Phil Barden
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard 26 May
Phil Barden’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Because, yeah, I'm sure people will want to be ordering that.
You don't just act one time and think, okay, now I'm bold. I wasn't born this way, but I did notice when I actually got certain wins. It wasn't because I was the smartest or the prettiest. It was because I actually just asked the question.
Thank you for having me. This is exciting.
Absolutely. And there lies the problem, right? Because we are scared of failure and we have so much self-doubt. It's human nature, right? It's human nature to have these feelings, but it's about acting even when, even when you feel that way. Because the truth of the matter is something in motion stays in motion. Something stagnant stays stagnant.
That's why there's also that saying, when you're busy, when you want something done, give it to a busy person because inertia happens, momentum. So even if you have that self-doubt, even if you fear that failure, still... act. Because you can't just go from A to Z and just be like, well, just be bold. It doesn't work that way.
But if you get good at asking for the little things in life, you can get better at asking for the big things in life. So you start with these small, little, bold moves that accumulate and compound over time. And I also believe that you need to become immune to to failure. And the only way to get desensitized and immune to failure and rejection is by doing something over and over again.
And that's why I have the 10% target. And the 10% target is based around making 10 attempts at anything you want most in life. And even if you don't get to that goal, even if you don't get to that goal, another opportunity will present itself that you didn't even know existed by just going through the process.
So let's say you love sports and you want to work for a sports team. Then start working with that realm and make 10 attempts. Look at the people that are in your life. See who in your life is working for a sports team. Or email someone. Go on LinkedIn and see who's... the manager or the director of a certain division, right? But make these 10 attempts.
So put the onus and ownership of your life in your hands and have some control over your destiny. And so this is what the message that I'm trying to really kind of get out to people is that you have to take agency and you can self-actualize and be whatever you really want to be, but you need to make that first step. And the first step is always the hardest.
But if you stay on path and put yourself in that situation to win, you'll be so surprised of what happens. Because the reality is most people don't even make one attempt. Almost nobody makes two attempts. So if you're somebody who makes 10 attempts just on pure volume or just on pure just numbers, you're going to have a shot. And you have to have that idea in your head that why not me? Why not me?
If it can happen to that person, why can't it happen to me?
And that's true. A lot of people do feel that way. They feel that you need to be born bold. And if you're not born bold, then, you know, I'm out of luck. And the reality is that we can actually become more bold because boldness is a skill like anything else.
That's true. That happens all the time. And that's why a lot of times naivety is a strength, right? Because the less we know, the more bold that we can be. Because remember when you were a kid, you didn't know any better. So you just did, you acted, you moved, you did things. And then, you know, you kind of learn from things that happened to you, correct? Yeah.
and then what happens as we get older we get much more timid in attempting or making that bold move because we have too much experience we're too seasoned so if we can go back to that idea and that ideology of naivete when you actually did a lot of things when you didn't know better that's that's when things actually happen right
That's a good question. And the truth is you said the word right there in the question, which was risk. There's a difference between being bold and taking a risk. Bold and risk are different.
When I think about boldness, I think about it being a calculated risk, like knowing, doing something that's safe, that you know that you're, that I'm not telling, my message in being bold is not, if you have a family of four, don't quit your job and just go for the gusto like that. I'm saying be calculated in what your attempt is.
And that to me is the main distinction between just being risky for the sake of risky and being bold for the life that you want. Because it's a lot of times, it doesn't even have to be these big, vast things that you're being bold for. It could be small things also, right?
It could be things like maybe calling your credit card company or your self-service provider and seeing if there's a better deal on the table than what you're doing. It's about going to a restaurant and maybe sometimes asking for the sauce on the side. It's about asking for what you want in lots of different scenarios and a lot of different areas, right?
It's not about just taking these big, bold risks that are dangerous. It's about just tailoring your life in a way that you're taking the onus and ownership on what you are given versus just having and taking what's good enough.
That's very true. You're right. And so there's a connotation a lot of times with boldness that it can be aggressive or too assertive. But in life, it's not so much what you say, it's how you say it. You can be bold, but also be kind and nice and respectful, right? And so there's that element that it's extremely important.
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