Relationship Advice

Don’t Punish the Vulnerability You’ve Been Begging For

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores the common relationship dynamic where one partner struggles to share vulnerably, and when they finally do, they’re met with cr...

Attachment Styles on First Dates (What to Watch For)

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores how attachment styles subtly show up on first dates and what to watch for without overanalyzing every interaction. The hosts emp...

Stop Saying "Calm Down"—Do This Instead

04 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Telling someone to “calm down” usually does the opposite—it makes people feel dismissed, misunderstood, and even more activated. In this episode...

The Mental Load in Relationships (Why It Causes Stress)

28 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

The mental load in relationships refers to the invisible work of planning, remembering, organizing, and anticipating what needs to happen in a househo...

Navigating Friendship Conflict & Changing Friendship

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Friendships change as people grow, and those shifts can bring up grief, confusion, frustration, or fear.In this episode, we unpack how growth, life tr...

Motivation To Change In Relationships

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usu...

Emotional Availability

06 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Emotional availability isn’t about feeling emotions loudly or perfectly — it’s about presence, regulation, and the ability to hold space without...

If I Have To Ask, It Doesn't Count

28 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Why does it feel so disappointing to ask for what you want? In this episode, we unpack the hidden belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count”...

One Move To Deescalate Your Next Fight: QUICK ADVICE

26 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values ...

Why Everyone Thinks Their Partner Is a Narcissist

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When someone says, “I think my partner is a narcissist,” they’re usually not chasing a diagnosis—they’re trying to make sense of a relations...

Behind Every Criticism There Is A Request: QUICK ADVICE

19 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values ...

Psychology of the State of the World

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There’s been a wave of major U.S. events stirring up big emotions, and this episode stays out of political commentary to focus on how people psychol...

What Makes You Great At Your Job Makes You Suck At Relationships: QUICK ADVICE

12 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values ...

The Art of Negotiation with Kwame Christian

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Negotiation isn’t a “business skill” — it’s an everyday relationship skill. Today we sit down TED Talk speaker, best-selling author, and pod...

Stop Your Next Fight Dead In It’s Tracks: QUICK ADVICE

05 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values ...

Why Your Partner's Body Image Matters More Than You Think - Interview with Samantha Jerome

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Body image isn’t just “how you look”—it’s how you feel in your body, and that inner experience can quietly shape conflict, closeness, sex, a...

State Of The World: QUICK ADVICE

29 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values ...

The Fourth Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Reach & Respond)

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Reaching and responding is the core interaction that helps couples move out of stuck, negative cycles and back toward connection. A reach is an imperf...

Two Date Rule and Testing The Waters In Dating: QUICK ADVICE

22 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values lis...

The Third Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Knowing Your Cycle)

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we explore what a negative relationship cycle is and why couples get stuck repeating the same patterns during conflict. We explain ho...

Safety In Sameness: Quick Advice

15 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values lis...

Individuation

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the second pillar of a secure relationship: individuation—the idea that what it’s like to be me ...

Marriage 2026: QUICK ADVICE

08 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026⁠ Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values lis...

Window of Tolerance

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Window of Tolerance helps explain why one partner often wants to keep talking while the other shuts down, speeds up, or feels totally overwhelmed.  ...

How To Fix Disconnection in 2026: QUICK ADVICE

01 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. ...

Starting Fresh: New Year Intentions for a Stronger Relationship

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla explore why we latch onto birthdays and the New Year as chances to “start fresh,” and why traditional r...

Bridging the Gap: Healing Pursuer/Withdrawer Misunderstandings

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we break down the pursuer–withdrawer dynamic and why partners so often misunderstand each other during conflict. We explore how our...

Finding Balance: The Fine Line Between Caring and Caretaking

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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Why Good People Have Affairs

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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How We Repair: Turning Conflict Into Connection

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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When the Holidays Aren't So Merry

26 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla open up about how the holidays can bring up grief, loneliness, or stress instead of joy. They share persona...

