why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
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Why do we feel the need to overachieve?
You don't need to be everybody's friend. You don't. Actually, I would urge you to really look around at the people that you befriend and ask yourself if you actually like them. Do you feel like you are willing to put in effort to be their friend? And would they reciprocate that effort? You don't need to be the most successful person in your grade. You don't have to be top of your class. You don't. Who's telling you that you need to? Your parents? Okay. Is that a motivation that's intrinsic? Is that something that you want? No. You want to be an artist? Cool. You don't need to be the top of your class. You don't need to be the best in some kind of comparison, in some kind of race. You just have to be you. And still, I struggle to realize that it's just okay to be me.
And oftentimes, as a compensation for that, I find myself doing too much. And that's when I lose my motivation. It's like I wake up in the morning, I don't want to do anything because I've piled so much onto my plate because I want to prove to everyone that I can do it, that I'm worthy of it. But the truth is, you're doing too much. You're doing too much to And maybe what you're doing too much of is you're putting these expectations that are just unrealistic. I know, I know, you want them to be true. And maybe if you were a robot, they would be true. But you're not. You're not a robot. You're a person. Maybe one day, you know, AI will be able to integrate with my body and I'll be like, calculating calculating yes i will be spending sixty dollars at chili's credit card inserted but until then no no you are a human being sorry that's the card that you were dealt you were born into this world and you are a human like all of us they not like us no they are very much like us
We're all very same in our patterns and in our sometimes ability to piss ourselves off because we had plans, because we had aspirations, we had things we wanted to do, and we let ourselves fall short. And I think that, you know, motivation is something that a lot of people talk about as this thing. Oh, you need to be productive. You need to be motivated all the time. And maybe you're in a position right now where you kind of feel like you don't have a lot of motivation to do anything. And you're kind of in this rot era, this rot phase of your life. And... I used to really hate that I used to hate when I couldn't like get out of bed or I just like didn't feel inclined to do anything I felt like something was really really wrong with me until I started to like realize that wait a minute no this is just my my mind and my body telling me I need a break You're doing too much. I need to relax. I need to watch something on YouTube.
I need to scroll a little bit. I need you to take me on a walk. I need you to read a book. I don't know what it is, but I just cannot do what you are asking me to do right now. And instead of getting angry at that, because I know that, that I have a certain standard and I want to reach that standard. I want to be right there. Instead, I've learned to be like, all right, respect. It's like top 10 respect moments in football, you know. It's always like the photoshopped messy, like, you know, doing that. So I respect, you know, myself and my mind and my body. And I go, okay, it's not happening right now. Motivation is, I think, something that is very achievable when you lower the amount of work that you feel like you need to do, when it feels easy. Now, don't get me wrong.
I think that there are a lot of things that you can do that are hard and they actually require you to put some brain power into it like studying for an exam or you have a certain project in mind that you want to create you have a certain design you want to bring to life you have a certain place you want to go travel to as this plane flies over my head right now you have to plan it out right all of that takes effort but but but but but but but but if you feel kind of this overwhelming mountain of resistance. Maybe you are doing too much. Maybe it's not for you. And I've learned that there are certain things I would much rather fight the resistance of on a daily basis than others, right? I'm not really somebody... who likes to go out a lot. I'm not somebody who's like, I need to be at this party. I need to go to this event. Oh my gosh, sign me up.
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