Stephen Andrew

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600 appearances 6 recordings 1 series first heard Jan 2017 last heard Aug 2019

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The Hook Up · What is demisexuality? · 9 Apr 2019 podcast

I think there's something about porn culture that's really big here that sets this up, that everybody is on all the time, instantly.

And it's such a visual notion.

It's

i can see that you're hot just by looking at you across the room and it sets this this huge expectation up what's wrong with you are you colorblind can't you see properly look at him look at her look at them and it it really is such these are powerful forces at play here that that kind of set this up this is what i grew up with this is what

lot of people grew up with

And so the idea of demisexual is something that is pretty new to most people in terms of the language and to people who are not demisexual in the world.

I mean, you would have been labelled cold or frigid.

Or Remy was labelled a robot.

Yes.

So really clearly dehumanising words to use to describe somebody.

Yes, it's not an uncommon set of experiences to feel attracted to somebody and then find that something doesn't quite continue on in terms of that sexual attraction into the bedroom.

There's a multitude of possible reasons why that might be happening.

So does

Well, that is something that I think is very common.

I think this is about trust and about giving the communication between Jimmy and Remy lots of time and I guess perhaps some assistance in terms of passing that information across.

For Jimmy, this is my experience.

This is what's happening for me, just as Remy, this is Remy's experience.

This is what's happening for them.

It's really hard to argue with experience, with experiences, I should say.

And I guess there's also that important demarcation between what one feels, what one has an emotional response to and one's behavior.

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