Alain De Botton
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
It'll go on long after you.
It's not about you.
And thank God it's not about you.
Of course.
I mean, this is the cult of what I call romanticism, which has been around for a few hundred years.
And it is like chocolate.
It is delicious.
It's irresistible.
And we all fall for it.
And, you know, the way that we love is very influenced by our societies.
I mean,
Society tells us to pay attention to certain emotions and to neglect others.
There's that lovely quote from La Rochefoucauld.
There are some people who would never have fallen in love if they hadn't heard there was such a thing.
And, of course, our society constantly tells us there is such a thing as love and it goes like this.
And we've got this kind of template of romantic love.
And it's all about finding an ideal soulmate.
When you find this soulmate, you will find that there is no more loneliness, no more room for confusion and error.
They will complete you.
You will become whole.