Julie Smith

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149 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 28 Jun

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Great Company with Jamie Laing · DR JULE: The Relationship Advice You NEED to Hear | GREAT MOMENTS · 28 Jun 2026 podcast

So part of this is you learn how to deal with relationships early in life based upon the people you're in relationships with as a child.

Yeah.

that becomes your template that you then take into adulthood.

And so when something happens that feels familiar in your mind, so your brain is constantly taking information from the outside world, but it's not only taking that information, it's trying to make meaning out of it.

And so to do that, it will take memories from the past, past experiences when you have felt similar and

So let's say as a child, you were always criticized for academic imperfections or something like that.

And then as an adult, you're sat there with your wife and you're doing your accounts or something and you make a mistake and she mocks you for doing it.

Then it will trigger that really painful feelings that you had as a child of kind of just never being good enough.

And so your reaction, even though it might have been a little, you know, she probably thought this is just a bit of banter, just, you know, he might even laugh at the reaction.

It might trigger such an emotional response because your brain has made meaning that perhaps isn't in this situation, but it feels like something that felt that happened back then.

So you'll have this big emotional reaction and she'll go, what happened there?

Why did that push a button?

She didn't see it coming because your brain is making meaning of it based on past experiences that you've had that felt similar.

So you've got, yeah, you've got a series of kind of templates for all your experiences as a child.

You're absorbing all that and you're learning, okay, when this happens, do that.

And that leads to that outcome.

Or, you know, you're learning how to survive relationships as a child who has no control over them, but desperately needs them to survive.

So...

You develop kind of survival strategies in complex and difficult relationships as a child.

And then those templates carry on into adulthood.

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