Grace Beverley

I don't want to be that boring.

Yeah, no, 100%.

I actually am so glad you brought that up because I've actually been having some like, I've been having some troubled thoughts.

Because I did a post that was explaining the contradictions of motherhood.

And like particularly like motherhood perception online and even just like women's perception online when it's like, well, you should have a child to contribute to society in any way or to be a worthy woman.

And then but then if you do have a child, like these are all the different things you're measured by.

And then like so many of the comments were like, and it's always by women and it's always from women.

And I do agree that there is absolutely a lot of internalised misogyny that a lot of people hold and is from women to women.

At the same time, I don't think we can say it's always from women when it stems from the patriarchy.

Because absolutely, yes, a lot of this shaming is coming from other women or other mothers or whatever it might be.

But I really don't want to stamp that label of the amount of people in my DMs being like, yeah, the mums are terrible, all of this.

And I'm like...

But I think that maybe gets us into the same place where we are, that I'm literally talking about.

It's like, yes, there must be loads of judgment.

And yes, I can see that.

And yes, I can see the just you waits and the you're doing it wrongs and all of that.

At the same time, all of this stems from a system in which...

the patriarchy is the way things are run, and therefore we believe that there is only space for so many of us, that there is only one right way to do things, that we have certain roles, and that all of these different things, it's like, I also don't agree with that.

Yeah.

And actually, the more you say this, this is why you should just do what feels right and know that you're never going to get it right in other people's eyes, but you can get it right in your eyes.