Chantelle Otten

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881 appearances 8 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2018 last heard Sep 2021

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The Hook Up · Am I good in bed? · 27 Sep 2021 podcast

You're going to have a totally different view of what you want in the bedroom depending on the stages in your relationship.

and your life stages as well.

So I do think the main thing you need to have to be sexually compatible is motivation to get to know each other and where you're at at that erotic time.

I think at the end of the day, sometimes trying to feel it out works and sometimes it doesn't, you know, and I think that communicating is, of course, the best way to figure it out and communicating throughout the relationship before, during and after sex is

Of course, communication is also important for consent.

But, you know, with some people, it just doesn't tend to work out.

And I do think that is down to, like...

very much individualized circumstances.

I also think it's down to, you know, motivation.

How many times have there been couples coming to me where one person is way more motivated than the other person and the person who's got the lower level of, you know, maybe confidence around this topic just isn't at the right stage and point in their life where they feel like they can work on it or maybe there's a lot of shame that surrounds them.

And I think that if you are with someone that you think maybe this could work, you need to look out for a few kind of indications, maybe that they respond positively when you do ask for something, that they don't get defensive, that you can try and find a way that you can communicate without feeling flooded with emotions.

And I also think making sure that

There's a lot of compliments along the way too.

I really love our time together.

I would love to work on being more sexually compatible.

Would you like to go see maybe like a sexologist or maybe we can try a little bit of Tantra or I've bought these...

you know, foreplay games or sexy games on Love, Honey, and maybe we can try them out together.

It really is about someone else showing up to the table and not just you.

So it's not being

The Hook Up · Should you have sex on the first date? · 20 Apr 2020 podcast

that.

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