Connection Codes

Shrimp Rings & Silver Trees: The Holiday Traditions That Made Us Who We Are

23 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What do a silver Christmas tree, a shrimp ring, and a pen from a Pringles can all have in common? They're all part of the wild, wonderful, and som...

When Humor Hurts: Navigating Experiencing the Same Situation Differently

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do the same moments bring one person joy and another person pain? And how can we stop letting those differences destroy our relationships?In this ...

"I'd Rather Be Alone Than Feel Alone": Why Loneliness Isn't What You Think & What Actually Helps

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the real problem isn't being alone, but feeling alone when someone's standing right in front of you?In this powerful conversation, we&...

From Fear to Freedom: A Marriage Coach's Journey to Breakthrough Sexual Connection | With Dan Purcell

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Episode Description:What if one vulnerable conversation could completely transform your marriage? Dan Purcell, marriage intimacy coach and creator of ...

The Difference Between No Conflict and Real Connection | Elijah Runyan

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Episode Description: What happens when both you and your partner are flooded with emotion at the same time? In this behind-the-scenes conversation, Te...

Connection That Changed Generations | Friedemann Pache

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when a pastor discovers he's been missing his wife emotionally for years—not from lack of love, but from lack of tools?In this powe...

From a Facebook Message to Life Change | Annemiek Vernhout

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Episode Description:What starts with downloading a simple emotion wheel? For Annemiek Vernhout, it sparked a complete transformation—in her marriage...

Rebel Against the Silence: How One Decision Changed Everything About My Marriage and Mental Health (with Laurel Simpson)

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you've spent a lifetime being silent—and suddenly, you can't do it anymore?In this powerful conversation, Connection Codes...

Why Your Marriage Keeps Repeating the Same Fight (Identity Loss Explained)

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when a simple email about work scripts triggers a complete relationship nosedive? In this raw, unfiltered episode, we witness Dr. Glenn a...

Why We're Choosing Identity Over Truth (And It's Destroying Our Relationships)

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 188: Identity Over Truth - Why We're All Desperate to Be SeenIn this powerful episode, Tera Wages and Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill explore w...

When Your Partner Is Struggling and Real Talk About Recovery and Pain

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this deeply vulnerable episode, Dr. Glen and Phyllis continue their real-time conflict from last week, diving into the messy reality of what it loo...

Why Vulnerability Isn’t Weakness and How to Build Safety Through Sharing

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive into the powerful interplay between vulnerability and safety in relationships. Drawing from personal stories, cultur...

When Forgiveness Feels Impossible: A New Path to Healing and Connection

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis take on one of the most misunderstood and weaponized words in relationships: forgiveness. They unpack why...

Sex After Kids: Rebuilding Intimacy with Ally Bullock (184)

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this vulnerable and empowering conversation, host Tera Wages sits down with Ally Bullock — licensed marriage and family therapist, Head of Relati...

Don’t Drown in Your Emotions—Process Them - Paul & Hannah McClure’s Story (183)

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis talk with Paul and Hannah McClure—musicians, parents, and certified Connection Codes coaches—...

The School of Connection Is Here (182)

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera Wages sits down with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to unpack the heart behind launching the School of Connection. Together, they explore why disconn...

"I'm So Lonely in This Relationship": When Your Partner Can't See Your Pain with Zephan & Sarah McMinn (181)

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

For nearly two decades, Zephan and Sarah's marriage was in "survival mode". On the surface, everything seemed "fine," but unde...

Why No One Is Too Young to Learn Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Asher Hill (180)

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill welcome their grandson, Asher Hill, to share his journey of learning and practicing the Connection Codes Core Emotion Wheel...

The Role of Vulnerability in Personal Growth (179)

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this heartfelt episode, we explore the transformative power of vulnerability in personal growth. Join us as Hannah Droll shares her journey of embr...

Processing Emotions Without Judgment with Jonathan Hernandez (178)

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if processing emotions could be simple, kind, and transformative? In this conversation, Dr. Glenn sits down with Jonathan Hernandez — psycholog...

What’s Really Driving Your Relationship (177)

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After 30 days apart, Tera and Wes Wages reunite in this raw and reflective episode to walk through the Core Emotion Wheel—live and unscripted. They ...

Living and Loving with Neurodivergence (176)

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill sit down with Elijah Runyan, Director of Certified Coaching for Connection Codes, to dive deep into the world of neurodiver...

