Nicole Jaques

It's difficult.

And I think that that's something we struggle with.

Both parents are going to struggle with.

So I basically decided with my husband, Tyler, that we were going to stop trying to escape being the default parent and just professionalize it.

Because it's really what it is, right?

You're the organizer of all of the systems, the timekeeper, the mealkeeper.

There's a funny reel that circulates every now and then.

And it's typically a woman standing there in the house.

And it's like, you know, Johnny has a game at 7 p.m.

And it shows her calculating all the way back to like 11 a.m.

All the things she's going to do to get him there by 7 p.m.

So I started telling my husband, I need your brain to work like that.

how can I help you help me, right?

Because I think commonly with default parenting, we forget that it's not that you need their help.

I hate that.

I think any listener can understand, oh, can you help me with the dishes?

I'm sorry, everyone ate off the dishes, Sean.

Right.

Everyone ate off their plates.

Right.