Grace Beverley

anything about yourself and I think that that's really like the crux of it as you say like I love what you say about hanging out with people that like you because I think that a lot of people would listen to this and be like oh okay yeah no that's one person who actually like does not make me feel good about myself because like I feel like I'm always on the back foot and it makes me feel uncool or like weird or like

too much this or too much that.

And I think like that is really the difference.

It's like surround yourself with people who think about you the way you want to think about yourself and then make that happen.

Like over and over and over again, teach yourself what you like about yourself.

do more work on myself I won't get it anymore but I also won't judge other people yeah surviving within the rules of the patriarchy but it's exactly this that also makes us like reject everything when you can't fit into the perfect box like as in you hear that all the time it's like oh I thought you were a feminist but you did this I thought you were this and you did this and it's like we are all going to be flawed and we are all going to have flawed approaches to things

Knowing how you feel and knowing that maybe there's a little bit of cognitive dissonance in the way that you, I don't know, as you've said, get Botox, do this, do that.

Like, yeah, fine.

Like those things can all coexist.

And I think, again, it's another method of shame for lack of perfection.

And realistically, like you don't need to be a perfect anything.

We need lots of people being better versions of.

yeah I think that maybe that one's a better one than the like that you wouldn't want to trade lives with because I think that like you can have lots of advice from amazing people that they don't share the same dreams as you but it's like that mutual respect and kind of liking a person that that should make you want to take their advice I totally agree

Yeah.

I love that.

Well, thank you so much.

You've been fantastic.

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