Alain De Botton
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1,037 appearances
5 recordings
5 series
first heard Jan 2024
last heard 1 Jul
Alain De Botton’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Sexual excitement is really psychological excitement.
It's like somebody has, in this lonely world, allowed me to enter their life.
And that is a thrilling prospect.
And I think a lot of things that we call, you know, blithely sexy are really exciting because they're an end to loneliness.
They symbolize an end to loneliness, a sense that somebody has accepted us.
That's the exciting thing.
And, you know, if somebody said, you know, if you, I don't know, touch, you know, my index finger in a certain way and that will be the token that I accept you, then that would become extremely thrilling and we all be sort of touching our index fingers.
So it's not the physical is the conduit of a certain kind of psychological acceptance, which is the really thrilling bit, I think.
Yes.
And then, of course, the tragic thing is that after a while, this person that you thought you would die if you didn't see, you know, is lying beside you naked.
You're both watching television.
Their body is no longer anything.
They're just, you know, just a presence there.
And you think, what's going on?
We are terribly spoiled.
And I think the great question is, how do we recover appreciation over time?
You know, this is a massive problem in relationships because, you know,
You know, we're not very good at holding on to a sense of appreciation of something that's always around.
You know, if you live in a beautiful city, after a few years, you forget that it even exists.
You fail to appreciate the people around you that are special, etc.
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