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Ep. 150 | Why the Most Energizing Day You'll Have This Year Might Cost You Nothing

29 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm sharing something one of my retreat participants did after our retreat that I think is one of the most quietly radical things I...

Ep. 149 | What I Realized I Lost When Everything Went Online

28 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm talking about something I've been slowly noticing and am finally ready to say out loud.  Before Covid I was in the world every...

Ep. 148 | Why Taking Care of Your Body Is an Act of Self-Love Not a Chore

27 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm sharing a ritual my friend Betsy introduced me to — you write thirteen wishes, burn twelve, keep the one that survives. Mine ...

Ep. 147 | How Sending Love to Strangers Changed the Way I Fall Asleep

26 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm sharing something that started as a genuine annoyance — major nighttime construction outside my home, 9pm to 6am — and turn...

Ep. 146 | Why Giving Is Easy and Receiving Is So Hard

25 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm talking about something I witness at almost every retreat I host — women who have come specifically to be received, and the m...

Ep. 145 | How to Stop Taking Other People's Behavior So Personally

22 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm sharing something my friend Andrew modeled for me at a Q + A recently that I have been genuinely trying to practice ever since....

Ep. 144 | Why Not Knowing What to Do Next Isn't the Same as Being Lost

22 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode I'm sharing a reframe that has saved me more times than I can count — sometimes you don't know what the next right thing is, but ...

Ep. 143 | Why Feeling Out of Place in a Room Full of People You Love Is More Common Than You Think

20 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is a vulnerable one... YAY! I had a hard Mother's Day and I'm talking about it.  Susan Cain writes in Bittersweet that our longing is...

Ep. 142 | How to Let Things Be What They Want to Be

19 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing what happened when my friend Michelle and I co-hosted an event that started with big plans for twenty people and ended...

Ep. 141 | Why Meditation Makes You Better at Everything Else in Your Life

18 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode — your official public service announcement for meditation, you're welcome — I'm making a case for the practice that makes ever...

Ep. 140 | Why We Are More the Same Than We Are Different

15 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something that happened at a retreat I hosted recently — watching three women who know each other well slowly put do...

Ep. 139 | Why You Don't Need a Reason to Say No

14 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a friend said to me at my house recently that opened up a whole new way of thinking about boundaries — the...

Ep. 138 | Why Half-Surrendering Is Keeping You Stuck

13 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a friend said to me recently that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. He called it a one-handed surr...

Ep. 137 | How to Stop Letting Your Past Trip You Up

12 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something I saw on a sign in a cute little cafe that I genuinely could not stop thinking about — don't stumble over ...

Ep. 136 | Why Not Telling People What You Need Is Actually Keeping You From Being Loved

11 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing a conversation I had with someone two weeks into one of the bravest decisions of her life — and the reframe that cha...

Ep. 135 | How to Stop Rushing the Things Worth Building

08 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something I caught myself doing recently when a friend of mine started doing some consulting work for me - I wanted tw...

Ep. 134 | Why Diet Culture Stole Your Patience - And How to Get It Back

07 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something that came up in my SOS group this week that I think doesn't get named nearly enough - one of the great...

Ep. 133 | Why We Use External Things to Feel Like Enough (And What to Do About It)

06 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something that happened at a car dealership recently that revealed something about myself I genuinely didn't see comin...

Ep. 132 | Why Feeling Worse After Deep Work Probably Means It's Working

05 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something that happened after a group sound healing I hosted at my house last week. One of the participants called me ...

Ep. 131 | Why Taking Action Is the Fastest Way to Change How You Feel About Yourself

04 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a friend of mine came up with that I found so spiritually alive I couldn't stop thinking about it — a sham...

Ep. 130 | How to Do a Shame Fast - And Why Your Thoughts Might Need One

01 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something a friend of mine came up with that I found so spiritually alive I couldn't stop thinking about it — a sham...

Ep. 129 | How to Stop Worrying About Problems That Haven't Happened Yet

30 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing one of the most useful questions I know that I learned about two weeks into my recovery when I was catastrophizing abo...

Ep. 128 | Why Loving Yourself Means Showing Up Even When You Don't Feel Like It

29 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something I'm genuinely proud of — and something that took me a very long time to build. Consistency. The smal...

Ep. 127 | Why Not Asking for What You Need Is Costing You More Than You Think

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something a client said to me recently that stopped me cold — she wanted to ask her roommate to move food that...

