The Secure Love Club Podcast
Episodes
Ep #61: How to Say What You Want Without Pushing Them Away
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re getting into one of the biggest patterns I see holding women back in dating and relationships: struggling to communicate what...
Ep #60: Stop Following Your Feelings in Dating (Here’s Why)
16 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re unpacking something that might sound a little controversial at first: the moments in dating when not listening to your feelin...
Ep #59: Addicted To The Struggle
09 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re unpacking a sneaky pattern that quietly runs so many people’s lives without them even realizing it: being addicted to the s...
Ep #58: Feeling Confident in Every Area… Except Relationships
02 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is for the high-achieving, self-aware woman who feels grounded and powerful in every part of her life, except when it comes to dating. Yo...
Ep #57: The Hard Truth About Closure After Emotionally Unavailable Relationships
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is for you if you’re stuck in that painful in-between place — wanting to move on with your life, heal, and become more secure… but ...
Ep #56: Dating Without Pressure: How I Stopped Making Every Date Mean Something
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m sharing a perspective shift on dating that honestly changed everything for me, and it came from a place I didn’t expect. Afte...
Ep #55: How to Date Like a Secure Woman (Even If You’re Anxious)
09 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re calling out one of the most frustrating patterns anxious daters get stuck in: dating the same person with a different face. Y...
Ep #54: Stop Trying to Avoid Problems (It’s Keeping You Stuck)
02 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re talking about something we all claim we want… but secretly spend half our lives trying to avoid: problems. I’m breaking d...
Ep #53: Decisive Action - How Making a Decision Directs Your Energy & Changes Everything
26 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most underrated reasons you feel stuck, drained, and unable to move forward in dating, life, or your p...
Ep #52: From Anxious To Secure: My Story And Path To Coaching
19 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this special replay episode, I’m taking you right back to the beginning — sharing my full journey from growing up anxiously attached, through y...
Ep #51: Inside the Avoidant Mind: What They’re Really Thinking When They Pull Away (My Sister’s Avoidant Perspective!)
12 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Hannah, to have an honest, nuanced conversation about what it’s actually like to experience relationship...
Ep #50: Living a Life You’re Proud Of (Not One That Just Looks Pretty)
05 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between building a life that looks good on the outside and one that actually feels right on the ...
Ep #49: Things I DIDN’T DO to Attract Secure Love
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m flipping the usual conversation around healing anxious attachment and attracting healthy love. Instead of focusing on what you ...
Ep #48: Doing Things Differently (When the Old Way Doesn’t Feel Good Anymore)
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m inviting you into a powerful reflection on what happens when the way you’ve been living, working, dating, or showing up no lo...
Ep #47: How She Remembered Who She Was, Broke Toxic Cycles, And Reclaimed Her Power! Emma’s Journey Inside Peacefully Attached
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Emma — a former Peacefully Attached client — for one of the most honest and expansive conversation...
Ep #46: Your Hard Seasons Are Preparing You for Your Biggest Expansion
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m taking you into a conversation that poured through me fresh from my morning trot. You know those moments where life suddenly cl...
Ep #45: How to Believe Your Dream Relationship Is Actually Possible For You
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re diving into a question almost every woman on the anxious-to-secure path quietly struggles with: “How do I believe the partn...
Ep #44: Why Low Self-Worth Makes You Chase High-Intensity Relationships
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most addictive and confusing patterns for anxiously attached women; the chase for high-i...
Ep #43: Life Update - Therapy, Business Growth, Moving?!
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and giving you a real, unfiltered life update - the stuff I usually only share with my closest friends...
Ep #42: The Real Secret To Becoming Secure (that no one talks about)
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m talking about something that almost nobody in the anxious attachment / healing space is talking about enough… and yet it’s ...
Ep #41: Slow Down To Speed Up!
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m diving into why constantly dating, matching, texting, and seeking the next “spark” is actually delaying your love life — ...
Ep #40: Navigating Loneliness While Single
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m opening up about something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart lately - loneliness. Not the kind that comes from not having...
