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Episodes
256. You may be setting the bar too low
29 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know if you are setting the bar too low for yourself, your relationships and your career / abilities? In this episode, I cover what happens whe...
255. 10 Years of Friendship with Steph Claire Smith and Laura Henshaw
22 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Adult friendships can be harrrrrd – and being in business with a mate is even harder. In this episode I’m joined by two friends who seem to have i...
Mini Ep: A note from Alexis
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I’m on holidays beans! For some listening to fill your ears check out some of your favourite episodes below; 'Why discipline is the ticket to t...
253. Missed Opportunities: Becoming OK with the shots you didn't take
15 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You can spend your whole life thinking about a bad decision that you mad . or the opportunity you didn’t take, or mistakes you made. In fact most pe...
252. Self Awareness: You can't change what you won't acknowledge
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we struggle to be aware of ourselves? It’s hard to turn the lense on yourself, particularly during the bad shit. I’m going to take you thro...
251. Your Break-Up Questions Answered
08 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week I'm diving DEEP into your questions beans – and there's a breakup theme coming through! These are the topics/listener questions I’m cov...
250. The science of overthinking and how to overcome it
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Overthinking? Me? Never (lol absolutely yes). I’m going to take you through what’s happening in your brain when you’re overthinking. Plus I’ll...
249. Understanding sunk cost fallacy & why it is hurting your decision making
01 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The phrase Sunk Cost Fallacy is going to help you stop wasting your time on shit that doesn’t work. In this episode I’m explaining this concept wh...
248. How to approach closure differently and really move on
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hello my beautiful beans! In this episode I’m gunna talk you through how to get closure in your life; primarily about romantic relationships but you...
247. Narcissistic parents and in-laws: How to spot them and deal with them
24 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What makes someone a narcissist? What's the difference between a covert and overt narcissist? and how, oh HOW, do you handle a relationship with a nar...
246. Dealing with pathological & compulsive liars
21 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lying is normal, but lying pathologically is NOT. I got a listener question specifically around dealing with a liar so I'll jump off with that and the...
245. Histrionic personality disorder, weird MIL vibes, co-dependent relationship advice, moving on from a cheater: Answering Your Questions
17 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the episode of today I'm explaining HPD or Histrionic Personality Disorder. And I answer 5 of your questions covering a difficult mother in law ...
244. How to keep a promise to yourself
14 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is all about how to make a commitment to yourself and stick to it, and why you're setting yourself up to fail (and it's not necessaril...
243. Limit the amount of people that owe you and liberate yourself
07 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I talk about why you should limit the amount of people that owe you. Why feeling that someone owes you something can be very detriment...
242. The illusion of endless options on dating apps and why it can be so harmful
03 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let's talk about dating apps. I asked you guys what you thought about them, the good and the bad. I pulled all this information together to had a cha...
241. Leaving someone is not giving up on them
31 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this ep I go over the difference between problems that are 'joint' and 'individual' in a relationship. How to let go of the guilt of leaving a rela...
240. Why discipline is your ticket to the life you want
24 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Okay time to talk about all things discipline! Why you need it, why it will make your life so much better and more fulfilling and why it will increase...
239. Green flags to look for in your day
20 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode goes over a bunch of green flags to lean into to improve your overall happiness, productivity, relationships and peace of mind. Brain Fa...
238. You do not have to be the bigger person. Your peace of mind comes first
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's ep I go over what it means to be the bigger person, when it is good and when it is not helpful to your own peace of mind or mental health. ...
237. How to overcome retroactive jealousy and overthinking in a relationship (E)
30 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I cover how to deal with feelings of retroactive jealousy and overthinking in a relationship, and how overcoming these feelings will i...
236. Determine your own value and never look for it in other places again
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I break down the difference between perceived value and actual value. How to stop letting other people determine your value and how to...
235. Chase change, don’t let change chase you
23 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today’s episode I talk about my favorite statement and one I try and live by all the time. How to become someone who is adaptable and resilie...
234. The difference between drive and self-control and how to have both
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today’s episode I break down what drive is compared to self control, how to know where your strengths are and where you weaknesses are and then I...
233. Boundaries vs Controlling behaviour AND how to set healthy boundaries to improve your self love
16 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There is so much to talk about on today's episode! I have two main categories. How to know the difference between a boundary and a controlling ...
232. Feeling like you have plateaued? Try this to level up!
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hello! Today's episode is all about how to change things up and feel back on track and kicking goals when you are feeling a bit flat or like everythin...
231. Dealing with anxious and stressful thoughts in 5 steps
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I take you through a five step process to help you get your anxious or spiralling thoughts under control, so your emotions don't end u...
230. How to get over the fear of your partner cheating on you or falling for someone else
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode dives deep into dealing with fearful emotions around if your partner is ever going to fall for someone else, or cheat on you or flirt wit...
229. Why self esteem and purpose are linked and 4 ways to maximize it
02 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over 4 ways to understand how tapping into your purpose and understanding what that is can completely transform your self esteem ...
228. Life advice to get you through the week
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I dive into all kinds of scenarios and give you advice from toxic parents, unbearable heartbreak, how to not be so anxiously avoidant ...
