Carly Ann

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3,395 appearances 19 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 10 Aug

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Lessons in Overthinking & Obsessing · Feeling Ignored? Stop Obsessing and Stay True to Yourself · 7 Jun 2026 podcast

Another point is that being ignored can feel like a kind of social pain. matched

This doesn't mean physical pain, but more that the emotional reaction that you have is a real pain. matched

It's automatic and it's hard to switch off. matched

It can hit quickly as well. matched

can just feel like it's suddenly there. matched

Before you've had time to think about it properly, before you've had time to sort of stand back, which is why even if you tell yourself it's fine, you might still feel in some kind of level of distress. matched

The book also notes that people usually react quite quickly when they feel ignored. matched

You might try to figure out what went wrong, look for reassurance, fall into that overthinking pattern. matched

And if someone experiences this a lot, it can start to build up over time. matched

Yeah, leading to feelings like loneliness, withdrawal, feeling disconnected from others. matched

So overall, the idea that being ignored hurts because it taps into our very basic human needs. matched

Yeah, feeling included, feeling noticed, connected to other people. matched

And actually, I probably should have put this as its own separate reason. matched

Because as I said earlier, if there are wounds matched

or core beliefs around abandonment or believing that everyone leaves me or not trusting people, that for sure is going to create a lot of pain when you feel ignored in the here and now in your present day. matched

And another one that I did add is that something I see personally is, in my practice that is, is that being ignored can be hard matched

if the situation is ambiguous or you have lots of unanswered questions, as I was saying in the beginning, we usually don't like uncertainty as people, as humans, and especially when it comes to relationships. matched

So that can make it quite painful as well. matched

If we, if we don't quite know where we stand or am I not going to get closure? matched

Why are they ignoring me? matched

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