Ep #39: Dating Dry Spells, Sexuality & Feeling ‘Irrelevant’ — The Truth I Haven’t Been Saying
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this unfiltered solo episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s really been going on in my world — and my heart — lately. This isn...
Ep #38: Are You Using Your Situationship to Avoid Your Life?
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the truth about situationships - not just what they are, but why we find ourselves in them. This conversa...
Ep #37: Healing Retroactive Jealousy & Building Self-Trust That Transforms Your Relationships With Emma Elmoza (Part 2)
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back for part two of my conversation with embodiment coach Emma Elmoza — and if you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and tune in ...
Ep #36: Retroactive Jealousy: The Secret Shame Women Carry in Relationships With Emma Elmoza (Part 1)
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So many women secretly struggle with this, but almost no one is talking about it… retroactive jealousy.In today’s episode, I’m joined by embodim...
Ep #35: The Ripple Effect of Becoming Securely Attached (It’s Bigger Than You Think)
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I’ve seen time and time again in my own journey and in my clients’ lives: when you commit to he...
Ep #34: The Hidden Grief No One Talks About: Missing the Person You Were in a Past Relationship
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story about grief, nostalgia, and the versions of ourselves that relationships leave behind. Sometimes ...
Ep #33: Expanding Your Capacity For The Relationship & Life of Your Dreams
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You don’t get the relationship or life of your dreams just by wanting it harder. You get it by expanding your capacity to hold it.In this episode, I...
Ep #32: From Domestic Violence Survivor to Global Coach: Teagan Woodgate’s Story of Strength & Self-Belief
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast. I’m joined by Teagan Woodgate, founder of Reform Body Coaching, wh...
Ep #31: Connecting vs. Attaching: The Shift That Will Change Your Love Life
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with my beautiful friend Hillary McVeigh — Human Design teacher, Retreat Facilitator, Certified Co...
Ep #30: I'm Done Pretending to Be the Perfect Straight White Girl With a Tan. Questioning My Sexuality, The Truth I’ve Been Hiding for 12 Months
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is one of the most vulnerable and raw I’ve ever shared. For the last 12 months, I’ve been quietly navigating something that has shake...
Ep #29: The Secret to Not Losing Yourself in Dating or Giving Up the Woman You Fought to Become
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt afraid that once you really like someone, you’ll slip back into old habits… abandon yourself… and forget everything you wo...
Ep #28: Why Self-Aware Women Stay in Messy Relationships With Majo Torreli
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a situationship, stuck in a cycle of "I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t walk away"...
Ep #27: Even the Confident Girls Get Social Anxiety (Here’s How I Handle It)
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You know that moment where you get invited to something amazing — a room full of women you know you’d vibe with — but your body starts screaming...
Ep #26: Secure Situationships Are a Thing - Here’s How to Have One
21 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can you actually date casually and feel emotionally safe, respected, and secure?Short answer: yes. But most people out here trying to be the “cool g...
Ep #25: The Questions Keeping You Anxious in Dating, and What to Ask Instead!
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s episode is for the over-thinkers, the self-doubters, and the “was it something I did?” spirallers. If you’ve ever felt triggered after...
Ep #24: The Self-Sabotage That Shows Up Right Before You Up-level & How To Overcome It
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever hit a point in your healing where you thought, “Why is this happening again?” or “I thought I already worked through this!” t...
Ep #23: Coming Out Later in Life, Queer Dating & Anxious Attachment with Inez Bye
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is for every human who’s ever thought: “Am I actually into men… or am I just addicted to their validation?” 😳 …or “I thin...
Ep #22: Online Dating, First Dates & Ghosting: Let’s Talk About It All
23 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s episode is a full-on DATING DEBRIEF. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in dating burnout 🙃, ghosted someone because you weren’t sur...
Ep #21: Are Your Dating Decisions Rooted in Scarcity or Abundance?
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If your dating life feels like a never-ending loop of ghosting, confusion, and anxiety… you need this episode. In this episode of The Secure Love Cl...
