Ben Jackson | The Counselling Tutor

The Purpose and Importance of Vulnerability and Uniqueness

25 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Inspired by a small part of the film, A Star is Born, I discuss how and why it's important to embrace our uniqueness. I also talk about how anyone doi...

70 Days Of Self-Esteem for my Tween

23 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This is the final update about how I supported my daugther as she transferred to secondary school. How I collected her quotes and turned them into a b...

Your Solution to Tough Negotiations

19 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We can all find ourselves at one time or another in a difficult and challenging conversation. So how do we navigate away from potential hot spots and ...

The Importance of Optimism and Positivity

18 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's not about seeing the good and ignoring the bad in any situation, it's about getting you in the best mindset to manage and deal with adversity. —...

Realising the Limits of Coping Mechanisms

17 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A number of people rely on coping mechanisms to deal with certain challenges. Yet they have the their limits and in today vlog I explain what these mi...

Mindfulness, Schools, Yoga and What a Slow Day Looks Like

16 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes there's not much more to share than the little parts of my day; and that's what makes up today's vlog. It's not glossy or jazzy, but it is r...

If We're Not Getting the Response We're After, It's Down to Us to Change

15 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Though this starts as a reflection of my learning more about marketing, I somehow turn it around to share a basic principle of good communication: we ...

Emotions: Recognising We've Written the Labels for Our Feelings

12 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's often easy to overlook that the feelings we have: sadness, happy, fear etc are just self-generated labels. They are not universal. Not everyone f...

Breaking Through Limiting Beliefs

11 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share with you how to disrupt someone's limiting belief; and in this case how subtle they can be. I hope you get some value from this. Enj...

When Comparisons are Destructive

10 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Negative comparisons can be debilitating if left unchallenged. Their destructive power can leave us being our worse judge an jury. So what can we do t...

Downtime & Why Shutting Out Work Only Makes Things Worse

09 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

One of the greatest challenges we can have is about keeping our freetime work-free and to make it as stress-free and as present as possible. But that ...

How to Practise Compassion When Facing Challenges

05 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Compassion can seem like an ideal when we are faced with challenges either in our work or personal life. There is a way to practise compassion even at...

Explaining Fake It To Make It

04 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I'm a huge supporter of the 'fake it until you make it' thesis. But it's had it's critics so I go on a little rant about why it's still valid and when...

When You're in Conflict Over a Decision

03 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We can often feel like there are two parts of us at war when it comes to certain decisions. So what's going on here? And what can we do to break the d...

How I See the Best in People

02 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share a story that perfectly illustrates how and why I see the best in people. Remember to follow me for the best free coaching advice on...

When Your Harshest Critic is Your Own Voice

01 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We can often be told to not listen to our critics. But what do we do when our harshest critic is in our head? I hope you all love it and give it a li...

Who We Surround Ourselves With Matters, a Lot

28 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We are the product of our environment not our genes, and we have the ability to change our environment, even by small degrees and achieve real change....

Why Do We Put Obstacles in Our Own Way?

27 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We can get often have a plan or goal that excites us, yet quickly we come up with obstacles, challenges which deaden those enthusiastic feelings. So w...

Change Your Thinking to Change Your Outcome

26 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's so often the case that many people get into a fixed way of thinking which becomes a self-fulfilling phoropecy. So how can we help someone break t...

Understanding Behaviour: What's the Intention?

25 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Often our behaviour isn't always a clean match to our intention. What we want to say doesn't always come out as we'd like. So I wanted to offer my tak...

The Benefits Of Stepping Back

24 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

While we can get some benefit from uncovering each layer of our challenge, sometimes we need take a step back. I hope you all love it and give it a l...

When Motivation Runs Out

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 100 I talk about motivation. Motivation is a wonderful feeling. It's very much the rocket fuel that propels us forward, but it doesn't alwa...

Limiting Beliefs Within Our Own Words

20 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Our language can be both freeing and shackling. It can liberate us or imprison us. Thankfully we can breakthrough limiting beliefs when we challenge t...