What Your Emotions Are Trying to Tell You (175)

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Phyllis, and Dr. Glenn dive into the deeply human instinct to stay hidden—especially when emotions like shame, sadness, or anger begin to rise...

Are We Traumatizing Our Kids to Sit Still? (173)

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera and Phyllis sit down with trauma-informed coach Echo Hill Vetter to break open what hap...

(Replay)Adding depth to your relationship & working with your partner, not against them...(71)

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you are in a happy, loving relationship where you feel safe but have moments that suddenly your partner feels like the enemy... Ooooo... you aren&#...

How Connection Beats Guilt Every Time with JoAnn Crohn (172)

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When did motherhood start to mean sacrificing your whole self? In this honest episode, No Guilt Mom founder JoAnn Crohn joins Tera to unmask the hidde...

Healing Isn’t Just in Your Head (171)

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, coach Echo Hill Vetter invites us into the often-ignored conversation between our minds and our bodies. With deep vulnerabil...

Learning to Move Before It All Makes Sense(170)

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill welcome back Chris Cruz—Managing Director at Harbor + Union- for a powerful conversation on leadership, action, and emoti...

You Can’t Heal If You Keep Hiding (169)

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful episode, certified Connection Codes coach Bridgett Blood shares her raw and transformative journey through 12 weeks of deep emotional...

What Happens When You Start Showing Up for Yourself with Bridgett Blood(168)

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this heartfelt episode, certified Connection Codes coach Bridgett Blood joins Tera and Phyllis for an honest and moving conversation about what it ...

Naming This Emotion Could Save Your Relationship(167)

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, Tera shares the emotional weight of discovering a lump and choosing silence over fear—until it beca...

We Didn't Know How Disconnected We Were Until We Finally Connected(166)

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with certified Connection Codes coaches Tanya and James, a couple whose journey into emotional healing began in an...

Connection Doesn’t Require You to Shrink (165)

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered if it's okay to raise your voice or show big emotion when you're deeply upset—without damaging your relationships? In...

Why Shame Isn’t the End of the Story with Vanessa Marin (164)

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera sits down with Vanessa Marin, licensed sex therapist and CEO of Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy, to explore how our early messages around sex shape our...

Emotional Safety Is the Secret Weapon in Relationships (163)

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera and Wes Wages get vulnerable about what truly makes — and breaks — connection over time. In this heartfelt and revealing conversation, they e...

What Your Body is Trying To Tell You (162)

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever lay in bed exhausted, but your mind won’t turn off? This episode breaks down why it’s not your to-do list that’s draining you—it’...

Navigating Hurt: How to Hold Space for Your Partner’s Pain and Transform Shame into Connection (161)

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this week’s episode, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into the power of hurt—specifically, how we respond when our partner is hurt by som...

Stop Wearing the Hat They Gave You(160)

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if the story you’ve been telling yourself… isn’t even yours? In this deeply validating and insight-rich episode of the Connection Codes pod...

How Identity Can Heal the World (Yes, Really)(159)

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis explore one of the most foundational elements of human connection: identity. What does it mean to give identity—or to t...

Why You Miss Each Other in Stress(158)

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack a recent “miss” in their relationship—one that reflects a broader season of emotional exhaustion, grief, and l...

The Emotional Cost of Stunt Doubling(157)

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So many of us live as stunt doubles, showing up in spaces—church, work, even our own homes—feeling like we have to perform instead of just be. In ...

Codependency Feels Like Love—Until It’s Not with Echo Hill-Vetter(156)

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage is full of seasons—some where you’re both thriving, some where you’re both struggling, and the hardest ones, where one of you is drowni...

Are You Running on Desire Instead of Capacity?(155)

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Tera Wages sits down with Phyllis Hill and Echo Hill Vedder to talk about a game-changing concept: desire vs. capacity—the differen...

Your Body Remembers What You Refuse to Feel with Echo Vetter(154)

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Tera sits down with trauma-informed coach Echo Vetter to unpack something most of us were never taught—how to process anger in a he...

Stage 4 Cancer and an Unshakable Will to Live with Meaghan Hill (153)

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera sits down with Meaghan Hill for an update that so many listeners have been asking for. Nearly a year after her diagnosis, Meg shares what this jo...

