Michael Chernow
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first heard Dec 2024
last heard 27 Apr
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But when you get into the routine of it, so now, you know, not so now, I mean, we've been pretty good about it, but a, like, You got to talk about it if it's not going down. And if you're waiting for your partner to say something because you feel uncomfortable, that's a cue to be like, okay, I got to talk about this. And so similarly for other situations that are just uncomfortable for you.
For instance, we were just on vacation for two and a half weeks. And when you're on vacation with someone, with kids, you're 24-7 together, and it can get tough. There are going to be moments where she gets ticked off at me, I get ticked off at her. We're together, there's no running, there's no escape, so you just got to go and battle.
And there was a couple of those, and I think that's also healthy, but I think when you feel something in your gut or your sternum or your chest that is making you just uncomfortable about your partner, whether it's something that they're doing that's annoying, whether they say something that you don't like, It's important for me, speak for me, to just voice it like right then and there.
And I know going into it, I'm like, hey dude, this is a 50-50 chance where like you are either gonna get into a fight that's not gonna be fun or you're gonna be able to somehow just like talk through this. But dude, if you hold this back, there's a good chance that it's going to explode in three days and no one's going to want to be around you, specifically the family.
So I'm very cognizant about being, I call it like upfront in your face communication because it's just like, it's not fun. It's like extreme closeup shit. You just got to do it. You have to do it. And I think it's so important. But going back to the sex piece, you know, I think sex,
having sex is so important and it's not about like, like if your relationship is built around your sex life, long-term you're fucked in my opinion, right? Like it can't be that, like it's gotta be way more than that. But understanding what time of day, especially when there's kids involved, young kids, like you have to be, you have to just like, Get it when you can.
But I also think that like, if you guys can figure out, and again, this requires conversation and communication, figure out what time of day works best to have sex. And then boom, you got to commit to once a week at minimum, right?
No, we don't we don't schedule it or anything like that. But like, I wake up mega early. I just do. And it and it's and it's kind of great because the kids also wake up mega early. But I choose one day every like one day a week when I wake up early and I'm just like, boop, boop, boop. You know, and nine out of 10 times I get the green light and that, and that's it. And it's, and it's awesome.
And it's, we laugh about it, you know, because like that's, but I think.
Like 5.15. It's kind of like when I'm at, when I always wake up 5.15.
Our kids wake up now at like 6.30. So, but I still, again, like back to the routine piece, like my morning routine is super important to me. And it's not like, I don't hold myself to like this crazy thing anymore necessarily. Like I used to have this really... long drawn out thing specifically in COVID to like keep me from going absolutely crazy. Like I built this like crazy structured thing.
And I still, when I, when I want to do it, I do it. And when I don't, I don't. Sometimes I'll work out now. Sometimes I'll do the sauna, cold plunge, red light thing. Sometimes I'll just do prayers and pushups, you know, but like morning having a, some sort of a plan in the morning for me that gets me going, that like fires up my engine is super important.
Yeah, yeah. I think the takeaway is basically being in a relationship with a person that you would consider your life partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever you call it, being in a relationship like that and not having sex is... after a certain period of time, which is very common, adds another layer of guilt, shame, and discomfort, right? Even if you don't, like, it just does.
You know, if someone, like... Because you know something's wrong. You know something's wrong.
You know something's wrong.
Right. And also, like... And by the way, like it's very common, right? Like when you have a conversation with a friend, you're sitting with a girlfriend, I'm sitting with some of the guys or whatever it is. And you're talking about, the conversation has gone from totally superficial to like a little bit more substantial. And you're talking about it.
And if one of those guys or one of those friends of yours is like, yeah, like we're just not having sex much. Like no one's like, yeah, we're not having sex much. It's awesome. They're like, man, we're just, it's just not happening. Like, I don't know, you know? You can change that. It takes commitment.
But I can honestly say that when that is happening, there's just a different feeling amongst the two. And I've found that to be incredibly true for me. And it's just like, you're like, no, we are doing that. We're in a long-term relationship and we are still having sex regularly.
I will also say that like, I think the topic of talking about long-term relationships and sex is like a real thing because it is pretty controversial, right? Like people struggle with it because a lot of people fall into the category of like being in a long-term relationship and like not having sex.
100%.
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