Ep. 126| How to Stop Self-Sabotage When the Voice Sounds Like You

27 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Someone in a spiritual circle I'm part of said something recently I have not been able to stop thinking about — wouldn't it be amazing if our fear v...

Ep. 125 | If You Want a Village You Have to Be a Villager

24 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something I've learned about community the hard way and the beautiful way — that if you want a village, you have to ...

Ep. 124 | How to Find Gratitude in the Ordinary Moments (Before the World Wakes Up)

23 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a woodpecker I had never seen before — and what it reminded me about the ordinary moments I walk through every...

Ep. 123 | Are You Treating Yourself Like You're Fragile? (You're Not)

22 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something a workout instructor said to me that I couldn't shake — and a pattern I catch myself in that I think...

Ep. 122 | Why Sometimes You Need Something to Hold You Still

21 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about Danny's first girls' night back — and what happened when my 75 pound lab mix couldn't find his ground.  A...

Ep. 121 | Why the Opposite of Addiction Is Connection (And What It Takes to Choose It)

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the loneliness you can feel in a crowded room — and why I think it might be the most dangerous kind.  A clien...

Ep. 120 | Why It's Okay to Let Yourself Be Happy Right Now

17 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a friend who asked her prayer circle to support her in her joy — and what that brave, honest request revealed ...

Ep. 119 | Why the Danger Zone Isn't the Hard Part (It's the Exhale After)

16 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing something I learned in my SOS group that I had never heard named before — post-collapse syndrome.  My first sponsor...

Ep. 118 | You Don't Need a Reason to Feel What You Feel

15 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a client who couldn't let herself be out of sorts until she could explain why — and what that pattern is costi...

Ep. 117 | How to Read the Signs the Universe Is Sending You (What Driftwood Taught Me)

14 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about something a friend said at dinner that I had to write down.  She called it driftwood — the idea that when...

Ep. 116 | Why Lucky People Aren't Just Born That Way (The Science of Believing You're Lucky)

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about Grandma Bev — who just turned 100, sharp as a tack, the woman who opened her doors to my mom and me when w...

Ep. 115 | How to Find Wonder in Everyday Life (What My Dog Taught Me)

10 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about Danny's first walk after two weeks of bed rest — and what it felt like to watch him encounter a fire hydra...

Ep. 114 | Why You Can't Rush Your Way Back After a Hard Season

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about something my mother said to me about Danny — my 75 pound lab mix who just had surgery and is currently on ...

Ep. 113 | Why You Can't Make Brave Decisions Based on What Might Happen

08 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about an amend I almost didn't make — because I was certain I already knew how it would end.  My spiritual teac...

Ep. 112 | How to Love Someone as They Are (Not as You Wish They Were)

07 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about a wedding vow that stopped me in my tracks — and a question my spiritual guide has had to ask me more than...

Ep. 111 | What If Your Hardest Healing Work Is Actually a Privilege?

06 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about a friend of mine who had a real breakthrough — and spent the whole time describing it like a prison senten...

Ep. 110 | How to Rewrite the Story Your Body Has Been Carrying

03 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about one of the greatest gifts of being human: the ability to rewrite our stories.  I've done it over and over — g...

Ep. 109 | What the Flu Taught Me About Letting Go of My Plans

02 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about the time I got the flu, cancelled my whole week — including patients, which was not easy — and thought I...

Ep. 108 | How to Change Your Perspective When Everything Feels Wrong

01 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about the time my kitchen turned purple — and how the worst thing about my house in Charlotte turned out to be t...

Ep. 107 | What Are You Fixing So You Don't Have to Feel?

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing the phone call where my friend and I were deep in fear about the state of the world — and then she pivoted to asking...

Ep. 106 | Why You Should Never Stop Trying New Things in Your Healing

30 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm getting honest about why the EMDR intensive hit so deeply... I have no idea.  What I do know is this: you never know which he...

Ep. 105 | Why the Messy Middle Isn't the End of Your Story

27 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the phone call I had with a friend of mine who told me she was "grieving the end of her career."  And why I gen...

Ep. 104 | Why You're So Exhausted After Doing Hard Things

26 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing what happened after I completed a month-long EMDR intensive — and why the days that followed were some of the most i...

Ep. 103 | How to Make a Decision When You Don't Know What's Right

25 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the thing Harrison Ford's character says on Shrinking that made me pause the TV: "You don't know whether your ch...

Ep. 102 | What If the Next Loving Choice Is Enough?

