Bela Gandhi

No, what does he give to you that makes you happy in this relationship?

And so we look for the theme in their elevator people.

And then we show that to them.

What are your elevator people?

What are the themes?

And that is what I tell them.

We've been doing this for 17 years at Smart Dating Academy.

What I can tell you is what you need to be happy in a relationship, you already know.

You have your elevator people.

What we're going to do in the romantic world is preference people that have the same characteristics as your elevator people.

We're going to date them slowly.

We're going to see if the attraction builds.

And concurrently, we're going to make sure that there are no red flags.

So especially for women, right?

We talk about attraction usually meaning physical chemistry, right?

We feel all googly and butterfly-y.

But for women especially, there are different kinds of chemistry.

There's emotional chemistry.

There's intellectual chemistry.

Sometimes there's spiritual chemistry where you might not think somebody's attractive in the beginning, but suddenly one day he says something, he does something, and you're like,