Alain De Botton
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1,037 appearances
5 recordings
5 series
first heard Jan 2024
last heard 1 Jul
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So if that's the starting point of a relationship, it's much more helpful than, you know,
we are two paragons of, uh, you know, beauty and perfection and we're all, you know, whatever.
I mean, at the school of life, we always recommend that when people go on a date, one of the first questions they should ask is, uh, a relatively early question is how are you mad?
Um, to the, to the partner, um, to the prospective partner.
In other words, the utility of that question is we're all mad.
The question is just, do you have any insight into what your madness is?
Um,
And it's fine to be mad.
I'll tell you how I'm mad.
You'll tell me how you're mad.
And we won't make such a taboo of it.
So that helps, I think, when embarking on a relationship.
Also, it does help to go and have some therapy.
Go and look into yourself.
Have a basic grasp of attachment theory.
Attachment theory worked out.
40 years ago now.
Very useful.
Who's avoidant?
Who's anxious?
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