Managing Your Boundaries with Family Over the Holidays

19 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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People Pleasing and When You Get Invited To Chilli's

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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Has Psychobabble Infiltrated Our Culture? A conversation with Joe Nucci

05 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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How To Navigate Family Drama Part 2 - In Laws

29 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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How To Navigate Family Drama

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

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Creating A Positive Cycle

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren break down how to shift your relationship from reactivity to rhythm by learning to create a positive cycle....

How To Find Safe Attachment with Jessica Baum

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jessica Baum shares her personal journey through anxiety and depression that led her into studying attachment theory and writing her books. She explai...

Why Can't They Just Get Over It

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode looks at why your partner might struggle to “just get over” something that feels small to you. Often, their reaction isn’t really a...

How To Love Withdrawers Well

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Most people have experienced moments of withdrawal or disconnection in relationships, especially during conflict. For some, these patterns can create ...

How To Love Pursuers Well

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode from Relationship Advice, hosts Colter, Lauren, and Cayla lean into the dynamics of pursuer-withdrawer relationships, focusing on how to ...

What No One Told You Would Change Your Relationship After Having a Baby with Rachel Shepard Ohta

10 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores how having a baby reshapes a couple’s relationship in ways few anticipate, from sleep deprivation and shifting roles to unexpe...

Fear of Rejection

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in dating, often holding people back from putting themselves out there or forming deeper connections. ...

Fear of Intimacy

27 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode unpacks the fear of intimacy—why closeness can feel good yet terrifying at the same time. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore how fear of...

Navigating Friendship Conflict

20 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode dives into the often-overlooked complexities of friendship conflict and breakups, highlighting that friendships can be just as emotionall...

Sensory Profiles & Sexual Intimacy w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson

13 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson returns to explore how sensory processing patterns impact physical and sexual intimacy. The hosts use a creative "...

Sensory Profiles & How They Impact Our Relationships w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson

06 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson, a mental health occupational therapist, joins the hosts to explore how individual sensory profiles affect relatio...

How To Support A Loved One

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you support loved ones during challenging times, such as mental health struggles, medical issues, grief, or addiction? Listen as our hosts expl...

When To Bring Up Hard Things

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Bringing up hard things in relationships is less about avoiding conflict and more about when and how you do it. In this episode, the hosts explore why...

Sex Therapy Part 2: Sexual Differences Between Men & Women

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Relationship Advice, guest sex therapist Bryttney Huseas joins the hosts to explore the nuanced and often misunderstood sexual diff...

Sex Therapy Part 1: Where Do Couples Get Stuck?

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Relationship Advice, Cayla and Lauren are joined by sex therapist Bryttney Huseas to explore where couples commonly get stuck when ...

The Secret Language of Empathy & How To Use It

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Empathy isn’t just a feeling—it’s a skillset, and in this episode, we break down its secret language. From how to stop jumping to advice-giving ...

How To Dismantle Shame

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like something about you was just…wrong? In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of shame—where it comes from, why we all ...

Why We Rush To Solutions & What We Should Do Instead

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness p...

Knowing How To Name Emotions Will Deepen Your Connection To Yourself And Others

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Being able to name and understand your emotions deepens your connection to yourself and improves your ability to connect with others. Language gives s...

Making Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s Responses

04 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interp...

When Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made Explicit

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dive into how often people use indirect or protective strategies—like assuming or demanding—when trying to get their relational needs met, and why...

For When You Feel Disillusioned In Your Relationship

21 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode dives into the feeling of disillusionment in long-term relationships—when the connection, ease, or intimacy from the early days starts ...

How Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationships We Should Be Sharing

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between...

How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachm...

How to Know When To Take A Break in Conflict

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protect...

How To Handle Different Paces In Emotional Growth

23 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners ca...

Why Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex Drives

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Explore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often r...

What To Do When Your Partner is Still Defensive

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for...

How To Let People Feel Their Feelings

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importan...

How To Decide What Are Non-Negotiables In A Relationship

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of the Relationship Advice podcast explores the value of creating a Non-Negotiables List to establish clear boundaries and expectations i...

Curiosity Over Questioning

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openne...

How To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie Menanno

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulat...

Boundaries & What's Right

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Explore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The ho...

Rituals

26 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores the importance of rituals in relationships, emphasizing how they create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. ...

What Is A Negative Couples Cycle?

