Tamsen Fadal

This next one, I got a lot of flack for on social media, but I'm gonna say it anyway, again and again.

Stop being his project manager.

This is the truth, you cannot fix him.

You cannot love him into being ready.

You cannot build a future with somebody who doesn't even know how to show up in the present.

Every time you convince yourself that with a little more patience, a little more effort, he's going to get there, you are putting your life on hold for somebody who is not holding you.

You really deserve a partner and not a project.

So I want you to think about that.

You're not a project manager.

You're not his therapist.

You're not his receptionist.

When I finally started living this way, I felt two things at the same time.

I felt a whole lot of grief for the years I'd wasted.

It really sucked.

And then I felt like this overwhelming relief that I wasn't waiting anymore.

Because the minute you stop choosing potential, you start choosing presence.

And that's when you create space for a real relationship in your life.

And one that is there in the here and now.

And it's not just in your imagination.

Okay, TAM fam, quick reminder.