Tanya Coons
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3,654 appearances
23 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2016
last heard Aug 2022
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And this is hard.
How are you going to know if just say you've made a request for something like anal sex and the person has actually said before, no, I'm not into it.
But suddenly they become super duper enthusiastic about that.
Just think because you'll be noticing that somewhere in your mind and your body will be like, hey, this isn't what I was expecting.
I was expecting a bit of pushback or expecting a no.
If you get a very enthusiastic thing there, check in.
It's like, hey, go in there.
Are you sure about that?
You said no before.
Is this something that we should talk about before we try?
You know, I was kind of I'm excited about it, but I realised we didn't talk about it.
before we got naked so maybe we can talk about it another time right and just see because a lot of people do that fawning thing to be liked or to feel safe
Yeah, definitely.
And to look for physical signs, you know, it is really hard and it's everybody's responsibility for consent because lots of people say, why didn't you just say no?
Because my body overrode and put me into freeze or put me into fawn.
There are really legitimate reasons for this.
And you don't know what kind of traumas people have experienced.
You don't know what's going on inside their head and inside their body.
It doesn't make you a bad person if you can't read that.
But I'm hoping that conversations like this today will help people just think a little more of being like, okay, maybe I should look out for this in my partner because I don't want to be that person.
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