Dr. Alok Kanojia

You know, if I put my arm around you, then how do you respond to that?

Do you get up and go to the bathroom or do you lean in?

So these are how human interactions actually happen.

There's a lot of back and forth.

Yeah, it's very tricky.

So I think what we're seeing in the dating world and I guess this is what we're talking about.

Maybe it's top of mind for me because I just –

did a bunch of content on it.

So what's interesting in the dating world is that now we're sort of adding the internet to the equation, right?

Which you sort of talked about.

So let's just understand a couple of things about the internet.

So the first is what the internet, in my opinion, this is sort of like a clinician's perspective, having read about 200 papers on various aspects of how the internet affects our brains and our psychology.

First thing to understand is that the internet selects for emotional activation.

It's not even dopamine, in my opinion.

So if you look at like internet, right?

So it's not just fun and games.

Actually, the most engaging content is emotionally engaging.

Arousal.

Arousal, absolutely.

Adrenaline.