Tamsen Fadal

It's about being fully yourself and fully seen.

And if you cannot be yourself in a relationship, it's going to be a really, really long relationship with a lot of very lonely times.

So those are the four mistakes that I see women making again and again.

Trust me, the same ones that I made for a long time, dating for validation, dating on that dang timeline, dating somebody else's potential, and then just disappearing and losing yourself in the relationship.

If you happen to recognize any of these, I want you to hear me very clearly.

There's nothing wrong with you.

These patterns don't mean you're broken.

They just mean you're human.

They mean that you've been doing what so many of us were taught to do, to chase approval, to meet milestones and timelines,

to fix everybody else, and to shrink.

But once you see the pattern, you can break it.

Stop asking, why am I like this?

And asking what you want instead.

Because you can change everything.

You have the power to stop giving all your power away and start choosing from a place of strength.

And by the way, if you take nothing else from today and say, Tamsen, you're crazy, let it be this.

Love is not something you earn by disappearing into somebody else's story.

The right love is the one that lets you be fully yourself.

I so appreciate you spending time with me today.

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