Alain De Botton
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
This is why feelings are so unreliable, because most of the time they're carrying these complicated histories.
You know those people who say, in order to really fall in love with someone, they've got to be unreliable, about to go on a long trip, not earning much money, and kind of unfriendly.
And you're thinking, you're attractive, you're lovely, why always this person?
And then you
that's a flawed thing.
And I agree, it is a flawed thing.
But what they've replaced it with is this notion of intuition.
And we should all bow down to intuition.
So if you meet someone at a bar, have that special feeling, off you go and get married for the next 50 years.
Well, of course, it's deeply dangerous.
Intuition is not necessarily a good guide to a long-term partner.
You?
Just shut up.
Just shut up.
You had me at hello.
You complete me.
It is such a lovely thought.
And it's just wonderful.
The thing is, that's part of what love does.
But...