Stephan Speaks

Absolutely, man. Always my pleasure.

Absolutely, man. Always my pleasure.

I think one of the biggest issues we have in this world right now is we are refusing to accept the differences between the average man and the average woman. Now, I say the average man, average woman because I understand there are exceptions to every rule, nothing applies 100%. However, we have very distinct differences that if we reject we're going to have conflict in relationships.

I think one of the biggest issues we have in this world right now is we are refusing to accept the differences between the average man and the average woman. Now, I say the average man, average woman because I understand there are exceptions to every rule, nothing applies 100%. However, we have very distinct differences that if we reject we're going to have conflict in relationships.

So, one that comes to mind and I don't know, this is one I was recently talking about There's this push that people want to say women want sex as much as men, right? They want it just as much. That's an absolute lie, okay. As far as I'm concerned that's simply not true. Now, I once was at a conference... Well, not a conference. I was once flown into a...

So, one that comes to mind and I don't know, this is one I was recently talking about There's this push that people want to say women want sex as much as men, right? They want it just as much. That's an absolute lie, okay. As far as I'm concerned that's simply not true. Now, I once was at a conference... Well, not a conference. I was once flown into a...

it was one of those dating sites they had they brought a few experts in they had this presentation and there was a scientist who brought out this study that showed that quote unquote women want sex as much as men. And I told her I said I think there's something wrong here. I think what the study is doing is conflating intimacy with sex. And the reality is that women want intimacy, okay.

it was one of those dating sites they had they brought a few experts in they had this presentation and there was a scientist who brought out this study that showed that quote unquote women want sex as much as men. And I told her I said I think there's something wrong here. I think what the study is doing is conflating intimacy with sex. And the reality is that women want intimacy, okay.

I always say if you had door number one, door number two. Door number one is just straight sex. Door number two is hugs, kisses, intimacy, all that. The majority of women are choosing door number two, the majority of men are choosing door number one.

I always say if you had door number one, door number two. Door number one is just straight sex. Door number two is hugs, kisses, intimacy, all that. The majority of women are choosing door number two, the majority of men are choosing door number one.

The reason why this is so important to accept and this is just one example of the built-in differences of who we are that we've got to learn to just accept it. Is because now if a man gets with a woman being told we are the same, we want sex the same way, he does not understand how to speak to her in a way that makes her sexually receptive to him.

The reason why this is so important to accept and this is just one example of the built-in differences of who we are that we've got to learn to just accept it. Is because now if a man gets with a woman being told we are the same, we want sex the same way, he does not understand how to speak to her in a way that makes her sexually receptive to him.

He thinks oh, if we just like sex we like sex if you're horny you're horny that's it and the story. And no, for the majority of women there is a mental and emotional component you have to be aware of. If she is in the wrong place, if she's overly stressed, if she's overwhelmed this can take away all her desire or willingness to engage sexually.

He thinks oh, if we just like sex we like sex if you're horny you're horny that's it and the story. And no, for the majority of women there is a mental and emotional component you have to be aware of. If she is in the wrong place, if she's overly stressed, if she's overwhelmed this can take away all her desire or willingness to engage sexually.

So, by feeding this narrative that we are the same in all these ways we are not allowing ourselves to learn the differences, respect the differences and speak to those differences which will then allow us to have more harmony in relationships.

So, by feeding this narrative that we are the same in all these ways we are not allowing ourselves to learn the differences, respect the differences and speak to those differences which will then allow us to have more harmony in relationships.

And I feel that if we could do that and really respect the other genders position on things and of course, you don't go in just assuming all these generalized things apply to each person. but they can be your basic foundation and then you learn that individual and understand okay, well with her maybe she does want sex more than I do, right.

And I feel that if we could do that and really respect the other genders position on things and of course, you don't go in just assuming all these generalized things apply to each person. but they can be your basic foundation and then you learn that individual and understand okay, well with her maybe she does want sex more than I do, right.

Or with this one maybe she wants a little bit more of this. You are open and you are flexible but I think if people took that approach they would have better dating experiences, better relationships, much better marriages, all right.

Or with this one maybe she wants a little bit more of this. You are open and you are flexible but I think if people took that approach they would have better dating experiences, better relationships, much better marriages, all right.