Stephan Speaks
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257 appearances
3 recordings
2 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard May 2025
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And then it's being solidified by some of your own personal experiences but you may not realize what's contributing to those experiences even coming about.
Exactly. And I think what we're not realizing as a society is that The reality is there we base our perceptions of the opposite sex on what I call the desirables, all right. That top 20% of men or women who get the most attention, who have the most opportunities. And it kind of goes back to that belief of how great power can corrupt, all right.
So, even the good nice guy if he now becomes a man who has all kinds of beautiful women coming after him, he has all this access. Not all but there are many who will start to fall into behaviors that they wouldn't have before. Who will start to become more of a womanizer, who will start to enjoy all this access that they have, right.
And the reality is that when we hear these stories this is not a story of the average man who just wants a relationship, looking for love, is genuine, maybe he doesn't get all the attention, maybe he's not the most desirable guy, but he's a good guy. but that's not where we're going to put our attention.
And it's the same thing with women when you hear men on the internet say women just want money, women just want money. Now, granted women value financial stability in men most, okay. And I think that most men should strive from some level of stability. However, there are tons of women dating broke men, all right.
There are tons of women who that is not their number one priority, it's a desire but they want to be loved, they want quality time, they want these other things. But again, if it's not being said by the audience that the men fixate so much on, they don't hear those voices.
They just focus on the women who again, and I'm using the word desirables not because I'm determining what's desirable, I'm just laying out the people who get the most attention, who tend to get more attention for whatever reason right or wrong that's what happens in life. And so, we got to realize that they do not represent the majority.
And we have to ask ourselves sometimes are we focusing too much on the wrong group of people when we're trying to come to an understanding of the opposite sex.
Thank you. Thank you.
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It has everything to do with him trying to navigate this situation because of what he's either been advised or been through or whatever. So, that's why the key is if that same woman says to him listen, I'm not hearing from you as much as I want to. If you're going to date me I need to have constant you know, consistent communication we need to talk every single day.
Now, if he's really serious about her he'll call her every day. You give him the green light he's going to do it, you see. And if he's not serious about her then he will probably come up with excuses he'll dance around it whatever the case may be. But now you can run with that statement because it's been made clear to him.
But there's so many underlying things going on and so many reasons especially when you consider the advice being given on the internet nowadays, all right. Like there is literally advice that tells people ignore someone if you want them more or want them to want you more, okay.
Like literally when you understand what people are being fed then you start to realize it's not as simple as if they want to they would. No, talk to them first.
And then I always say the way to determine how serious someone is about you is not in seeing what they do on their own is seeing how they handle your expression of concerns and feelings, all right.
That's what's going to show you how not just how serious they are about you but how mature They are and they're emotionally ready to be in a relationship because someone who cannot hear you out is not ready for a real relationship, all right. But if they can sit, talk to you, listen, not dismiss and now make positive changes, all right, then it's all good.
It is. But this is the unfortunate, harsh reality. because that portion is so small and because we overlook those types of issues, well, that's why we have so much unhealthy relationships. That's why we have such a high divorce rate. And I always tell people, people love to harbor on the divorce rate as an argument not to get married.
And I'm like, hold up, if we could quantify the breakup rate, it would probably make the divorce rate look like child's play, all right. People break up way more and so much trauma, so much hurt So, the reality is that yes, if we took this approach that said someone needs to be emotionally mature before we can enter in a relationship with them, relationships will plummet.
There will be a lot less relationships. However, two things would happen from that. There would be more healthy relationships and people would start to realize this is an unacceptable trait that they're carrying with them.
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