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather ...

Sex: When To Say Yes & When To Say No

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, offering advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores h...

Boundaries

05 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today Colter, Lauren and Cayla dive into boundaries, emphasizing their importance in maintaining personal energy, trust, and healthy relationships. Th...

Pursuers

29 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking ...

Withdrawers

22 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking ...

You Can Either Be Right Or Be In A Relationship.

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive through what it means to be relational over being right. We've heard it said before that you can be rig...

Individuation Is The Key To Your Relationship

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode Colter, Lauren and Cayla explore the relationship between emotional needs and actionable requests in the context of individuation. ...

490: The Window of Tolerance And Staying Emotionally Regulated

02 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich explore the concept of the "Window of Tolerance," a framewor...

489: What Can You Learn After 500 Episodes? Chase Celebration!

26 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren sit down with the long-running Relationship Advice podcast host Chase Kosterlitz as he reflects on ten year...

488: Foundations of a Healthy Relationship

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode introduces the foundations of a healthy relationship through four key pillars. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren use relatable examples, such as ...

487: Protective Moves

11 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the "protectiv...

486: Navigating Relationships With Love

05 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is a real treat as I have a wide ranging conversation with Diego Perez, aka, Yung Pueblo. Listen to today's show for valuable insights...

485: Free Yourself From The Happiness Trap

29 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The pursuit of happiness is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help world and life in general. What does it mean to be happy? Perhaps the...

484: Healing From Chronic Pain

20 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating a relationship where you or your partner suffers from chronic pain can be very challenging. Listen to today's show to learn more about heal...

483: Healing Your Anxiety

14 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most people have experienced anxiety at some point in their lives. For some, anxiety can be frequent and debilitating. No matter the levels of anxiety...

482: The Evolution Of Your Relationship, Social Media And More!

07 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's wide ranging conversation, Dr. Jenn and Chase discuss why you might want to rethink who you follow on social media, how your relationships ...

481: Healing Codependency In Relationships

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency can feel difficult to navigate whether it's you or your partner displaying codependent behaviors. Listen to today's show for valuable tip...

480: Creating Intimacy With Your Partner

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Love is a verb and so is intimacy. It takes practice and dedication to have a thriving, intimate relationship. Listen to today's show to learn actiona...

479: Sexuality And Beyond

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There are many factors that influence how we think, act and feel about sexuality. Understanding these factors can help us improve our relationships wi...

478: Learn Nervous System Regulation And Improve Your Life

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of what is talked about in the relationship space, including this podcast, involves the psychological side of relationships. However, a huge par...

477: Early Relationship Stages And Getting Your Needs Met

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships develop in stages and understanding how we show up in each stage is a valuable tool for relationship success. Understanding our needs an...

476: How To Not Settle In Your Relationship

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As a relationship progresses most people will inevitably become more comfortable and complacent. In order to have a thriving long term relationship, w...

475: Dealing With Infertility And Sexual Health Challenges

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships are difficult to navigate in the best of times. Dealing with infertility and other sexual health issues can add another layer of stress ...

474: Communication Hacks And Embracing Criticism

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It may sound counterintuitive, but there are ways to embrace criticism to create more love in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how t...

473: Dealing With Dating Anxiety

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dating can feel overwhelming and challenging for many people. Navigating dating anxiety and fears can be easier when you have the right tools and awar...

472: How To Get Your Finances In Order For Peace Of Mind

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Money is one of the biggest causes of relationship conflict and divorce. Money can also be a personal strain that causes a great deal of stress and an...

471: Betrayal And Forgiveness

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Betrayal is one of the hardest things to move through in life and relationships. Working toward forgiveness is a key factor in the healing process. Li...

470: Religion, Culture And Views On Sex

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our childhood, religion, culture and many other factors all influence how we view sex and relationships as adults. Listen to today's show to better un...

469: Getting Realistic To Improve Your Life

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some might say that the secret to happiness is managing your expectations. If you are operating with unrealistic expectations and frameworks, you can ...

468: Striving In Life And Relationships

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Defining your purpose in life and aligning it with your relationship is a big task. First we must get clear on many things and ask ourselves important...