Nicole LePera, Ph.D.
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first heard Mar 2026
last heard 29 Mar
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I'm just going to leave before the next time that you hurt me.
So even if we have the I'm done's happening in our head, I do want to acknowledge that some of us that grew out of protection, because why am I going to put myself back in a situation where I could be rejected or abandoned again or what feels to be rejected or abandoned?
And I want to emphasize that take ownership piece because there's such wisdom in that.
Because without kind of coming back and a parent acknowledging, hey, this had nothing to do with you.
Right.
I had a bad day at work.
I'm overstressed.
Like your reaction.
I know I overreacted.
I might have said it.
Right.
It was because you left your toys on the floor.
Right.
I want you to hear right now.
It has nothing to do with who you are or the goodness of you as a person.
And I'm emphasizing that.
Because a child's mind, just like our mind, is always seeking to understand the world around us.
And developmentally, when we're in those kind of first several years of immaturity, we don't have the ability as we gain in adulthood, most of us at least, right, to zoom out, to understand all of the different factors that contribute to why mom or dad might explode or disconnect from us that have nothing to do with us because never is it about us per se.
When we are in that mode or development, which is known as the egocentric stage, we make everything that happens in our world because of us and about us.
So a child developing brain will see moments of explosion or disconnection and will assign a meaning of, oh, well, that happened.
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