How to Jump Start Self-Esteem

20 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Here you get the pure tactic on how to set postive self-esteem and jump start your confidence. Remember to follow me for the best free coaching advic...

The Assumptions We Make and the Damage They Cause

17 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Assumptions can literally turn harmony into disruption. Here's a way to notice it, and challenge it before it causes harm. Enjoy ❤️ Remember to ...

Helping Someone Who is Struggling with Change

14 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We can often meet people who despite having the knowledge to change, lack the ability to make the change. In this video I give you some ideas to consi...

What to do When Expectation Doesn't Meet Reality

12 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

One of the conversations I often return to has this common theme in it: when our expectation doesn't meet reality. And the inherent pain this disparit...

What to Do When You Don't Want to Talk

11 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we need that private time to process what's going on for us. Yet we are still looking to get some progress, some change. So how do we do tha...

70 Days of Self-Esteem Challenge: Update

24 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I thought you might enjoy how the 70 days of self-esteem challenge was going with my daughter. There are some interesting insights and reflections I h...

What to do When Expectation Doesn't Meet Reality

23 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I originally recorded this for my coaching channel but thought it would also be useful you guys too, especially over the summer holidays. I hope you g...

Only You Are Responsible For How You Feel

16 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This may seem a small thing, but it can make a pivotal shift in transforming your life. Please understand that only you are in control of how you feel...

How to Jump Start Self-Esteem, Confidence and Self-Worth

03 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This one of the quickest ways you can jump start your self-esteem. It's a step-by-step tactic in how to feel better about yourself in whatever situati...

When The Struggle is Real

02 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I appreciate that a lot of you can get stuck in keeping consistent when it comes to bringing in new habits, especially when there's no significant day...

The 70 Day Self-Esteem Challenge Starts!

29 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Listen to my tactic on how I'm preparing my daughter for life with a phone and social media. Self-esteem is the only shield we can nurture that combat...

Responding to Anger

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Learn some tips and advice on how to respond to anger. Though difficult and distressing to watch, anger can be an opportunity to help your child learn...

Helping a Child Cope with their Anger and Hurt

12 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I thought that on the back of previous podcasts, you might appreciate another tale from my parenting experience. What I hope you get is a real life ex...

"I Won't Be Your Friend Anymore!"

06 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Hearing a parent's anger to their son using friendship as leverage or manipulation to get what they wanted, I wanted to draw your attention to a theme...

Calming A Hysterical Child

05 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I know how so many of you struggle with calming down an upset or angry child, and in this episode I wanted to share a technique that I've used success...

How to Overcome Overwhelm

21 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to put down some of my observations of how I go about delaying and procrastining. I look into why it's happening and share with you how to br...

Negative Attention and Siblings

18 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I wanted to share some of my frustrations with parenting two boys. In particular about how they play together or, more importantly, ho...

When My Son Stood Up to the Bully

17 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share this episode from my parenting life because I feel it reflects common parenting thoughts about bullying. I get really honest about h...

How to Crush Test Stress

16 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This is solely for parents, for those of you who find their children upset, who are suffering from anxiety and worry over their tests. I wanted to s...

Why Gratitude And Appreciation Are More Than Just Fluff Words

15 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's time we really make an effort to appreciate and celebrate what we ARE achieving and quieten down the voices that want to keep on reminding us of ...

Making Failure Louder

02 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to take a moment to underline what I believe is increasingly the important skill children need to acquire. And that's about failure. We speak...

A Very British Rant: Your Screen Time is Bad for Your Child

03 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I really wanted to share my thesis on how our screen time impacts our children. It's something that I've mentioned in the past but felt it was worth r...

Talk at Leeds Academy | Mar '18

31 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this talk I gave at Leeds Academy, I really made a point to focus on the positive nature of failure. In particular how important it is to success. ...

Reflections on Being the Eldest Child

27 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today I wanted to set a reminder to myself but also share with you something we often forget especially if we are the first or eldest child. As parent...

Do We Get in The Way of Our Kid's Confidence?

22 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us want our children to thrive and stand resilient and resourceful as they grow up. However while we want those things, sometimes we miss that...

