How To Have Sex
Episodes
How To Bring Your Fantasies To Life
16 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Turns out almost everyone has a fantasy they've never told a single soul. This week Jay-Jay and sex & relationship coach Mel Vranjes get into sexu...
How To Initiate Sex
09 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wanted to make the first move and just… froze? Initiating is one of the most vulnerable things we do, and almost nobody talks about how hard it...
How to Explore Beginner-Friendly BDSM
02 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
BDSM. Two seconds after hearing that word, most people picture whips, chains, leather, and some kind of expensive basement situation. (Just me? Okay, ...
How To Keep Porn From Replacing Intimacy
26 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Porn. We're going there. Whether you watch it, your partner watches it, or you've never really thought about it, this episode is the honest, shame-fre...
How To Actually Get Your Needs Met In Bed (Without Killing The Mood)
19 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Asking for what you want in bed might be the scariest thing you never do. Scarier than being naked. Scarier than asking for a pay rise. And for a lot ...
How to self-pleasure (and why it will change your partnered sex life)
12 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know your solo sex life is literally the foundation of your partnered sex life? In this episode, Jay-Jay finally figures out why this topic ma...
How to Butt Play
05 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Anal play. Butt stuff. The backdoor. Whatever you call it, more people are curious than will ever admit it. So this week, Jay-Jay and Mel are going th...
How To Have Earth Shattering Orgasms
28 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Earth-shattering. It sounds ambitious, but Mel reckons it's not only possible, it's absolutely learnable. And it has nothing to do with performing, fa...
How to enhance your sex life with erotic activities
21 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This might be our most hilarious episode yet.In this episode of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes set o...
How to navigate low libido in pregnancy and sex postpartum (Mel’s story)
14 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Pregnancy can change everything.. your body, your hormones, your relationship to pleasure, and the way you feel about s*x. In this deeply personal ep...
How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment)
07 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dirty talk makes Jay-Jay want to crawl under the bed and disappear… so naturally, that’s exactly what this episode is about.In this episode of How...
How to Give World-Class Head
31 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Talking about oral sex makes Jay-Jay wildly uncomfortable… which is exactly why this episode had to happen.In this lesson of How To Have Sex, Jay-Ja...
EP 00: Foreplay (Get in Bed with Jay-Jay & Mel)
24 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to How To Have Sex ... the podcast giving everyday New Zealanders the practical tools to have better, more confident, more satisfying sex live...
EP 01: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life
24 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What actually separates good sex from great sex? Spoiler: it's not the positions, the toys, or the techniques.In this episode, sex and relationship co...
WE ARE COMING!
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
One’s a sex coach. The other one’s awkward.Both are getting into bed to talk about it.How to Have Sex is hosted by Jay-Jay Feeney — one of New Z...