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing what happened when a client in deep grief told me she wanted to double down on a strict food plan — and why I sugges...

Ep. 101 | How to Let Go of Resentment When You're Not Ready to Forgive

23 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about the night my ex walked into my meeting and turned into a brick wall.  I felt the armor go up, the rage come...

Ep. 100 | Why Your Hardest Patterns Are the Last to Change

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about the patch of snow on my nature trail that refused to melt — and what it taught me about why our deepest pa...

Ep. 99 | Why the Things You Can't Control Might Actually Be Protecting You

19 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm giving you a Danny update! His surgery went beautifully, but now we're navigating the chaos of a joyful seventy-five-pound Lab...

Ep. 98 | The Prayer That Stopped Me From Chasing What I Don't Have

18 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing a conversation I had with one of my closest friends who asked me the question everyone loves to ask: "So what's going ...

Ep. 97 | How to Start When Everything Feels Too Big

17 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing what happens when my dog Danny's third surgery sends me into full shutdown mode, and the reading from Melody Beattie's...

Ep. 96 | What If Being Too Much Is the Whole Point?

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the moment a coaching client said to me — half joking, fully serious — "I'm worried you're going to fire me ...

Ep. 95 | You're Not Broken, So Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the Instagram trend of calling out wellness influencers for the endless cycle of products and fixes — and the ...

Ep. 94 | Stop Waiting for Permission to Take Back Your Space

12 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when I stopped waiting on my brother to tell me what my own life was going to look like - and took...

Ep. 93 | Your Best Is Already Better Than You Think

11 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a story Ana Gasteyer told on Amy Poehler's podcast Good Hang that I haven't been able to shake — about playing...

Ep. 92 | What My Podcast Producer Keeps Teaching Me About Grace

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the emails I keep writing to my podcast producer Shantale — and how her consistent, unflappable kindness is te...

Ep. 91 | How to Stop Fawning and Start Asking for What You Want

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the phone call I got from a friend in the middle of a breakup — and why the most important question I asked he...

Ep. 90 | The Danger of Making Anyone Your Authority

06 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something a healer used to say to me all the time — "healers are humans" — and why the way we unconsciously ...

Ep. 89 | Why Blind Faith in Spiritual Leaders Can Cost You Everything

05 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about an article that shook me — and what the Epstein files, the silence of the wellness industry, and the courage o...

Ep. 88 | The Power of the Pause Before You React

04 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened at my dog's daycare that taught me about the space between impulse and action. I share how I got s...

Ep. 87 | What If Promoting Yourself Is Actually an Act of Service?

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the text my bff Lauren's mom sent me from a dinner in Florida that called out my lack of social media presence —...

Ep. 86 | What a Moped Driver in Marrakesh Taught Me About Overthinking

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what I learned from watching moped drivers navigate the wild, chaotic streets of the Marrakesh Medina — and wh...

Ep. 85 | Why the Shedding Never Stops (And Why That's the Point)

27 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a voice memo my friend sent me in the middle of eclipse season — and why I couldn't sugarcoat my answer when s...

Ep. 84 | Why the Second Time Through Is Never As Scary

26 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when we got hit with another massive blizzard — and why twenty inches of snow didn't scare me th...

Ep. 82 | When the Universe Has a Better Plan Than You Do

25 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm sharing a new mantra that's getting me through one of the hardest winters I can remember: THE SNOW WILL MELT.  I share the mo...

Ep. 82 | When the Universe Has a Better Plan Than You Do

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm telling you about Kimberly - the stranger on a plane who became a friend after I thought my flight was ruined.  I share how t...

Ep. 81 | Why Stepping Outside Your Box Is Medicine for the Soul

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when I got back from Morocco - and why new experiences might be exactly what your soul is hungry f...

Ep. 80 | How to Stop Giving Away Credit for Your Own Wins

20 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something a client wrote to me that made me realize how often we give away credit for our own wins.  I share th...

Ep. 79 | Grace Gives the Shovel, But You Have to Dig

19 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened after my first EMDR session - and what my spiritual advisor Juliana said that completely reframed ...

Ep. 78 | How to Ask for What You Need Without Feeling Selfish

18 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when my best friend's car was blocking me in at 5:45am - and what it taught me about asking for wh...

Ep. 77 | How to Stop Gripping What Isn't Working

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what a big ugly tractor taught me about acceptance being the doorway to change.  I share the story of a client ...

