Logan Urie
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first heard Dec 2024
last heard 16 Feb
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Another trick that I really tell people to do a lot is to ask for advice. It's not about creating a power imbalance. It's just that such a huge part of my life is asking my husband for advice and vice versa. And I love his advice because I really trust him. I think he's so smart. I think he has a good way of looking at the world. And I think he has my best interests at heart.
So if you're on a date, it doesn't have to be something deep. You can just say, Having this problem with my manager, you know, he's giving me this. I really think I should do this. What do you think I should do? Are they able?
See how they think. Can they listen? Can they empathize? Can they take a situation that they haven't been a part of, put themselves in it and give you advice? And look, a lot of people can't do that. And maybe that doesn't matter to everyone, but your partner is part of your life board of directors and you better be able to trust them.
I love this question because I feel like it's a chance to really empower him and to talk about what's in his control. So the things that are in his control are having a great profile. We started talking about this before, but you want to do those particular things in your profile. The clear shot of what you look like, having a picture of you doing something you love, one with friends and family.
Yeah. and a clear body shot. And then for your prompt responses on Hinge, so the icebreakers you respond to, you really want to tell a story. So show your vulnerability, but also show your silly side and think about it as what are the parts of me that I want to share with someone else to paint a picture of what my life is like.
So having a great profile is the first thing that you can do to really stand out, to get better matches, to have the people who you like, like you back.
Because it feels like that's part of his frustration. The other thing is sort of training the algorithm on what you like. So being proactive, messaging people, sending comments instead of likes. For people who aren't getting a lot of matches, that's one of the biggest changes that you can make is you can stand out by writing a really great comment.
actually scroll down farther in their profile, find something that fewer people are commenting on and spend that extra minute doing that writing exercise of sending a comment that's gonna help you stand out. I think so many people think that they're dating because they're just checking the boxes. I have a profile. I'm on hinge. I'm liking people. I'm liking people.
It's like, well, you aren't getting anywhere. So why don't you do something a little different or put in effort in the right places? And then you're going to get a different result. And so I think that I totally hear this person's frustration around dating apps cost money.
But I also, if he were here, would want to ask him, are you doing all the right things both online and offline to set yourself up for success?
Really great question. And she sounds really nice. I'm glad she's your best friend.
You are so fabulous. I feel like that's an interesting part of the work that I do is that kind of anywhere I go, people pull me aside and be like, my sister's so amazing. Can you help her? It's like, we all know some really amazing single people. And we just have this question of why are they still single? Yes. Is that an appropriate question to have?
Because you're freaking fantastic. I know. I think about that a lot. And when I coach people, I'm only meeting them and I'm only hearing their side of the story. So their homework assignment before they meet with me is that they ask their friends and family, why do you think I'm single? And then they come to their coaching session and tell me what they say. And what do you often hear?
You're too picky. You aren't putting yourself out there. You have unrealistic expectations. And then there's kind of the softy friends who are like, you're great. There's nothing wrong with you. I'm like, well, you're paying me for a reason. So let's talk about what's going on.
for that person or the hardest feedback to give somebody because I don't think I don't know about the too picky I don't know about yeah like those things like is there I think it's something like it really hurts me that I can sit I feel like you consistently are choosing people that are not good for you and I don't know what to do to make you value yourself more or take yourself more seriously but you need to run away from red flags that you are just not paying attention to
There's honestly a lot of different stories that people have. Like on the show, there's multiple people where I really had to coach them on being more vulnerable. Our vulnerability is what makes us human and what makes people feel like they can connect with us. But so often it's what people think makes them undateable.
And so about a year ago, I sent out this email that says, do you think you're undateable? And what do you think makes you undateable? And I got the most responses that I've ever gotten to any email where people are like, I'm undateable because I have an STI. I'm undateable because my partner in their 20s committed suicide. I'm undateable because I've never been in a relationship.
I'm undateable because I've been in too many relationships. Mm-hmm. And then I worked with them on how to kind of own this thing. And so it's going on a date and having a narrative down where you say, this thing happened to me. It was really challenging. Here's what I did about it. You have a narrative that helps you own your story. Do I have to have that for your first date?
No, I don't think you have to talk about this on a first date, but people aren't even going on the first date because they're so worried about the moment it comes up. Oh. And I want them to be going on the date and be ready if it comes up. So there's a person on the show who was disabled as a veteran, and there's a lot of stuff he can't do.
And he isn't saying yes to any women who are athletic because, oh, well, when they want to go on a jog with me, I can't go on a jog with them. I'm like, you're an amazing guy. People would love to go on a date with you. They can go jog alone. They can jog with their friends.
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