227. 5 ways to feel more empowered DAILY
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I talk all about self empowerment and how to take control of situations NOW to feel like you have more of a say in your future. I give 5 si...
226. Its not about what you can do, its what you will do. 6 steps to DO that thing
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over 6 steps to help you go from thinking you 'COULD' do something to actually doing it. There is so much already at your disposa...
225. Do these 7 things NOW to increase your self-confidence
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is an encore episode of ep 147. One of my all time most useful episodes. Every week I touch on the importance of your relationship with your self...
224. You are more than enough. How to feel it (6 tips)
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this ep I talk about when you feel down on yourself, and feel like something is lacking or that you are 'not enough'. when this happens you start t...
223. Breaking down the low dopamine morning trend, and what you should do instead
11 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this ep, I am going to break down what I like about the low dopamine morning trend (all over Tiktok and blogs) and what I disagree with, and what t...
222. How to chose your friends wisely
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about knowing how to chose your inner circle friends and how to chose those that you like having around but are not going to be cl...
221. How to forgive yourself when others won't
04 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I talk all about self forgiveness when someone wont forgive you. What to do when you have apologised and are not forgiven, how to move...
220. Who is getting the best of you? A lesson in self love
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go how you can be giving the best of you to YOURSELF and ways to do that as often you end up getting the leftovers of what you have ...
219. 4 tools to get you to know what you want.
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode covers 4 key ways to help you know what you want in all areas of life, and goes into why we struggle so much with knowing what we want in...
218. 5 ways to feel empowered and never feel like a victim again
21 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I go over 5 ways to learn how to become more empowered with your life circumstances and situations so you feel more in control with wh...
217. 4 ways to stop feeling disappointed, and to feel more in control
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode we look at 4 things you can implement to feel less disappointed and to feel like you are more in control of your life. Brain ...
216. 10 things I learnt in my 20s
14 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lets go over the 10 things I learnt in my 20s. (there may need to be a part 2 to this one) Brain fact : Morning light and its positive effect...
215. Do this every day for 30 days and see what happens for you (encore)
07 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is one of my most shared episode of all time. In this ep I give 4 simple things to do every single day. If you can stick to it for 3...
214. How to tell the difference between gut instinct and anxiety
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to follow your instinct better! This episode helps you pull apart the feelings of anxiety vs the feelings of a gut instinct telling you not to do...
213. Green flags to look for in a partner (encore)
30 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One of my favourite episodes ever. Talking all about the good things to look out for in a partner. This is also great for you to look at your own beha...
212. Navigating friendship conflicts and poor communication styles with a partner
27 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I answer a bunch of GREAT listener stories and give my advice on what to do if you are being pushed out of a friendship group for no g...
211. How to become more assertive in every area (encore)
23 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today is an encore episode of one of my all time favourite topics. Assertiveness. I will give you a whole bunch of tips on how to increase your a...
210. Know yourself better so people don't take advantage of you
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lets talk about all the ways that people take advantage of you (intentional and intentional ways) and how to know yourself better so you can respond t...
209. They were out of your life and now they want back in. What do you do?
16 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I talk about how to navigate a situation where either you ended a relationship with someone or they ended it with you and now they want back in....
208. Why knowing your limitations will unleash your potential
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lets talk about our limitations. There are ones you cannot change, and others that are temporary where you can do something about it. In this episod...
207. How to have a difficult conversation with anyone
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over a whole bunch of tools to take with you when entering a difficult conversation. It doesn't matter if you are breaking up, as...
206. The Ick. Is it instinct? Do I run or do I stay?
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lets talk about the ICK! What is it, how to know if it is an alarm bell for a red flag or just something small you can move past. I also go over...
205. How to stop having FOMO (and deal with people who have it)
02 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
FOMO! What is it? why does it consume you so much? This episode will go over why you feel this way, even when you don't want to go out, and how to st...
204. How to slow down ageing and combat oxidative stress
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is more science focused than my other ones. On this episode I cover what oxidative stress is, how it affects your body and the age...
203. Watch your life transform when you start to challenge yourself
26 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
www.dyfmpod.com On this episode I go over the difference between voluntary and involuntary discomfort. Why challenges will transform you physical...
202. Pep Talk - Declutter the mind
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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201. Pep Talk - What is not meant for you will be met with resistance
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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200. Your pain and discomfort is the ticket to the life you want (encore)
19 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is an encore episode of one of my most shared episodes. I decided to re-release this one as lately I have received many questions from my li...
199. Finding your Purpose after a breakup
16 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lets talk about why you feel like you have no purpose after a break up and WHAT you can do about it, and how finding your purpose will transform how y...
198. Pep Talk - What can I begin to heal today?
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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197. Pep Talk - Stop resisting. Face that thing and get it done
13 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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196. Time to cut your losses and become more ruthless
12 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's episode I go through 9 ways to help you learn to cut your losses in order to be happier, have more self respect and to achieve growth in al...
195. 10 ways to show up for yourself
09 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome! On this episode I give you ten ways that you can show up for yourself to feel happier (and to not feel guilty). I also go into what is NOT s...
