#212 Jennifer Selby Long: Office Politics Without the Backstabbing—Yes, It’s Possible
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Who is Jennifer Selby Long and what is her expertise?
She spent 30 years helping tech leaders navigate the ever-changing world of technology and lead organizational transformation. In recent years, her focus has been on cybersecurity, digital transformation, and user experience. but don't tune out if these areas don't apply to you. What Jennifer shares is relevant for anyone who wants to thrive in today's fast-paced world. Stick with me for 30 minutes and you'll find something valuable in this conversation. This episode and the last one is all about guiding yourself through personal transformation. It's about stepping into your next opportunity. Leaders can't successfully drive organization change without first mastering their own personal growth.
In the last episode, we talked about the natural process of personal change. We also touched on self-doubt and self-sabotage. In this episode, we'll dive deeper. We'll discuss how neuroscience can help manage self-sabotage We'll explore how to make career moves that work in your favor instead of just jumping from one bad situation to another.
It's such a great question. And as you were talking about this experience of you leave, you're starting a business, you see your colleagues get promoted. They're still sitting in their six figure incomes. Oh, believe me, that one resonates with me personally. And it's not a straight line.
How can neuroscience help manage self-sabotage?
When I started this business, which is actually my second business, a few years after it started, we hit the dot-com bust. And the business sank, right? And really struggled. And then again, we got hit in 2008 when the economy collapsed in the United States. And it is so easy to fall into the self-sabotage. The reason, though, is really interesting.
Thank you.
the AD, C-H-A-M-I-N-E, Shirzad Shamim. And he writes a great deal about the neuroscience of this because that self-sabotage is something that develops in very early childhood. It is almost entirely wired into our brains by the time we're five years old. Now, why is that in there? those saboteurs as he calls them are neural networks that very tiny children develop to ensure their survival if a little tiny kid recognized that their parents were not infallible which is actually true It would be terrifying because they cannot care for themselves, right? So these neural networks form as a vital part of early childhood. They're just part of that survival mechanism. However, in adulthood, we don't need those anymore. But at that point, they're really strong. They've been there for decades, right? Getting stronger and stronger, and they're just lurking in there.
and i want to really convey the important message that when you start to feel yourself self-sabotage that's not you that's the saboteur neural networks in your mind firing up that's all that is and they're sitting in there and they jump out when they get a signal that indicates that there's a threat to survival. Of course, if you go after a contract in your new business and you work really hard on it, you put all this time into it. When you were an employee, if that contract didn't close, you still got your paycheck. But now all of a sudden, you're looking at, can I pay my rent? Can I make my mortgage? So that, of course, your brain fires that up as risk to survival. And so the saboteurs jump in there.
The universal saboteur is called the judge. Every single one of us has this. And the judge has snuck in there and is getting in your way when you feel a negative feeling and you are judging either yourself or
What is the role of the 'judge' in self-judgment?
or someone else or the situation that is a sign that your judge is in there your judge is going to tell you you need me i am good for you but you don't need that judge to be talking and the judge is not good for you so the way that you can recognize that again you feel a negative feeling You're feeling stress, frustration, anxiety.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
Who is Jennifer Selby Long and what is her expertise?
0:44–3:18
2
How can neuroscience help manage self-sabotage?
3:18–6:15
3
What is the role of the 'judge' in self-judgment?
6:15–10:50
4
How can empathy counteract workplace judgment?
10:50–14:57
5
What are common challenges in leadership change?
14:57–21:07
6
How does Kurt Lewin's model apply to organizational change?
21:07–45:02
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