Sabrina Zohar

And so now really the way to start to advocate for yourself is to understand where did I learn that I couldn't and to reparent that version of us.

To be able to even close your eyes, hand on your stomach, hand on your belly and just say, I feel like I'm six right now.

And that's okay that Sabrina's really scared, but I want her to know that she has me and that dad's no longer here and I got rid of him.

Now that didn't make it magically okay, but what I did was I showed myself compassion and I was able to close the loop in my brain that it's safe for me to do that.

And then I deal with what comes up.

And so I think if you want to advocate for yourself, we have to learn where you learn that that wasn't safe.

And then we have to go back, even into meditation, therapy, it doesn't matter, right?

You could do this however you want.

I do it with clients.

We all do it in different ways, but we have to be able to go back to those parts and tell those versions it wasn't you.

Because what happens, I don't know if you're familiar with egocentric age, right?

And so essentially what that's saying in psychology is from zero to seven, zero to 10, depending on the school of thought, is that we are narcissistic as children.

You have to be.

That's how you learn like, oh, I fell.

Okay, I could get back up.

But we attune to our caregivers.

And so during that phase, if at six years old, your father keeps leaving, of course you're going, oh, it's me.

Oh, there must be something wrong.

Because if you didn't have an adult to come and say, hey, they're unstable.

This isn't you.