Roxane Gay

my generation in particular that it's great to have kids if you want them it is your choice and you should wait until you feel prepared to do so in every way that you need to be prepared and so what happened was that a lot of women really took that message to heart and a lot of us didn't start families until we were in our 40s at which time you probably can only have one or two children

And frankly, why would you want more than that?

Personally, again, if you want to have five children, bless you.

Good for you.

That's a sports team, but okay.

And so it is interesting to see the way that now they're trying to create a moral panic because it was a moral panic that teenagers were having sex and having babies 20 years ago and 15 years ago.

So it makes it clear that moral panics are not really about morality.

They're about people in power who are making arbitrary decisions that frankly don't affect them because most of the people who are panicking about these things are incredibly old and

And cannot carry children because they don't have uteruses.

And so I don't listen to them at all.

Neither do I. What on earth would someone like that have to say to me?

It's...

Absolutely ludicrous.

They're horny.

I think we have to be super, super clear about what we're talking about.

There is a subset of men who cannot get laid.

And the primary reason they cannot get laid is personal grooming.

It's not even about looks because women have tender hearts and will have sex with any man who makes them laugh.

and so they don't have personalities no they're not necessarily groomed they want to bring a woman back to a house with a mattress that doesn't even have a fitted sheet and maybe a crate as an end table with nothing in the refrigerator one towel and no toilet paper

And they go, why does no one want to fuck me?