Grace Beverley

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5,597 appearances 28 recordings 6 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard 6d ago

Grace Beverley’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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Working Hard with Grace Beverley · How to "marry well" in 2026 (and stop dating the wrong people) · 26 Jul 2026 podcast

Some people just want a lower key version of a relationship that... voice-verified

operates at a certain level and that is so valid but I know that I'm not one of those people. voice-verified

High effort people need to be with high effort people because the mismatch in expectations in terms of what makes you feel special will make you both miserable in the long run. voice-verified

And since I spoke about this last, I actually looked more into the science behind it too, because that is what we like to do over here. voice-verified

American psychologist John Gottman's research found that couples who last are not the ones with the most chemistry at the start, which I think we know. voice-verified

They are the ones who show effort to each other in ordinary moments. voice-verified

And that requires matched investment and a mutual understanding of what going to an effort looks like. voice-verified

Number four is that I stopped going along with someone else's pace and started setting my own. voice-verified

So I think this was probably the most uncomfortable shift that I had to make when I was dating. voice-verified

In previous relationships, I had a habit of kind of slotting into whatever the other person seemed to want, moving at their speed, letting their level of enthusiasm set the temperature of the whole thing. voice-verified

And the problem with that is that you end up in a relationship that you didn't consciously choose. voice-verified

You just drifted into it because you kept saying yes. voice-verified

But setting your own pace means being an adult about what you are ready for and trying not to put yourself in situations that get ahead of where you actually are. voice-verified

It's basically about not letting attachment happen passively and then trying to manage the fallout. voice-verified

But instead of this, making conscious decisions about who you're investing in rather than waking up six months later more intertwined than you meant to be with someone who hasn't actually shown you that much or who... voice-verified

isn't someone you want to be in a long-term relationship with. voice-verified

It can happen both ways. voice-verified

And I think, yes, on one hand, it's sometimes awkward to be the one slowing things down. voice-verified

But I think that anyone worth keeping will respect your pace and also communicate what they want to do pace-wise as well. voice-verified

I also think this is really important on the other side. voice-verified

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