Kasley Killam

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637 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 7 May

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The Mel Robbins Podcast · It's Not Just You: The Reality of Adult Friendship Right Now · 7 May 2026 podcast

This is incredibly common.

So let me share two studies that will totally dispel this for people.

So in the first study, researchers paired up two strangers.

They had a conversation for a few minutes and then they separated the strangers and they asked them individually, how much did you like that person and how much do you think that person liked you?

And then they compared the results.

What they found is that people consistently underestimate how much the other person likes them.

They also had an external person who watched the conversations and rated how much each other liked them.

And they got it right.

So what this means is that when we are in an interaction, we're thinking the other person doesn't like us as much as they actually do.

When even to an outside person, it's obvious that we are hitting it off.

So this is a case in point of our own beliefs, our own social anxiety, our own insecurities getting in the way of actually having a meaningful connection.

So that's the first study.

The second is a study where they had people send notes of appreciation and kind notes, just friendly notes to people they know.

It could have been a close loved one.

It could have been a casual acquaintance.

Yep.

Send a text saying, I'm thinking about you.

Send an email saying, I know you're going through a hard time.

Just wanted to let you know I'm there for you.

Again, what they found is that people consistently underestimated how much that person would appreciate hearing from them.

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