Stop Waiting For Them To Apologize (Do This Instead) | Discord Stage #058

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Unlearned Wisdom by Johnny Chang 1h 3m 2 speakers 7 chapters transcribed 2 months ago
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Shannon Maldonado 0:00
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Johnny Chang 0:28
Welcome back to another Discord stage. This is where I talk directly with my community. I tell personal stories, share deep biblical learnings, and I answer questions from the chat. These episodes are audio only, so thanks for listening. And you can join my Discord to catch the next Discord stage live. Link in the description. It is morning time here. So if you guys are anywhere else in the world, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome. You guys can ask your questions. I was reading the Bible today. Just kind of went through some things that were pretty interesting, actually, that I'll probably share a little bit later. But let me answer some of your questions. Johnny, I'm dealing with breakup right now and I don't share the same heart as my girlfriend.
Johnny Chang 1:08
It would generally start to drain me because I see myself as 100% evil person with zero expectations from her. She doesn't share the heart. She would have expectations from me and it would drain me. I feel broken. What do I do? I think we have to really think about do we really actually believe that we're 100% evil? So what a lot of people tend to confuse when they say things like I'm bending or I'm breaking my heart, bending and breaking your heart are different from you just letting something slide, right? So true bending and true breaking is no matter how many times you do this to me, like I'm not tripping.

How does Johnny introduce this Discord Stage and what is the episode's focus?

Johnny Chang 1:46
Does that make sense? So I would say when you say that you have zero expectations, if you had zero expectations and she didn't share the same heart and she had expectations of you, why would it drain you? Right. Okay. Let's say I have zero expectations of you. I don't care. But my only expectation is you don't have expectations of me either. Like that's an expectation. Right. So it's impossible is what I'm saying to say I'm 100% evil person with zero expectations. It's only possible if you're like, yeah, in front of God, I have zero expectations. Sure. And God will make me see that I'm evil. Yes. You know, express those hearts to her and be like, hey, I don't have a lot of expectations. I just feel drained.
Johnny Chang 2:28
And this is why I feel drained. But I would say that that is an expectation, expecting them not to drain you, which isn't wrong. It's manageable, but it needs to be communicated. And we have to err on that side. Right. So we just have to know ourselves accurately because then we can get into this victimized mode. Where we're going, man, I'm letting them do everything, man. All I expect them to do is be thankful for that. But that's an expectation. That's also not good if you let them do everything they want. It's not a good thing, right? Humans can have expectations. We're human, especially if they're not saved. That is why these things have to be communicated more than anything. Right. I just wanted to say thank you.
Johnny Chang 3:08
It's amazing how my spiritual life grew since stream. Amazing, amazing. The relationship with God that I never had. Cool.

How should I handle a draining breakup when my expectations differ from my partner's?

Johnny Chang 3:14
Can you talk about spiritual obesity, pastor? There's not really a such thing as spiritual obesity. More of just greed. So greed is at the root of all of that. You can be greedy spiritually too. Wanting only unlocks, let's say. Getting fat, I guess, off of the unlocks versus surrendering and bending your heart, breaking your heart and living spiritual life. So it just kind of, how do I say, it depends on... how you see it, but you know, gluttony, obesity, things of this nature, pies really into greed more than anything, right? The greed of life, the greed of food, the greed of money, the greed of women, which is lust. A lot of it is greediness at the end of the day. Okay, may you explain Revelations 1.7.
Johnny Chang 4:00
That's when he says that he comes in the clouds.

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