How to Own Your Sexual Energy Without Fear or Judgment with Bridgett Blood (152)

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Certified coach Bridgett Blood joins Phyllis Hill for a conversation about sexual joy and sexual loneliness—what they actually mean and why we’re ...

Why We Choose to Suffer Alone with Bridgett Blood(151)

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholation—a state of psychological isolation where people exper...

Parenting in the Age of Anxiety with Elijah Runyan(150)

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Elijah Runyan, a Connection Codes-certified coach, wellness mentor, and father of four, joins Tera to dig into the emotional rollercoaster of parentin...

How to Recognize Fear of Shame to Get Unstuck with Elijah Runyan (149)

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn are joined by Elijah Runyan, a seasoned Connection Codes coach and the director of their coaching certification program. Elija...

A Blueprint for Financial Peace in Any Relationship with Dan and Kay Ockey(148)

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tera sits down with Dan and Kay Ockey, founders of Centsei, to talk about the emotional and practical side of finances in relationships. From overcomi...

Dream Big, Start Small: How to Build Momentum in 2025(147)

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The Connection Codes team has a conversation about the transition into 2025, sharing their insights on goals, community, and the intentional steps the...

Letting Go of a Life We Built: Behind the Decision(146)

31 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill continue their conversation about how they’re navigating life’s big transitions. They reflect on the decisi...

How to Stop Resentment from Ruining the Holidays(145)

24 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera and Wes talk about the challenges of staying emotionally connected during the busy and often chaotic holiday season. They openly share moments of...

How Pain Became My Compass for Change(144)

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill, alongside Tera Wages, reflect on years of caregiving, immense responsibility, and the hidden toll of staying too long in l...

How to Stay Curious When it Hurts(143)

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis dive right into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions, often leading us to throw out meaningfu...

When Emotions Sneak Up On You(142)

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis talk about the surprising ways emotions can surface and the impact they have on our lives and connections. Phyllis shares ...

What Fear Can Teach Us About Unity with Sharon McMahon(141)

26 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera sits down with Sharon McMahon, widely known as America’s government teacher, to discuss the power of fear as a driver in politics and history. ...

Why Conflict May Be the Key to Closeness with Jordan and Erika Koop(140)

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From th...

Why We Ignore Our Own Needs—and How to Stop(139)

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re r...

Why Changing Beliefs Feels Hard (But Can Be Worth It)(138)

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’...

Sex, Shame, and Society’s Messages to Men(137)

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion...

From Purity Culture to Sexual Confidence(136)

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy...

The Sex Talk Men Never Got with Sam Jolman(135)

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual ide...

How Being Right Could Destroy Your Relationship is great(134)

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconne...

From Childhood Trauma to Adult Dysfunction: Breaking the Cycle(133)

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how...

Are You Weaponizing Your Emotions? How to Avoid Emotional Harm in Parenting (132)

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Connection Codes crew is taking on a listener's question about how parents can express emotions without making their kids feel like they need ...

He Wanted to Quit: The Key to Turning Our Marriage Around(131)

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discu...

Family, Trauma, and Survival: Why You Disassociate and How to Stop(130)

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation a...

Signs of Living in Emotional Pain (129)

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share pe...

The Silent Killer of Your Productivity and Success(128)

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We confront the overwhelming pressures that come with balancing personal and professional lives, and how unprocessed emotions can drastically reduce p...

What safety in a relationship looks like-- and how to get it (127)

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Replay Episode. (We will be back next week with something brand new! But this is one of our most popular episodes that is worth revisiting 🙌🏻) D...

The Truth About 'The One' - The Key to Lasting Relationships(126)

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, the Connection Codes team talks about the realities of love and marriage, pushing back against the lie that relationships are only ab...

How to Ask A Question Without Triggering Your Partner(125)

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode the Connection Codes team is talking about the subtle yet powerful impact of words and emotions in relationships. They explore how see...

Why Pain Management Is Not Enough(124)

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and...

Is Forgiveness Enough?(123)

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This discussion centers around the issue of how past emotional wounds resurface and affect our current relationships. Tune in to hear about the miscon...

Healing Childhood Trauma and Discovering Yourself(122)

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn shares his deeply personal journey, discussing the impact of his childhood trauma and the pressures that led him to adopt a false persona. H...