Seeing Life Through Our Child's Eyes

21 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It can be really easy to forget what life is like on the other side of the school fence. We hope that they are forming healthy and positive relationsh...

Helping Your Child Manage Anger

16 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share an example of how I manage when my son struggles with his frustration and anger. I really want to give you a clear tactic on how to ...

Talk at Hornsey School for Girls | Mar '18

13 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this brief talk I gave in Hornsey, I really tried to give the students some practical and effective exercises in reducing stress. I touch on the im...

A Bad Moment Doesn't Make for a Bad Day

08 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I discuss how we need not turn a bad moment into a bad day. It's amazingly easy to exaggerate a couple of bad moments and balloon them...

Better Ways to Talk with your Child

06 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When we ask better questions. When we try to access a child’s information in a variety of ways rather than one fixed way, we not only get the inform...

Language, Vocabulary and. Children

28 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today I wanted to share my thoughts on language acquisition and development with children. And I suppose in some ways this is what people refer to as ...

Taking a Step Back

27 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

With hectic lives, children can seem to grow up quickly. Sometimes, I feel, we miss some of that richness. In this podcast I'm saying it's ok to not b...

Don’t Meet a Problem With a Problem

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to talk about an Instagram post I put up a few days ago as I think it's something worth just understanding a bit further. I have witnessed a ...

Everything Matters, to a Child

20 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share with you my kind of thesis, belief or approach to my parenting or at least the parent I consistently try to be. And it’s about doing...

Out of their Comfort Zone

13 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s podcast I discuss a very simple but important step in leaping forward your child’s confidence and self esteem. It’s all in how we tak...

School Break & Self Esteem

12 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a busy week so I’ve made this is a small briefing on one way to help build self-esteem in your child. It’s really easy to action, and helps...

What’s on Students’ Minds

08 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I felt it was useful to try and cover some of the kind of key themes of been coming out of the Q&A sessions I’ve been doing at school as I can I fin...

Getting Your Child to Try

06 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I talk about the decision to help my son try new things more often. There is something very powerful in helping our children experimen...

Applying Patience to Parentig

05 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Applying Patience to Parenting • Applying Patience to Parenting • Applying Patience to Parneting • Applying Patience to Parenting

70 Days of Self Esteem

26 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share this idea with you because it may be something that you’re looking to have some help with, and it’s mainly linked to helping your ...

Talk at Summerhill School

24 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this talk I give to year 11s at Summerhill School I go deep into explaining how the mind works, how powerful it is and and how to use it to improve...

Pupils and Their New Futures

16 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I go through some of the themes that I’m bringing to my talks in January and February. For the first half of 2018 I’m ramping up m...

Top Moments from the Podcast

23 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a compilation of some of the most popular to episodes from the podcast in 2017. I hope this acts as a reminder to some of the points I’ve co...

Raise A Child’s Self Esteem

22 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Following on from the 70 days of self-esteem challenge here is one practical way we can help children easily grow and improve your self-esteem. By inc...

70 Days of Self Esteem

19 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share this idea with you because it may be something that you’re looking to have some help with, and it’s mainly linked to helping your ...

Christmas, Hugs and Consent

19 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a bit of a raw podcast, but covers a very important subject around this time of year regarding hugs and consent. There was conversations recent...

Better Bonds With Our Children

18 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

As the holiday season seems to be upon us now, I share just a little way of how I increase the bond and connection with my children. Taking my childre...

The Death of Presenteeism

14 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Travelling in to London for a four days coaching meetings, I wanted to grab these thoughts on how we can bring an end to the culture of presentism eit...

Bring an End to Nightmares

13 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I thought it’d be really useful to share two powerful techniques to defeat your child’s nightmares. Children have powerful visual imaginations and...

The Dangers of Overpraising

12 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I carry on the conversation I had yesterday regarding overpraising. Adding more reasons why we need to be honest, respectful and authentic with our fe...

I Don’t Laugh at my Kids Jokes

10 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why I Don’t Laugh at my Kids’ Bad Jokes | This is a bit of a raw podcast in as much as I am riffing on the idea of overpraising. And it starts wit...

