Bela Gandhi

Human biology is rigged for reproduction.

It's not it's not set up to find long term committed love.

Right.

Family attachment patterns can make a big difference in that as well.

And then cultural messaging, the things that our culture says, there's a three-day rule, butterflies are good, right?

All of these things lead us to making decisions that

That aren't good for us.

So these three things, biology, attachment and cultural kind of phrases and metaphors can all lead us to dating people that have red flags over and over again.

It's like lather, rinse, repeat.

And that's what I see.

You know, I wish people thought that more.

Some people think, OK, finding love, if I go on a dating app, it should be like Amazon Prime.

And I'm going to tick off a bunch of boxes and then my partner is going to be drone shipped to me within 24 hours.

The thing with time is they believe that they don't have a lot of time left.

And that they've wasted a lot of time.

And I think so many people ultimately, like the fear in the gut is, I don't want to be alone.

I don't want to die alone.

And I don't have that much time to find somebody.

Exactly.

Yeah, people kind of feel like, oh my gosh, I don't want to put myself out there on an app, right?