Nicole LePera, Ph.D.
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first heard Mar 2026
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Can I come back to safety?
Can I regroup after a dysregulated moment?
So after a parent, right, kind of reacts or overreacts, screams and yells or, right, kind of gives a silent treatment, needs a moment, all of which we might not want to do in the moment or break the habit of,
The question isn't so much as, oh, well, what is the damage now that that happened?
Because the damage can actually be mitigated if that parent comes back to the child to reconnect later, because that's what true resilience is.
None of us are ever going to be able to create or manufacture a world where we feel safe all of the time.
So the question really becomes, A, can I identify when I feel unsafe?
And B, do I have the support?
Do I know how to calm myself down?
And or...
Can I make myself vulnerable, reach out and then receive the support I need from someone else?
Whether, again, in childhood, it originates with our parents or our core caregivers.
And then, of course, into adulthood, it extends outward to our closest partnerships, etc.
Well, some of us might have that reaction out of protection, right?
Done could feel safer if we didn't have someone model.
And I'm speaking from my own experience who had a model mother who could not reconnect, who would give the silent treatment for sometimes days, sometimes months.
And then seemingly life would just go back to normal.
And there was never that conversation.
So I'll be the first to admit that.
I do have that I'm done kind of narrative where if conflict gets too great, I feel safer just to say, well, I'm not going to let you hurt me again.
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