Parents: Ask Better Questions

08 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I give you some examples to help your child recall memories, come up with answers and break the cycle of “I don’t know”. Even at...

Helping a Challenging Teenager

07 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share with you some real valuable points on how to help your challenging teen. These I believe are the foundations of how we support, unde...

Being your Kid’s Biggest Fan

30 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I touch on briefly the ways we can not only say we our kid’s biggest fan and support but really act that we are. While we often say that we support ...

The Reality of Working at Home

29 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I really hope you get a lot from this podcast today. I get people often looking at working from home. This sounds all very nice and lovely but the rea...

Kids Need (Some) Structure

28 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I was reminded yesterday of how useful it is for kids to have a little structure in their day or their week and I used this podcast to give you an exa...

Podcast Parenting Mashup

26 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

26/11/17 Podcast Weekend Mashup | I thought you might like to get all the highlights from this week’s podcast in all one handy and easy to find plac...

Kids and the Power of Apology

25 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It can feel that we always need to be a perfect parent, but that leaves a lot of pressure on ourselves and set up an unrealistic model for our childre...

More Ways to Avoid Conflict

23 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Following on from my earlier podcast, this gives you more tools and ideas of how to avoid hotspots, triggers and conflicts with your child. This is so...

This Parenting Life

22 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s podcast is a very personal one where I discuss swearing and bullying. I share with you how I have dealt with my son’s swearing at school a...

Feel frustrated? Try this tip

21 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We can complain about how things aren’t the way we want them to be or we can take action and make some changes. But how? I was talking with a unhapp...

Avoid Conflict with your Child

20 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In his podcast I talk about one way you can avoid conflict with your child and sidestep any arguments or triggers that cause conflict. Try out this s...

Kids Attitude of Gratitude

16 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a very simple podcast that has some powerful exercises in it for you and your child. I think you’ll get a lot from this podcast; simply by do...

Do We Overprotect Children?

15 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today I reflect on how easy it is to overprotect our children. I get in to a conversation with another parent discussing the consequences when we remo...

How to Build Resilience

14 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I think there’s so much value in this podcast I really hope you enjoy it. I talk about how there is an easy and quick win to help your child be more...

Parenting Life

13 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This Parenting Life: Reflections on my Weekend | This is just my thoughts from my weekend and I hope you get some insight into what I think about and ...

Is Flexible Working a Reality?

09 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast is SO important if you’re thinking about working from home as I get to talk about the real challenges involved. If the daily grind in a...

Check your Body Language

08 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What do we Communicate Through our Body Language? This is very much an important podcast because it’s something as parents we can often forget to be...

How to Remove Parent Anxiety

07 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We all have bad parenting moments but that doesn’t mean we need to recycle the stress over and over. I think you’ll get so much from this podcast ...

Children, Choice and Happiness

01 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast I explore what can happen when we step back from regulating or deciding things for our children. What the results can be from letting ...

Be Less Stressed Parents

30 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I think you’ll get a lot from this simple tip in how to better handle those stressful daily routines that we often have. I have mentioned it before ...

Does Work Lose Out to Family?

28 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast, I discuss self awareness and steps to achieving work/life balance. We get so caught up in making family a priority that we forget tha...

Helping Your Child Achieve

26 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do we play sports and activities with our children while keeping it fun for us? How do we stop ourselves out-performing our children on the playin...

Take Your Daily Meds!

25 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Meditation can take a variety of forms - and some not as obvious as you might think. Here are just a few of my top suggestions that will help you redu...

Mind your language!

23 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Ditch the Silly: We need to realise the impact that even the slightest name-calling can have on our child. We need to be mindful the things we say bec...

Parents:Changing Your Approach

20 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

For those of you who struggle to get your child to do what you want, this podcast is for you. I think you’ll get a lot from it and some useful tips ...

Improve Work/Life Balance

19 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share conversations that I had today at a think tank event in London because we talked about some real wins that can help if you’re strugg...