. But someone had to pull the trigger for the bullet to release out of the chamber. So what is it? What is the small thing? sometimes you don't really know you kind of just do it and then after a good while you look back and you're like oh right sometimes we're getting you know hints by the author early on in the book and we got to read a couple chapters for it to click and be like wait a minute this was happening all along it's easier said than done Because oftentimes when we catch ourselves in this kind of pattern, it is not comfortable because we realize that we messed up and we messed up big time. And then we look back at the domino effect of our past and we realize that, wow, everything in my past has led to this moment. And we have a decision. We have a huge decision because in the same way,
That all of those things in your past... And you might have a lot of them... Have affected you now. The small things matter. And every small thing going forward... Will affect your future. And you might feel like your past is oppressing you. And that you feel defined by it. But the good thing is... Is it's the past. And if the small things matter... If you catch on to it now... could actually rebuild it you could rebuild it into something you never imagined before it wasn't comprehensible because you did not know that you were doing something that was against your interest you had no idea you were oblivious to it you were naive and for a lot of us that's really what it is we're naive But for those of us who are lucky enough to catch ourselves as adults with our own issues, our own problems, and we're lucky enough to realize that it's not right because we see other people who deal with their emotions in a healthy way. They don't just rage quit at life and smash a Mountain Dew can against their head or bang a hole into the wall.
You know, they actually look back and be like, oh, I'm actually not upset at this little thing that happened in my day. I'm not upset that, you know, my shopping cart has four wheels and all four of them do not turn for some reason. I'm actually upset that I had a goal. I wanted to do something today and I didn't do it and everything fell apart. That's really what it comes down to.
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