Borderline Idealist – BPD, Anxiety, & Depression

Stop! - DBT skill song

10 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A song to help you use the STOP skill to the tune of "Stop," by Spice Girls! Music, video, acting, directed and produced by Aj! More song on ...

Is it rude to be assertive?

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being assertive means having the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful. You have the right to express your view poi...

Gamify Good Habits

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

AJ has tried many methods to find—but most importantly maintain—the motivation to accomplish many of his long and short term goals. Over the years...

Coughlin: Music & Mind

15 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We're excited to sit down with musician Coughlin to talk about his experience in the music industry and his commitment to mental health awareness....

C-PTSD & Structural Dissociation

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Learn about complex post-traumatic stress disorder with us, and a common symptom called structural disassociation common with people with BPD. Suppor...

Confronting Childhood Trauma

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Come along with us on our morning walk! — Negative self-talk has always been in my mind passed down to me by my father. After having a discussion wi...

Healing from old wounds

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

My self-esteem is in the gutter. I didn't realize how bad it was. I'm haunted by expectations and perfectionism.My positive self-talk is there...

Mental Health + BPD Awareness Month

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

May is mental health awareness month, and also BPD awareness month. Both are important to expose people to the truth about mental health issues and fi...

If not now, then when?

19 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Update on AJ's structure and schedule and how we can motivate ourselves out of procrastination. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com...

Day 10 of Structure: TGIF

03 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's Friday, so I want to get as many things done as possible. Usually cleaning a room takes extra time (more than an hour), also because I'm ...

Day 9 of Structure: It Gets Better

02 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Another day, another dinner. I really had a good day today. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-dep...

Day 8 - Focus on Priorities

01 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are important things to do each day (making an appointment, calling a friend, emergencies, ect.) but don't let that slow you down! No one is...

Day 7 of Structure: Picking up the pieces

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Recovering from a depressing day, I come to terms with my doubts and fear that seem inescapable. Press on! Support this podcast at — https://redcir...

Day 6 of Structure: Structure, Interrupted!

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Monday was a hard day. I want to concentrate on my life, but thinking about it got me pessimistic. But I won't stop! *episode contains talk of sui...

Relapse & Failure

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you fail? What even is failure? On this episode we discuss the missteps, roadblocks, and our eventual relapse into our old schedule ...

Day 5 of Structure

20 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What have I learned so far? Weekends are non-negotiable! And also, I love the feeling of focus and motivation in the sun. Support this podcast at —...

Day 4 of Structure

19 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Trying hard to get what I want done to better myself and my surroundings. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-a...

Day 3 of Structure

18 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Mid-week report Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations

Day 2 of Structure

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Wasn't a perfect day. A lot of factors affected how my day turned out. The importance of the schedule is being able to get the things done that I ...

Day 1 of Structure

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

First day of my schedule! Monday is here. This is how it went. The ups, the downs, the cats 🐈 Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/bor...

Structure & BPD

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Procrastinating seems to be a bpd trait. DBT teaches that structure is a great way for our minds to stay active and for us to feel productive. Like me...

Valentine's Day 2021

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We're being a little silly and celebrating Valentine's day by playing a game. 🍭♥️ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/bor...

Racial Trauma

25 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is Racial Trauma? In this episode, we discuss what can cause racial trauma and our own experiences dealing racism. While there are various sympto...

6 DBT Skills that Helped Our Relationship

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

These are our most used DBT skills since learning them in 2020, most commonly used to benefit our marriage and our other relationships. There are many...

A Look Back at 2020!

31 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Join us as we review the year that will live in infamy—2020! We discuss the special interviews, DBT therapy, Self Care Walks, Patreon, and our top t...

Sense of Self

30 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know who you are? We all go through changes, but BPD can constantly shift your emotions and self-esteem. Support this podcast at — https://re...

The Official Depression Relief Playbook

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Zack is one of our listeners and our new friend! His book is filled with great information for those struggling with depression, especially for the fi...

Aromatherapy

27 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

AJ has begun exploring different essential oils and their effects. They can stimulate, calm, and even improve self esteem. Join us as we discuss our f...

Wise Mind

11 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An update on beginning our DBT study group & also understanding the reasonable, emotional, and wise mind. Support this podcast at — https://redc...

BPD & Mania

28 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Can those with BPD experience a form of mania? Hypomania is a less severe form of mania that AJ believes he’s experienced. But isn’t mania only a ...

Idealization & Devaluation

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, splitting, how you affect us so! AJ speaks about how he can go from one minute loving Cris, then feel he is the worst. BPD can make a truly emotio...

Figuring out how strongly to ask or say no

25 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We play a game that explores DBT interpersonal effectiveness and shows us how strongly to say no or how strongly to ask for what you want. Check out o...

Mindfulness Meditation Exercise

13 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Follow along with Cris as he walks us through a simple mindfulness exercise to help us stay focus on the present. Support this podcast at — https:/...

