Kelly McDaniel
speaker
720 appearances
2 recordings
2 series
first heard May 2025
last heard 21 May
Kelly McDaniel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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You might do that with HDD.
Go bake some bread.
However you go offline, you may need to do that right now.
And let's not pathologize it.
Let's just say you might need to go offline for a little while.
You just paid attention to some really hard stuff, tender stuff, primitive stuff.
And you sweet little thing, go take a break.
Yeah.
The siren.
The Tamsen Show · Healing the Grief, the Love, and the Silence Around Your Mother · 11 May 2025
podcast
Our first love is our mother. We always want our mom. We will always need our mom.
Mother Hunger comes from inadequate nurturing, protection or guidance. It can impact all relationships.
I think what surprised me is there was nothing in my clinical training that prepared me for this. Let's get into it. Kelly, es ist schön, dich zu sehen.
Well, it was an accident. There was no term, mother hunger. But I remember when I was a young woman and I was in my graduate program for English literature and I read Adrienne Rich. She wrote this beautiful book of woman born. And in that book it said, the loss of the mother to the daughter and the daughter to the mother is the essential female tragedy. And that hit me.
I didn't know why, but my whole body reacted. The fact that a mother-daughter could be central in any way was already kind of mind-blowing. But then to really acknowledge that that loss is tragic felt very true to me. Fast forward 20 years and some other trainings and I'm working as a clinician with women primarily.
And these are women that are struggling with things that most of us struggle with, relationships and food. And so if either had become addictive and we were distilling it a bit, like what's happening? I heard over and over again, I want my mom.
I define it as a distinct craving or yearning for a quality of love that we actually assign to mothers. This yearning can get confused with romantic love, but it's a craving for nurturing and safety and for someone to admire.
Yes, I find that because mother hunger forms early on in the lifespan, generally between the age of zero and five, every infant born needs the same thing, nurturing and protection. So boys, girls, doesn't matter. Human infants need those things. Not because we're needy or broken, but because we're human.
Where I see it change for men is, and I'm speaking primarily about cisgendered heterosexual men, is that as they move into the world of men, they may look outside their mother for guidance. Whereas daughters don't have to. We can keep the focus on our mother, ideally. I also find that men don't necessarily identify with this term.
I think men have been taught from a very young age, don't feel, don't trust. And so emotions are not accessible. And then if you associate something with mom, it might be a sign of weakness. So I find that men will speak about their mothers in very reverential ways, respectful ways, or not speak about her at all.
And as men grow, if they are fortunate enough to be attached to a nurturing female partner or any partner who's nurturing, they don't feel mother hunger because they're getting nurtured. Das ist so faszinierend.
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