How Memories Shape Our Identity from Childhood to Adulthood(121)

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis take on the relationship between identity and core emotions. They use "Inside Out 2" as a springboard to discus...

Understand Anxiety to Reduce it(120)

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera are diving into the complicatedness of emotions brought to light by the movie Inside Out 2. They discuss how core emotion...

Engaging Respectfully in Tough Conversations with Justin Jones-Fosu(119)

25 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera welcomes author and speaker Justin Jones-Fosu to discuss the often challenging topic of conflict in our personal and societal relationships. With...

Reaching Health Goals Starts Here with Elijah Runyan (118)

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Elijah Runyan is back to discuss the link between our emotional and physical health. Elijah shares his personal transformation story, explaining how i...

The Shocking Benefits of Emotional Vulnerability with Jordan and Erika Koop(117)

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jordan and Erika Koop are back to discuss their journey from conflict-ridden interactions to powerful emotional connection. Jordan and Erika share how...

Navigating Love and Fear with Lydia and Sebastian Gerhardt(116)

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lydia and Sebastian, the first German certified Connection Codes coaches, are here to share their journey of struggles and breakthroughs when it comes...

Overcoming Numbing pain & Addiction with Elijah Runyan(115)

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Elijah Runyan joins the Connection Codes team to share his journey from numbing pain with alcohol to finding genuine emotional connection. Elijah ope...

Dating with Intention with Bridgett Blood(114)

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Bridgett Blood joins us to discuss the raw realities of dating. We explore the power of showing up authentically from the very first date, the struggl...

Connection as Correction in Parenting with Echo Hill Vetter(113)

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Echo Hill Vetter joins hosts Tara Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill to explore a revolutionary parenting approach that champions connection over...

Shaping a Compassionate Future for Our Children(112)

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera, Echo, and Bridget discuss the transformative power of respectful communication between adults and children. They explore the significant impact ...

Is sex a need or just a desire?(111)

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Glenn Hill and his wife Phyllis along with Tera Wages unabashedly dive into nuanced territories of sex, intimacy, and emotional transparency withi...

Opening Up About Sex through the Hard Conversations(110)

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera and Wes Wages engage in a candid exploration of intimacy and vulnerability within their marriage. They discuss the often unspoken complicatedness...

Finding Joy in the Middle of Pain(109)

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join your host Tera Wages, along with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, as they explore the intricate dance between joy and pain through personal stories an...

When Internship Turns Into Family with Jordan and Erika Koop(108)

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we are journeying alongside the Koops, a Canadian family who ventured into the unfamiliar, embedding themselves with the Hills for an ...

When Faith Meets Psychology with Dr. Margaret Nagib(107)

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we’re discussing emotional regulation, personal transformation, and the intricate relationship between the mind, body, and spirit with our est...

When Joy is Damaging(106)

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we’re exploring the multifaceted nature of joy, an emotion traditionally viewed through a purely positive lens. Listen in on a thoug...

Anger in Depth: Exploring Its Role in Connection and Disconnection(105)

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re discussing the complex nature of anger, distinguishing between its roles as both a primary and secondary emotion. Through a compelling convers...

An update we wish we didn't have to give (104)

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Life changes in an instant and this change has rocked all of our worlds. Today, we are sharing an update on what the Hill family is experiencing with ...

Stop feeling what you are feeling (103)

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We live with the expectation that we can fully control our emotions. But, emotions happen to us. We don't get to choose when they fire. BUT, we do...

How to process childhood pain with parents with Echo Vetter (102)

01 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

No matter how "ideal" parents are- we are all humans and make mistakes that leave pain. As we evolve into adults we find ourselves reliving ...

Shifting from burnout to energy with Echo Vetter (101)

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How are you sourcing your energy? Echo Vetter shares the key components she looks for to determine if she is functioning from a joy point or a pain po...

The Key to Sexual Liberation: Reclaiming Joy and Connection in the Bedroom (100)

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special 100th episode, we discuss the limitations that society imposes on sex. They explore the concept of "the box" and how it rest...

How to be a bold wife with Alisa DiLorenzo (099)

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you struggle with confidence in your marriage-- this is the episode for you! We are joined by Alisa DiLorenzo of the One Extraordinary Marriage and...

The Role of Emotions in Sex (098)

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We answer a question from a listener about how she can connect sexually with her husband when he has turned his emotions off. We dive into how our e...