Ep. 76 | Why Valentine's Day Is My Favorite Holiday (Even Though I'm Single)

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about why Valentine's Day is my favorite holiday - and why it has nothing to do with romantic love.  I share how writ...

Ep. 75 | Why I'm Starting Trauma Therapy Again

13 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm getting personal about something I couldn't shake - and why I've decided to do intensive EMDR trauma therapy.  I share why "w...

Ep. 74 | Sometimes Rest Looks Like Adventure

12 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about my upcoming trip to Morocco with my friend Betsy - and why sometimes refilling yourself doesn't look like rest a...

Ep. 73 | The Words You Use Are a Contract With the Universe

11 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what a hypnotist said to my friend that completely changed her relationship with vaping - and what it taught me ...

Ep. 72 | What If This Just Works?

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when my friend was hedging before a big trip with her new boyfriend - preparing for disappointment...

Ep. 71 | The Intentional Thing I Did When I Felt Depleted and Empty

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what I did after getting shaken by drama - and why going where the love is might be the most important thing you...

Ep. 70 | The Same Sound Can Be Annoying or Beautiful Depending on Where You Are

06 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something a client said that made me think about how our internal state colors everything we experience. I share...

Ep. 69 | Why Comparing Your Pain to Someone Else's Doesn't Help Anyone

05 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something that came up with my spiritual advisor while she was literally shoveling garbage in Africa - and why c...

Ep. 68 | When Someone Gives You Permission to Have Fun

04 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the moment my yoga teacher Gregg set a boundary with me when I showed up to class bratty and demanding - and why...

Ep. 67 | When Compassion Becomes Too Costly

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something that happened with one of my closest friends - someone with the biggest heart who was taking on her ex...

Ep. 66 | There's No Such Thing as an Unanswered Prayer

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when I asked for help with something that felt almost too small to share - my dog Danny struggling...

Ep. 65 | The Courage It Takes to Reconcile

30 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about a phone call I received from someone I used to guide spiritually - someone who reached out after years to make a...

Ep. 64 | Why Your Work Matters More Than You Think

29 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the voice that came in questioning whether my work matters enough when there are such important things going on ...

Ep. 63 | Why I Almost Didn't Go to the Shiva (And Why I'm So Glad I Did)

28 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about almost not going to a shiva because I wasn't on the invite list - and how my friend Jenny reminded me that showi...

Ep. 62 | What If We Stopped Obsessing Over the Worst-Case Scenario?

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happened when I lost my keys on a walk with my dog and immediately spiraled into worst-case scenario thinki...

Ep. 61 | When It's Time to Leave a Room That's Hurting You

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something vulnerable - getting pulled into drama that brought me right back to 8th grade, and what my friends ta...

Ep. 60 | Catching Sadness Before It Becomes Despair

23 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what my friend's emergency root canal taught me about feelings - and why we can't postpone pain, no matter how i...

Ep. 59 | Why the First Time Through Is Always the Hardest

22 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what my yoga teacher said that completely reframed how I think about transitions - and why the first time throug...

Ep. 58 | How Telling the Truth Made My Shame Disappear

21 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about something I learned recently about shame - and how telling the truth to the right people can make it disappear. ...

Ep. 57 | The Night I Sobbed in a Parking Lot After a Book Launch

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the night I hysterically cried in a parking lot after watching someone else launch their book - and how that mom...

Ep. 56 | The Moment I Stopped Asking Someone to Become Who I Wanted

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about the moment my ex asked me what it would take to get back together - and how years of healing showed up in one se...

Ep. 55 | When Fear Quietly Sabotages the Life You're Building

16 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about how fear sabotages us - not with drama or rebellion, but quietly, by disguising itself as forgetfulness or procr...

Ep. 54 | Meeting People's Mess With Grace Instead of Judgment

15 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it looks like when someone meets your chaos with grace - and what happens when you forget to do the same. I...

Ep. 53 | What Needs to Go Out in 2025: Compartmentalization, What Needs to Come In: Compassion

14 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what needs to go out in 2025 - compartmentalization - and what needs to come in in 2026 - compassion. I share wh...

Ep. 52 | How I Taught Myself to Love Something I Hated (The Hot Yoga Experiment)

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about how I taught myself to love hot yoga by going every single day for two weeks - even though I hated it at first. ...

Ep. 51 | The 3-Year-Old Who Wanted to Smell Everything (And What He Taught Me About Being Alive)

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about what my 3-year-old godson taught me about curiosity, wonder, and using all of our senses to really experience li...