Mindfulness

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Mindfulness helps us to be in the moment and can also help us improve our awareness of our bodies and mind. AJ & Cris reflects on how they use the...

High Functioning BPD

27 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Listen to your favorite introverts talk about the difference between high functioning vs low. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borde...

DBT Skills at work!

13 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Here's a great example of AJ utilizing STOP, radical acceptance, and checking the facts. We look at how DBT helped in a specific stressful situati...

Radical acceptance

29 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Learn how this distress tolerance skill can help lessen your suffering so you can proceed on mindfully. Don’t go spiraling! (I apologise for trippin...

Try this Sensory Awareness Exercise !

16 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Here is an exercise in mindfulness. Sensory awareness is anything that involves the five senses. Find somewhere to get comfy,relax, and focus on groun...

Distress Tolerance Basics

16 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

AJ has a scholarship to a DBT boot camp this summer, so he wants to pass on what he learned to you! Distress tolerance helps us calm during stress so ...

Questions on BPD

27 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Here are some popular questions we get as6k through our social media. If you would like to send us a question or something to discuss, please email us...

7 things people with BPD want you to know: May is BPD Awareness Month

11 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

To help promote BPD awareness month, we discuss 7 things people with BPD want you to know. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderli...

Coronavirus & DBT: Check the facts

27 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We chat about the brave new world we live in under partial isolation to flatten the curve. Also AJ tells us about a new DBT skill that can help you pr...

DBT Catch-up: Mindfulness, Distressed Tolerance, and STOP skill

07 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Here's a bit of what AJ has been learning in DBT sessions. We hope you can use a skill or two to help get you through stressful times and apprecia...

Movie Night: Girl, Interrupted (Full episode)

04 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For all those self-isolating and bored at home, we offer the first full episode of our Patreon miniseries. These are crazy times, so why not sit back,...

Valene's Story: Childhood trauma, drug abuse, BPD

22 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Valene gives us a look into her life growing up in a hectic household, struggling to find her place, and the courage to press forward. Support this p...

Self-care Walk: March 17

18 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

🌈Walkin & Talkin Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations

Walky+Story: March 16

17 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

AJ shares one of his sacred stories from his secret stash on this walk. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anx...

Self-care Walk: Ides of March

16 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Trivia: The Ides of March is the 74th day in the Roman calendar that corresponds to 15 March. It was marked by several religious observances and...

Self-care Walk Talk: March 14

15 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sweetwater Creek was a great experience for us! It's our second time going and this time with friends. Here's a chat about the adventure ♥️...

Self-care Walk: March 13

14 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are we still doing this? Yes. Yes we are. 🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏿‍♂️🚸 Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist...

Self-care walk: March 12

13 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along wit...

Self-care Walk: March 11, 2020

12 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along wit...

Self-care Walk: March 10, 2020

11 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along wit...

Starting Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

09 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

AJ finally begins DBT. We discuss finding a doctor and finally moving forward. (This episode was previously posted Sunday, but due to technical error ...

Allie's Story: Sexual Trauma, BPD, and Therapy

23 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We interview Allie, a friend from our Discord channel, that asked if we had done another episode about sexual trauma. She volunteered to be interviewe...

Valentine's Day

10 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For some, Valentine’s Day can make them feel lonely or left out. We’ll discuss why it is important to focus on yourself and the love you can culti...

Personality Growth

27 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris retake the personality test to see if they've changed and discuss how personality can evolve over time and by experiences. Support ...

Join our Facebook Group

18 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

https://www.facebook.com/groups/547006222552464/ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/dona...

Episode 56 - Is Medicine An Easy Fix? (LIVE)

13 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Some say taking medicine to treat symptoms of BPD is unnecessary and more harm than good. Why take something that causes side effects? We look at AJ&#...

Episode 55 - Borderline Idealist 2019

30 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Cris and AJ take a look back on their favorite episodes of 2019. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and...

Episode 54 - Caregivers

16 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Cris is more than a husband; he's my best friend, confidant, lover, and lifeline. Sometimes those that help others are overlooked, but Cris and I ...

Episode 53 - BPD Anger: Anxiety and Anger Part 2

02 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Those who have BPD are known to have trouble with anger. Join us as we talk about how it can affect dating/relationships and how to process it around ...

Episode 52 - Alcohol & BPD

17 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Our last conversation really hit home with one of our listeners, Sarah. Those with BPD might relate to her story of early substance abuse and childhoo...

Episode 51 - Anxiety and Anger: Part 1

04 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Self-medicating can make problems worse. We discuss how Anxiety can manifest itself and the Detriment of keeping your problems to yourself. Support th...

Episode 50 - Suicidal Ideation

21 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Those that suffer from borderline personality disorder may have the symptom of suicidal ideation or self-mutilation. We speak about how these things c...

Episode 49 - Between Jobs

07 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes having BPD and finding the right career can be a challenge. AJ speaks about his anxiety and frustration trying to find the right job and exp...

Episode 48 - Schizoaffective Disorder

22 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ's brother Gyasi speaks out for the first time about his diagnosis as Schizoaffective; a mental health condition that includes schizophrenia and...