194. Pep Talk - Becoming at ease with the outcome
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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193. Pep Talk - Get out of your own way today
06 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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192. The difference between negative self talk and constructive criticism
02 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today's ep I am covering the importance of giving yourself constructive criticism. I cover what proper positive feedback looks like and what n...
191. The importance of showing up for other people
26 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over the importance of showing up for other people, what will change in your life when you start to do this more consistently, an...
190. 7 ways to achieve balance to become a happier person
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The podcast is finally back and this is the first episode back since October last year. This episode is based around a lot of my recent and old l...
189. Are you blocking the right people from entering your life?
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I will get you looking into your own behaviours to see if you are welcoming the right people or pushing them out of your life. Often we car...
188. Let go of the idea it could have been different
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about how to t stop keeping our focus in the past, and the importance of shifting your awareness and thoughts to the present and future s...
187. Self Employment and Money Mindset with Lizzie
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On today’s episode I have the super talented Lizzie. Lizzie is a successful freelance copy and content writer who has started her own successful bu...
186. Toxic psychos and red flags - Encore
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is an encore episode of one of my all time most shared episodes. This is a guide to understand if you are dating someone who is a walking re...
185. Why inner peace is the real success and how to achieve it
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode goes through 8 key points in helping you to get closer to feeling calmer and happier within yourself, and to determine if you are doing w...
184. How vulnerability will transform your relationship with yourself
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode, I will go over the importance of vulnerability and how that will not only save you time, improve all your relationships, but also how...
183. How to bounce back stronger after emotional defeat
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode delves into what you can do when you feel defeated (after the breakdown of a relationship, losing hope for something, losing an opportuni...
182. How to be less defensive, and how to deal with defensive people
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode will breakdown why people become defensive, different defensive behaviors and what they look like, and how you can deal with people (in p...
181. Change what you think about trust
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So much about what we thing of trust is warped. Often, we think that in order to trust someone, we need proof that they won’t hurt us or that they r...
180. If you want lasting change, do these 5 things
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I break down 5 tips on how you can better structure your goals and stick to them. Brain fact: Narcolepsy See omnystudio.com/l...
179. What to do when it feels like NOTHING is going your way
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When you are feeling hopeless and when nothing is going your way, there are actually SO many things that can be done. This episode will cover how to f...
177. Take control over your emotions
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s focus will be on: learning to not let things bother you so much learning how to return back to a calm state as soon as possible I w...
176. How to stop devaluing yourself
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over 4 things to focus on to help you stop devaluing yourself and how to know when to step away from a situation. Brain fact...
175. 7 ways to stop feeling inadequate
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you suffer from feelings of inadequacy? Do you feel that you are falling short, or not enough or that you are not who you think you ‘should’ b...
174. Pep talk - Do your future self a favour
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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173. Its your turn to be the asshole
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode will teach you how to worry less when someone things you are an asshole, and how to learn to walk away from a situation when someone has ...
172. Coersive control - how to identify it
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I go over 10 different forms of coercive control and what to look out for. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn ...
171. Pep Talk - Cut the dead weight
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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170. Co existing with people that you don't agree with
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode will help you have better conversations with and a healthier approach to people that you don’t agree with. You will learn to feel ...
169. Pep talk - I live for this feeling
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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168. 10 things you should know about yourself
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode will help you get to know yourself a bit more and get you asking important questions and the WHY behind them, so you know what areas in y...
167. Pep talk - You never regret taking action
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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166. 5 ways to stop being manipulated
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today i go over my 5 key ways to avoid being manipulated. This applies to friends, family and most importantly, romantic relationships. Brain fac...
165. Pep talk - Stop waiting for someone to decide if they want you
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Pep talk 3. Stop waiting for someone to decide if they want you in your life. You make the call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy info...
164. Are ultimatums toxic or necessary?
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are ultimatums toxic or necessary? Let’s talk ultimatums. When are they healthy and when are they toxic? Can you give an ultimatum and not be c...
163. Self love - being alone vs being lonely
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode I break down the important differences between being lonely vs being alone and I highlight the importance of learning to love being al...
162. You decide the quality of your interactions
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Pep talk number 2 You decide the quality of your interactions. Take the power back and stop giving others the power to control your emotional sta...
161. Pep talk - Rest in order to grow
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the pep talks for the month of August. These are two 5-10 minute episodes per week where I can be with you when you start your day and giv...
160. Playing the DYFM card game and getting deep with bestie Liv
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
To celebrate the re-release of the DYFM card game, I decided to sit down with my bestie Liv and pull out some card game questions on each other. We as...
159. Self Love and finding your worth (encore)
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about finding your self worth and how that translates across to self love, and how they go hand in hand. See omnystudio.com/listen...
158. Teach People how to treat you (encore)
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This encore episode delves into how you have to teach people how to treat you. If you don’t, then they will treat you according to their standa...
157. Tyrone answers all your questions about our relationship
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The time has arrived! I never thought this would happen but Tyrone has finally agreed to be a guest on the podcast. And what better topic than to...
156. This is why you struggle with acceptance
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about why we struggle with acceptance. What it means for us and why it is detrimental. I offer ideas of what you can do to accept ...