Grace Beverley

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5,597 appearances 28 recordings 6 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard 6d ago

Grace Beverley’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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Working Hard with Grace Beverley · How to "marry well" in 2026 (and stop dating the wrong people) · 26 Jul 2026 podcast

Number two, I stopped explaining my standards and just started holding them. voice-verified

This is a really important one for me and it links back to something Matthew Hussey said on our episode with him last year. voice-verified

I used to spend enormous energy trying to get people to understand why their behaviour wasn't okay for me. voice-verified

So writing long messages, having the same conversation for the fourth time, hoping that if I could just explain it clearly enough that I valued regular communication that something would shift. voice-verified

And I think I've realised that explaining to someone why their behaviour is a problem for me is a form of labour and it's also a form of hope. voice-verified

The shift I made here was actually letting my actions do the communicating instead. voice-verified

So not giving up my time at the last minute because I've made it very clear I'm not available at the last minute or desperately trying to change someone constantly over and over again. voice-verified

And I think the truth is that the people worth keeping always figure it out from your actions. voice-verified

because they are emotionally intelligent enough to learn and adapt and overcome and the ones who don't are also giving you the answer that they are not worth investing in anymore and I think we sometimes interpret that the other way we sometimes interpret that in terms of I'm not worth making plans with ahead of time or I'm not worth doing this no voice-verified

That person is not worth investing your time in anymore as it is very clear you have deep incompatibility around how you like to live your lives and that is not always going to be the case. voice-verified

Sometimes you have different views on something, you communicate it once or twice and it changes. voice-verified

When that doesn't happen and you are saying over and over, I can't do this, I don't put up with this, I don't put up with this and you are putting up with it, you're the one giving mixed signals because your actions are not aligning with what you say and it's clearly not changing. voice-verified

Number three is that I applied the effort match rule ruthlessly. voice-verified

I've spoken about this a few times now, but I think it is 100% worth repeating as it is my number one dating rule. voice-verified

I am by nature a high effort person. voice-verified

I put a lot into friendships, into work, into relationships, and I have been in situationships and relationships with people who were not. voice-verified

And I kept telling myself that the gap was something that I could bridge if I was patient enough or cool enough or less needy about it. voice-verified

Whereas what I eventually accepted is that a low effort person with a high effort person does not produce a medium effort relationship. voice-verified

It produces one person constantly feeling undervalued and one person constantly feeling like they can't do enough. voice-verified

And I'm not saying either type is wrong. voice-verified

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