Episode 47 - Inspiration & Being Yourself

08 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We talk with a friend Adam about him BPD journey and how creativity has helped him express himself. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com...

Episode 46 - Borderline Idealist: Home Owners Edition

02 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The papers are signed and the house is officially ours! Join us as we begin moving things out of our old house and stay tuned for a bonus clip at the ...

Episode 45 - Hope in Hopelessness

19 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris share how feelings of hopelessness have affected them and how togetherness can motivate and help heal the feelings of emptiness. Suppor...

Episode 44 - Dating the Abandoned

05 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris reflect on their past dating lives, the feelings of abandonment, and learning when to let go of unhealthy relationships without feeling ...

Episode 43 - Starting A Conversation

28 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jennifer who wants to start a podcast about living with MS and depression visit AJ & Cris to find out about podcasting and what to know as a begin...

Episode 42 - Uncertainty

22 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We are all excited and afraid of what the future holds. AJ & Cris chat about finding a balance and learning to live with the feeling of not knowin...

Episode 41 - BPD Relationship: The Real Me

15 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We sometimes don't realize how we act inappropriately towards others when stress and life altering decisions are in front of us. We should appreci...

Episode 40 - Trusting Your Decisions

07 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ talks with Cris about his job and distorted self awareness. How can you trust yourself if you have BPD? Support this podcast at — https://redcir...

Episode 39 - Happy Pride!

16 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We chat about what gay pride month means to us and why representation is important. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-ideal...

Episode 38 - BPD & Dating

03 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Braelynn joins us to talk about dating with BPD and dealing with rejection. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-...

Episode 37 - Learning To Love Yourself

26 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Cris & AJ talk self-esteem and how to learn to love yourself for who you are and the talents you can share with others. Support this podcast at —...

Episode 36 - BPD Memes

13 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Gordon of We're Warriors BPD Support Group joins us to discuss why BPD memes are so popular in the community and how the humor relates to mental h...

Episode 35 - BPD Recovery & Remission

06 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Discussion on recovering from BPD, remission, and the hope for a cure. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxi...

Episode 34 - BPD Relationship: First Wedding Anniversary

29 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris discuss the first year of marriage and how it has made their love stronger. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderlin...

Episode 33 - Living with Three Personality Disorders

21 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Shelby shares about her multiple diagnosis and how her hope and need to help others makes her stronger each day. Support this podcast at — https://r...

Episode 32 - You have BPD, Now What?

14 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris are joined by recently diagnosed Braelynn to talk about the process of coping with BPD as a new reality.  Support this podcast at — h...

Episode 31 - Working With Anxiety & Depression Part II

07 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A follow up on working with mental illness. AJ speaks about challenges of self-worth and self-harm and choosing to value your best self. Support this...

Episode 30 - Working With Anxiety & Depression Part I

25 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When you go to work with anxiety and depression it can distract you from being a productive employee. We talked about our experience with this on the ...

Episode 29 - Challenging Criticism

17 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We use criticism to give feedback to others but it can hurt feelings and cause discord. How do we learn to navigate criticism with BPD? °•°•Patr...

Episode 28 - BPD Relationship: Am I Worthy?

11 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What makes you worthy of your partner and does being with someone with BPD make this relationship the worst Cris has ever been in? Support this podcas...

10,000! 🎉😁 THANK YOU!

05 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

10,000 listeners have tuned in to Borderline Idealist! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depressi...

Episode 27: After The Show!

04 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What went on after ep. 27 ended? Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations

Episode 27 - Dealing With Denial

04 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss denial in mental health and how to bring up the topic to loved ones. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist...

Episode 26 - BPD Relationship: Settling Down

25 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

AJ & Cris talk about unpacking in their new house and what they hope for in the future. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderli...

Episode 25: After The Show!

17 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

An after the show special of our conversation about mental hospitals. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiet...

Episode 25 - Mental Hospitals & Programs

17 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We join Carmella Young and share experiences from mental hospitals and wellness programs that help us deal with the stress of life when it seems like ...

Episode 24 - BPD Relationship: The Big Move

10 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

All about moving somewhere new as someone with BPD and having a super-neat husband. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idea...

Episode 23 - Truth About Medication

03 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When dealing with depression and anxiety, medication is a possible tool on your journey to helping you cope. We talk about side effects and also the d...

Episode 22 - Crippling Depression

28 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes depression can be so severe it leaves you down and out. We explain what it feels like, steps you can take to feel better, and how family and...

Episode 21 - Leaving Home with BPD

21 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When you're out with others that don't know you have a condition or much about it, how can you let them know and keep your anxiety under contr...

Episode 20 - Introvert Birthdays

14 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How introverts spend their birthdays! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations

Episode 19 - New Year & Christmas Anxiety

07 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

New Year & Christmas Anxiety Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations

Better Than Depression - Jan. 01 - Series Finale: Happy New Year!

01 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New year! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations