We Can Do Hard Things
Episodes
88. Brené Brown & Barrett Guillen Sisters Double Date!!
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Brené and Barrett share their parenting strategy that Brené calls “the opposite of raising a child that’s full of shame.” 2. The family of ...
87. Jen Hatmaker & Tyler Merritt Double Date!
14 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jen Hatmaker is back with the new man in her life–actor, author, and activist Tyler Merritt–for a double date with Glennon and Abby discussing: ...
86. Jen Hatmaker: What We Win When We Lose It All
12 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Jen describes the shock of losing her 26-year marriage overnight. 2. How, looking back, Jen sees that she knew something was wrong in her relatio...
85. Susan Cain Says Sadness is a Superpower
07 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How to know if you are a “Bittersweet” type. 2. On “stabs of joy”—and why our joy is often accompanied by dread. 3. How to complete the c...
84. Mothers & Sons with Ocean Vuong (and Chase Melton)
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Glennon’s son, Chase, joins Glennon for a special conversation with his hero, author Ocean Vuong, to discuss: 1. Chase shares with Ocean the impact...
83. Brené Brown: What to Say to Get What You Need
31 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How to know when to dig deep–and when to quit digging. 2. The greatest blocker of connection–and how to remove it. 3. How to handle our fear ...
82. Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Hannah describes her later-in-life Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as “an exfoliation of shame.” 2. How neurodiversity affects Hannah’...
81. Pro-Aging: Why the Best is Yet to Come with Ashton Applewhite.
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why we’ve been sold a lie–and the truth that we actually get happier the older we get! 2. The two most important–and shocking–predictors of...
80. This is 46: Why I’m Pumped About Midlife
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How Glennon is using her 46th birthday as an intermission–to slow down and decide what to bring with her into Act 2. 2. The counterculture power ...
79. The Power of Rethinking Everything with Dr. Yaba Blay
17 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why the construct of beauty is oppressive, but the essence of beauty is freedom. 2. What living with integrity looks like. 3. Why Dr. Blay doesn’...
78. REGRET: What if we’d done things differently?
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Amanda shares the biggest regret of her life: the one that still wakes her up in the middle of the night. 2. The five biggest regrets of the dying—...
77. Double Date with Brandi & Catherine Carlile!
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this hilarious and heartwarming in-person double date with Abby and Glennon—and their dear friends and brilliant artists Brandi and Catherine Car...
76. Brandi Carlile: Live From My Couch!
08 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. The two disagreements between Brandi and Glennon that started, and cemented, their friendship. 2. Brandi’s lifelong quest to continuously “cali...
75. ALOK: How do we interrupt trauma? How do we heal?
03 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How do we make a new thing with our life? 2. What is your fingerprint on the world? 3. Who does history try to erase and why? 4. What does pain do ...
74. ALOK: What makes us beautiful? What makes us free?
01 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
“The days that I feel most beautiful are the days that I am most afraid.” “What feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to su...
73. Pet Love: Are Animals the Closest We Come to Unconditional Love?
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Amanda shares the story of Séamus, the newest addition to her family–and how he has ruined her “religion” of the spreadsheet. 2. Why Glenn...
72. Double Date with Megan Rapinoe & Sue Bird!
22 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For their first (of hopefully many) podcast double dates, Abby and Glennon sit down with the icons, activists, and Olympians Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bir...
71. Be Messy, Complicated & Afraid–and Show Up Anyway
17 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda continue their conversation about Glennon’s eating disorder relapse and the Next Right Thing for their family. ...
70. My Hardest Thing
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Glennon shares about her recent eating disorder relapse. If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today. If it tr...
69. Pet Peeves: What Do Our Biggest Annoyances Say About Us?
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon explains her “soundaries”—and why a lack of audiorial yield in public places is her biggest peeve. 2. Abby’s struggle, as a bonus p...
68. SARAH PAULSON IS PLAYING GLENNON ON TV!!
08 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon reenacts her first emotional and hilarious email exchange with Sarah Paulson about the Untamed TV show. 2. Sarah contemplates how she...
67. How to Get More Joy with Martha Beck
03 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why it’s important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love. 2. What Glennon s...
66. How to Come Home to Yourself with Martha Beck
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long? 2. What Martha said to Glen...
65. How Do We Make–and Keep–Good Friends?
27 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How chronic social isolation throughout the pandemic has impacted our friendships–and why that’s affecting our mental health and cravings for c...
64. FRIENDSHIP: What is it and why do we need it now more than ever?
25 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why the connection of friendship is emerging as the single best thing for your wellness—and three things that define a healthy friendship. 2. How...
63. How to Live a Little Happier with Dr. Laurie Santos
20 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. The simple exercises Laurie conducts with her students at Yale to help them reset their brains and restructure their days in order to access happin...
62. The Big Lies & the Truth About Happiness with Dr. Laurie Santos
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. One easy thing we can do to increase our happiness by 1% when we’re feeling tired and overwhelmed. 2. Our misconception that happiness is about o...
61. Are Your Friendships Draining or Charging You? with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
13 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. How do we build a squad of friends–people we can trust our truth and imperfection with, and who take responsibility for one another’s care? 2. ...
60. Telling the Truth of Who We Are with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
11 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. A hilarious, profound take on judging people, and why Luvvie’s telling the world–and has often told Glennon–to: “Fix your face.” 2. How t...
59. Be Still: How to Listen to That Something Inside That Always Knows
06 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. What if we stop trying to figure out whether our feelings and intuition are “right” or “wrong”– and instead, just acknowledge them as rea...
58. New Year, Same You: Good News About Bad January Branding
04 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why do we spend our lives trying to become what our culture ascribes as “good” only to burn ourselves out, wake up, and realize: I thought it ...
57. Walking Our People Through Hard Things with Kate Bowler
30 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. What we should STOP saying to people who are struggling—and what to say, or do, instead. 2. How Kate received the support she needed because pe...
56. What to Do with Our Short, Precious Life with Kate Bowler
28 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Kate describes the overwhelming feeling of love—not anger—that she felt when she was sure she was near death. 2. Why it’s time we throw out...
55. Eff Perfection: Let’s Rest in the Rubble Together
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. What if we deleted the picture in our head of how it’s “supposed to be,” and looked at “what is” right now, as enough? 2. What makes a go...
54. Unexpected Joy: How do we redefine success so we can find joy?
21 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda share how opening up and being vulnerable on the podcast has changed their lives. 2. What your preparation style says a...
53. How to Love Yourself & Let Yourself be Loved with Ashley C. Ford
16 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Ashley says we have to talk about what hurts if we’re ever going to heal. 2. Glennon asks Ashley about the power of apologizing—and why Ash...
52. FORGIVING & FINDING PEACE with ASHLEY C. FORD
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How to find a way to live in peace: to actually love complicated parents without compromising our love for ourselves. 2. How we can’t change our ...
51. First Ever Live Q & A with the Pod Squad!
09 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why embracing that it’s not possible to do everything brings freedom. 2. One change that Amanda made to get back into her body and reclaim her fi...
50. GET UNTAMED (Live!): This is How You Find Yourself
07 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. What Tish said when asked, “Who has taught you the most about love?”— why it was the best day of Abby’s life, and led her to redefine what...
49. Dr. Brené Brown: On Holding Boundaries & Facing Our Fear
02 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Brené and Glennon role play through a scenario on how to put boundaries in practice with family members this holiday season. 2. Why Brené insis...
48. DR. BRENÉ BROWN: How to Know Ourselves & Be Known by Our People
30 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Brené’s new book ATLAS OF THE HEART is a game changer for communicating hard emotions more easily. 2. Brené breaks down the difference be...
47. YOUR HOLIDAY PEP TALK: “We ask no questions of this day.”
25 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon gives you a beautiful Thanksgiving pep talk that has Amanda and Abby nodding along and rolling with laughter. 2. Why Amanda suggests that...
46. HAPPYISH HOLIDAYS: Our Top Three Hacks
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How our second holiday hack—“Be unsurprised”—eliminates walking on eggshells around family, and leaving holiday gatherings feeling badly ab...
45. RUNNERS & CHEERERS: Marathon Life with Shalane Flanagan
18 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How a marathon is an analogy for life: the danger of comparison, the ride of emotions and self-doubt, that love is fuel, and that the world needs b...
44. GABRIELLE UNION: Infertility, Bonus Parents & Free Families
16 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Gabrielle shares—as rawly and honestly as we’ve ever heard—about the “emotional chaos” of her years experiencing miscarriage, infertility...
43. Esther Perel Answers Your Relationship Questions
11 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Esther often recommends letter writing if you don’t know quite how to start—or have—hard conversations. 2. What to say—and when to ...
42. ARE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ALIVE? with Esther Perel
09 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How, if you have been struggling in your romantic, parental, family, or work relationships through the lingering uncertainty of the last two years,...
41. LANDING IN LOVE: Is the settling-in phase the best stage of love?
04 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How Glennon and Abby transitioned from the “falling in love” phase to “landing in love” at different times—and how Glennon felt “bamboo...
40. FALLING IN LOVE: Is there really “the one” or is “the one” YOU?
02 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why “falling in love” feels like you’re losing your mind—and Amanda’s experience when Glennon fell hard for Abby. 2. Why Abby thinks th...
39. Passion, Praise & Getting Personal
28 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon makes a “pod-pology”—and why we should stop saying, “I can’t imagine.” 2. Amanda makes the case for no longer praising people...
38. HOW TO SAY NO with Simone Biles and Laurie Hernandez
26 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
HOW TO SAY NO with Simone Biles and Laurie Hernandez In this very special conversation, three GOATs and Glennon discuss: 1. What we can learn from ...
37. Creativity, Chemistry & Claiming Your Joy
21 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How Amanda’s breaking point—when her life felt like all “shoulds” and no “wants”—led to simple, concrete changes. 2. Why the labels...
36. WRITING & ART: When does your real self get to breathe and be seen?
19 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How writing is a lifeline for Glennon because it’s the one place her real self can tell the truth. 2. Why Abby feels that her time on the soccer ...
35. UNBOUND with Tarana Burke—Part 2
14 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We’re continuing our conversation with activist, founder of the me too movement, and our personal friend and hero,Tarana Burke. We talk about: 1....
34. UNBOUND with Tarana Burke—Part 1
12 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Please join us in the first part of our joyful, energizing, and hopeful conversation with activist, advocate, and our personal hero,Tarana Burke. We t...
33. Living by Your Own Original Music Instead of Crappy Cover Tunes
07 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Glennon believes the bravest thing she’s ever done was marching into her counselor’s office in high school—and what made her finally say,...
32. BEING BRAVE: What does it take to REALLY be Brave?
05 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The story that led to Abby’s iconic haircut—how that decision terrified her, changed how she played the game, and changed how she lives her lif...
31. Answering Your Sex Questions with Emily Nagoski
30 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back with author and sex educator, Emily Nagoski, taking our Pod Squad’s questions about sex. 1. How to navigate a relationship when one ...
30. REAL, JOYFUL SEX with Emily Nagoski
28 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We welcome our very first guest, author and sex educator Emily Nagoski, who talks with us about how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives...
29. People Pleasing, Unlocked Doors & First Kisses
23 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why Abby says that people pleasing is both her superpower and her Achilles heel. 2. Why Glennon says playing with kids is just the worst—and insi...
28. LET HER REST: We respond to the Pod Squad’s mind-blowing questions.
21 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The one question to ask ourselves if we want to know if our love is really reaching our people. 2. How Glennon’s dearest friend Liz Gilbert taugh...
27. California Love, Sex Fantasies & How to Know What to Do (in Bed)
16 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The amazing life hack that has Glennon and Abby replying “Yes” to social invitations. 2. Glennon acknowledges her sexual fantasies … and TRIE...
26. SEXUAL DESIRE: How do we know who and what we really want?
14 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How Abby discovered she was gay while out to dinner with her parents at a Macaroni Grill. 2. The moment Glennon knew for sure she was queer (in an ...
25. You’re NOT A MESS. The world is.
09 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The viral note Glennon wrote to herself in her car this week—and how the world’s response confirmed that we’re all struggling right now. 2. H...
24. ALL THE FEELS: Can we experience our emotions—not as good or bad—but as information to guide us?
07 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon describes how she’s feeling as her oldest leaves for college—and the survival strategy that’s getting her through. 2. The life secret...
23. Lightning Love & Not Calming Down
02 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Amanda presents a case for “summer rain” love—and rejects “lightning love” as the highest form of romantic love. 2. Glennon’s theory fo...
22. REAL TALK: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?
31 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Five communication ideas that might help us connect more deeply with people. 2. How Glennon feels that “everyone is talking but nobody is listeni...
21. On Cussing, “Cattiness” & What Feminism Means to G
26 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon lets f-ing loose about the misogyny in our cursing lexicon—and how it reveals our hidden conditioning. (Note: Don’t listen with the kid...
20. PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture’s invention of gender typecast every last one of us?
24 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How, in the business world, Amanda is labeled as aggressive and dominant—and why that’s a gender trap. 2. Abby’s experiences of being publicl...
19. SISTER ACT: Who is Amanda—and seriously, how does she know all the things?
19 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The Pod Squad is peeved that Glennon refers to Amanda as “Sister”—so what should we call her? 2. How Glennon and Amanda both spent their coll...
18. “BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?
17 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Why are we conditioned to spend so much of our precious time and energy on our appearance? 2. Why is it that when men put work into the world, the ...
17. EASY THINGS: Why, for some of us, is lightening up the hardest thing to do?
12 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon’s radical acceptance that she’s always going to be a midnight person in a sunshine world. 2. Our favorite movies and music—and what t...
16. QUITTING: When is it time to let something or someone go?
10 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The one question to ask yourself when deciding whether it’s time to quit something. 2. Why Glennon actually believes that quitting each day is ne...
15. Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators
05 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. If you’re like 75% of women, Amanda’s hot tips for setting yourself up for success in the bedroom. 2. Detoxing from religious purity / sex sh...
14. SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?
03 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby discuss their sex origin stories and how that shapes their current sex fears. 2. Glennon’s high-pressure situation of s...
13. Brave Parenting Qs & the Power of Saying YES!
29 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Glennon and Amanda decided to add a second episode each week after Glennon’s big move to California—in the first Thursday episode, they discuss: 1...
12. PARENTING: How do we make this thrilling, terrifying roller coaster ride a little bit easier?
27 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. The 5 things Glennon wishes she’d known during those early days with young kids. 2. Why it’s important to let our kids see us mess up, cry, and...
11. REDEFINING FAMILY with Craig: Does letting go of what family “should be” help us embrace the family we have?
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. Craig’s first two thoughts the moment Glennon sent him “the text.” 2. How Glennon and Craig told the kids they were divorcing. 3. The big m...
10. OUR BODIES: Why are we at war with them and can we ever make peace?
13 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
TW // eating disorders 1. Glennon’s “final frontier”—her attempt to stop controlling her body. 2. The opportunity costs of a lifetime spent ob...
9. QUEER FREEDOM: How can we be both held and free?
06 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How Abby learned from church as a child to hate herself—and the healing moment she realized that God and religion are not the same. 2. The miracu...
8. SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met?
29 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from. 2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal. 3. Why refusing to be...
7. FIGHTING WELL: Is your conflict style making or breaking your relationships?
22 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, in which Abby joins Glennon and Amanda, discover: 1. How Glennon and Abby realized that each of their recurring Five Fights (abou...
6. OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?
15 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In the episode discover: 1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano. 2. The job description...
5. ADDICTION: How do we love an addict and how does an addict love herself?
08 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
TW // abortion, bulimia, addiction In this episode discover: 1. How Amanda protected their sisterhood from Glennon’s addiction. 2. Which of...
4. FUN: What the hell is it and why do we need it?
01 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode—in which Abby confronts my sister and me about our inability to have fun—discover: 1. The one “fun” post that caused more peo...
3. INFIDELITY: How do we trust—and fully love—again?
25 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, discover: 1. The messed up way my sister Amanda learned her marriage was over -- and how that sabotaged her healing process. 2. How...
2. BOUNDARIES: Are too few (or too many) why we stay stuck?
18 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this Episode, discover: My quirkiest boundary and how I finally fired Texts as the Boss of Me. Our response to a Pod Squad listener’s questio...
1. ANXIETY: Is it just love holding its breath?
11 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode discover: 1. Glennon’s description of an anxiety attack. 2. The 3 strategies that help her find calm. 3. The original We Can Do Hard...
We Can Do Hard Things Podcast Premieres Tuesday, May 11th!
24 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Introducing We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle! I’m Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed – the book that was released at the very start of the p...