Jillian Turecki
speaker
1,450 appearances
11 recordings
9 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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Was mir auf den Kopf kommt, ist wahrscheinlich der erste, weil es der Titel des Buches ist. Es beginnt mit dir.
Weil die Leute sofort denken, dann ist es meine Furcht. Und wir, die Leute streicheln обычно diese Linie zwischen dem Blamen der anderen oder dem Hyperblamen von sich selbst. Und so kann die Verantwortung entweder einen Perfektionisten verändern, kann sie in einen Wurmhaufen nehmen oder die Person, die jemanden verurteilt, sie wollen keine Verantwortung nehmen. It begins with you.
It just means that you are the change that you wish to see in your love life.
It is the greatest lesson. It is the greatest lesson. And I think one of the most profound lessons I learned from heartbreak is just because someone's part in your story has ended, it does not mean your story has ended. You have a whole other story to continue in your life.
And one of the hardest lessons that we will ever face as human beings is learning to accept when someone's part in our story is over. We don't like to let go. We like to hold on. And nothing lasts. So even if you stay in a relationship for decades, you're going to have to mourn, grieve, People that they used to be. Because we were always evolving and changing.
So even if it's the same relationship, you're going to have to let go over and over again.
Absolut. Und ich sage immer, dass Beziehungen selten enden, weil sie nicht lieb sind. Sie enden mehr oft, weil die Menschen nicht verbunden sind. Und sie sagen, ich liebe diese Person. Es geht nicht um Liebe, aber ich fühle die Verbindung nicht. Ich fühle mich nicht gesehen. Ich fühle mich nicht verstanden. Ich fühle mich nicht gehört.
Und wenn du in einer Beziehung bist, muss unsere Priorität sein, wie kann ich in den kleinen kleinen Wegen jeden Tag, wie kann ich eine Brücke zu dieser Person schaffen?
A lot of women, and men again will do this too, but a lot more women will silence what their needs are. Let me try to be cool. Let me go with the flow. Let me be a pleaser. Let me be a nurturer. Because everything is like, I want you to choose me. I want you to pursue me. I want to be like that fairy tale. And nothing could be further from the truth of what reality is.
And that is, you have to be the one who is direct and forward about what it is that you want. You are to be the one who is also choosing. And you are going to become much more attractive to many more people when you actually assume that role.
Oh, thank you so much for having me.
I think I just really understand the mind of people and a lot of women, especially who are really great people, but
struggle in relationships i think i just understand that psychology because i've been that person before so maybe that's it and i think i just i draw a lot from my own experience as well as my professional experience and i just try to really just say the truth so maybe that is it i don't know
Yeah. So, I mean, I grew up, my parents were immigrants. My father originally from Poland, my mom originally from South Africa, but then they met in South Africa and my parents had a terrible marriage. My father at the time was undiagnosed bipolar disorder. He was extremely narcissistic, but extremely intelligent to the point of a genius and very good at what he does.
And my mom was this young South African model who had a baby when she was really young with another guy. And you know here she found this man who was my father who was like this jewish doctor and so that's what you were supposed to do was get married to the person who was good on paper and i don't think that they were ever really in love i don't think she was ever really in love with him and
They definitely did not have any relationship skills. And there was a lot of emotional abuse and a little bit of violence and a lot of codependency. And, you know, my father also struggled. This was when I was young with addiction, but mostly like self-prescribed stuff. And so I grew up in a very, very tense household between two people with two parents who did not get along.
And there was just a lot of toxicity. So I was not modeled healthy relationships. And my father was a very complicated man. And I was born into a very sensitive constitution. I was just very sensitive. And so... he scared me.
He never physically abused me in any way, shape or form, but he was highly manipulative and there were some emotional, I guess you would call it abuse, but I found him to be very, very scary. So I grew up terrified of him and very attached to my mom. And so that created some dynamics, you know, for me later in life. And, you know, I was the child of
And I grew up with siblings, but I was the child where when my parents announced that they were separating, I felt this tremendous weight off my shoulders. I thought, thank God he's leaving. A big part of my life has been understanding how my relationship with him and also my relationship with my mom, my relationship with my childhood has impacted my life. specifically romantic relationships.
And I've actually had some beautiful romantic relationships. So I don't want to misrepresent myself saying that like every relationship I've ever had has been hard. I've actually had good ones, but I think that that's also what's so nuanced about the conversation relationships. You can go through a stage of life where you have a great relationship and then you're later in life
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