Paul Eastwick
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1,562 appearances
7 recordings
3 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 24 May
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And I think what it was missing all along was this more attachment, bonding-focused perspective.
So when I went to school to study this stuff, I said, I want to use the evolutionary lens, but I think we're actually missing the core of what a relationship is.
Yeah, you know...
They're fun.
Those are nice things that people should do.
If you like getting gifts from your partner, you should tell them that you like that.
The reality is...
like when we look at the data there's no real matching component here in other words people feel happier in their relationships if their partners are often trying to spend quality time with them and telling them that they love them these are good things to do but like the idea like oh my love language is x like it's not really true but i'll carve out one exception which is this
I'm a big believer in the idiosyncrasy of close relationships, that no two relationships are the same, and that people craft relationships to be a certain way.
And so in that context, I tend to think, well, maybe I don't have a love language.
I, Paul, it's not like I'm gonna be especially happy in relationships with women who wanna spend quality time with me and miserable if they don't.
That's not how it works.
But in this relationship, might I develop a love language with my partner that I would not expect or want to generalize to some other relationship?
It's bound to this relationship.
Is that the case?
Absolutely.
I mean, we do research on like people's in jokes.
in their relationships and we tell them we're like oh tell us you know some words and phrases that you use in your relationship and they tell us goofy things like surfing on a shrimp sandwich i don't know what that means but to them it has real genuine meaning that makes them happier that's great so if that's their love language you know shrimp sandwiches i you know i couldn't be happier for them so so my favorite love language is my favorite love language is invent your own
in the context of your relationship.
That's the way to do it.
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