Dr. Robert Waldinger

what am I seeing here that I've never noticed before?

And this was when Jennifer and I had been together for 20 years.

And it was such an interesting assignment because I had to like really look.

And I realized, actually, she's kind of changed her hair and I never noticed that.

And I just started being much more curious about, we were just having an ordinary dinner table conversation.

So I think when we lose curiosity, that's something that's possible to cultivate again with somebody who we take for granted.

Well, some people know.

Some people like predictability a lot.

They don't want any change.

You seem to be a person who likes... I love it.

Yeah, and for some people, that's the most terrifying thing, right?

Yes, absolutely.

I think a lot of it is the balance.

Like if you have a couple of toxic friends and you don't see them very often, probably not too bad, right?

But if you are surrounded by people who make you really agitated and

upset, unhappy.

That could be family.

It could be friends.

If that's what you're swimming in, then that's the recipe for breaking down your health.

But then how do you change it?