Stephan Speaks

Because I can't tell you how many times I've spoken to a husband and I was like listen, emotionally, mentally she's not in the right place and he's like that sounds stupid. That doesn't make any sense, exactly. And because and I have to say to the women some of them create this dynamic where when they're dating she doesn't talk about those things being important to her.

Because I can't tell you how many times I've spoken to a husband and I was like listen, emotionally, mentally she's not in the right place and he's like that sounds stupid. That doesn't make any sense, exactly. And because and I have to say to the women some of them create this dynamic where when they're dating she doesn't talk about those things being important to her.

She kind of plays along with the all right she just wants sex that much and she's just ready to go at it with him. So, he never learns and understands no, she needs more than that.

She kind of plays along with the all right she just wants sex that much and she's just ready to go at it with him. So, he never learns and understands no, she needs more than that.

All right, so we can... Again, there's so many different examples I could give but I do think one of the key things to people not just meeting the... And I'll say... I'll get to that in a second but one of the key things to meeting the right person is just respecting the differences of men and women.

All right, so we can... Again, there's so many different examples I could give but I do think one of the key things to people not just meeting the... And I'll say... I'll get to that in a second but one of the key things to meeting the right person is just respecting the differences of men and women.

Now, piggybacking off of that the second thing is I think people are not having success in dating because people are not accepting who they are first, all right. Now, a lot of people may say you have to learn who you are, you have to figure it out. I think a lot of life is accepting who we are.

Now, piggybacking off of that the second thing is I think people are not having success in dating because people are not accepting who they are first, all right. Now, a lot of people may say you have to learn who you are, you have to figure it out. I think a lot of life is accepting who we are.

There are things about us we know, but society makes us feel shamed about it, tells us there's something wrong with this, you know. And so, now we run away from certain realities of who we are. One example I'll give for myself, I'm extremely ambitious, maybe too ambitious. I don't know if there's a such thing, but I'm very, very ambitious.

There are things about us we know, but society makes us feel shamed about it, tells us there's something wrong with this, you know. And so, now we run away from certain realities of who we are. One example I'll give for myself, I'm extremely ambitious, maybe too ambitious. I don't know if there's a such thing, but I'm very, very ambitious.

And for me, I'm always striving for the next, I got to do more, I got to do more, I got to conquer the next thing. But for a long time I was told this was bad. Oh, you need to just enjoy the moment, celebrate it, stop worrying about the next thing, all these things. And I remember I took a month where I said okay, you know what, I'm not going to pursue anything else.

And for me, I'm always striving for the next, I got to do more, I got to do more, I got to conquer the next thing. But for a long time I was told this was bad. Oh, you need to just enjoy the moment, celebrate it, stop worrying about the next thing, all these things. And I remember I took a month where I said okay, you know what, I'm not going to pursue anything else.

I'm just going to rest in what I have, be happy with it. and it was one of my most depressed months ever in my life, all right. I felt like a neutered dog like it was like you took all the fire out of me and when I finally got to a place of accepting okay, this is who I am and I'm wired this way for a reason. God created me this way because there's a purpose for me to carry out.

I'm just going to rest in what I have, be happy with it. and it was one of my most depressed months ever in my life, all right. I felt like a neutered dog like it was like you took all the fire out of me and when I finally got to a place of accepting okay, this is who I am and I'm wired this way for a reason. God created me this way because there's a purpose for me to carry out.

how that then opens up the dating or how that creates better dating experiences that now by me knowing this part of me and accepting it I understand I can only choose someone who aligns with that. Yes. You see, but if I'm sitting here trying to be something I'm not then I'm picking these people who don't truly fit me and I don't fit them.

how that then opens up the dating or how that creates better dating experiences that now by me knowing this part of me and accepting it I understand I can only choose someone who aligns with that. Yes. You see, but if I'm sitting here trying to be something I'm not then I'm picking these people who don't truly fit me and I don't fit them.

And that's why you have these relationships or even these marriages where people wake up five years later from this fog, this excitement they had of their partner to finally see what's really there and it's like, we don't really like each other. or we don't get along or we don't really fit well together and we're constantly in conflict with each other.

And that's why you have these relationships or even these marriages where people wake up five years later from this fog, this excitement they had of their partner to finally see what's really there and it's like, we don't really like each other. or we don't get along or we don't really fit well together and we're constantly in conflict with each other.

So, if we would just first really put more energy into understanding who we are, accepting who we are and then we can then realize who we need to pick that aligns with that that would change the landscape. And not only would that change the landscape for so many people it would allow us to stop letting situations drag on longer than they should.

So, if we would just first really put more energy into understanding who we are, accepting who we are and then we can then realize who we need to pick that aligns with that that would change the landscape. And not only would that change the landscape for so many people it would allow us to stop letting situations drag on longer than they should.