Ep #20: How to Stop Spiraling After One Date: The Anti-Obsession Method
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever caught yourself planning your wedding playlist after one flirty date? 👀 Already imagining what your couple selfies will look like before you e...
Ep #19: Europe Catch-Up + Stop Putting Your Life on Hold for a Relationship!!!
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — when I find my person, when I make more money, when I finally feel chosen —...
Ep #18: You Don’t Want a Relationship… You Want Peace
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You think you’re searching for a relationship, but what you’re really craving is relief. A break from the spiral of overthinking and the constant ...
Ep #17: Get Unstuck & Into Alignment Using Human Design With Hillary McVeigh
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, I welcome special guest and Human Design expert, Hilary McVeigh. Hilary shares her journey from being...
Ep #16: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Dating Patterns (Without You Realizing)
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating — like chasing emotionally unavailable people, feeling like you’re “too much,” ...
Ep #15: Am I Anxiously Attached... or Just Really Into Them?
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever met someone new and immediately felt hooked? Like one great date has your brain spiraling with “What if they’re the one?!” and the...
Ep #14: Hot, Healed & High-Performing: The Power of Discipline, Devotion & Self-Leadership With Dijana Djukicc
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
My friends… this one is a soul shaker. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop tolerating the bare minimum — from yourself, your life, your re...
Ep #13: Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People (And How to Break the Cycle)
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you always fall for the person who sends mixed signals, keeps you guessing, and never fully commits? You’re not alone. In this episod...
Ep #12: Friendship - A Personal Story About Losing Myself, Finding Myself & The Power of Real Connection
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m sharing something really close to my heart—a live talk I gave recently at the On Purpose even...
Ep #11: Flirting 101: Micro Flirts, Rejection-Proof Confidence & Building Genuine Connection with The Flirt Coach, Benjamin Camras
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Flirting isn’t just about romance—it’s about confidence, connection, and having fun in your own skin. In this episode of The Secure Love Club po...
Ep #10: The Tug-of-War Between Desire & Discipline in Dating & How To Expand Your Capacity For Discomfort
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt like your heart and your head are at war when it comes to dating - this episode is for you. In this juicy deep dive, I’m break...
Ep #9: What To Do When Your Partner Finds Other People Attractive!!!
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode nine of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re discussing the sensitive topic of jealousy in relationships and the anxiety and insecurity st...
Ep #8: Navigating Breakups and Embracing Transformation
17 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode eight of the Secure Love Club podcast, I address the painful and often isolating experience of going through a breakup and offer a compassi...
Ep #7: Sex, Attachment & Self-Worth: Breaking Free from Anxious Patterns with Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Specialist, Eliza Wilson
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready for a deep dive into the juiciest episode of the Secure Love Club podcast yet! Join me as I chat with the incredible Eliza Wilson, a therape...
Ep #6: Life Update: Independence, Dating, and Embracing Change In My 30s
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode six of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share a personal BTS life update on the challenges I’m facing right now as a single woman in my 30...
Ep #5: Crazy Ways Listening To My Intuition Changed My Life!
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode five of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share personal stories where trusting my intuition led to life-changing outcomes, such as changing ...
Ep #4: How My Client Maria Went From Toxic Relationships To Secure Love
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I sit down for an inspiring conversation with my client Maria, who shares her transformative journey from being in a toxic re...
Ep #3: How To Identify Avoidant Behaviour Early On And What Secure Signs To Look For In Dating
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode three of the Secure Love Club podcast, we dive into how to identify avoidant behaviour early on and what secure signs to look for in dating...
Ep #2: How To Navigate Dating Multiple People In The Early Stages Of Dating
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In episode two of the Secure Love Club podcast, I discuss the benefits of dating multiple people in the early stages to manage anxious attachment tend...
Ep #1: From Anxious To Secure: My Story And Path To Coaching
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the debut episode of the Secure Love Club podcast! In this first episode, I share my personal journey from dealing with anxious attachment ...