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Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen...
Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?
21 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthqua...
I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the e...
Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?
14 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experien...
Are Some Women Doomed To Be Alone Forever?
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Before we dive into another peak dating season, it’s time to ask yourself what you want and why you need it. In today’s episode, we hear from a fe...
Can You Be Partners In Love And Business? ft. Nick and Elyse Oleksak
07 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Can a couple be successful in a professional and personal relationship? We’re finding out with this Sunday Special’s guests Nick and Elyse Oleksak...
Is It Just Me Or Is The Dating Pool Polluted?
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Spring is here, but while we’re waiting for the weather to catch up, we’re discussing early dating to get you back out there. An email from last w...
Feng Shui, Dating Intentions, & Jared’s Sh*tty Energy ft. Jeannette Cieszykowski
31 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Spring cleaning time is here, so we’re heading into April ready to clean out, refresh, and reinvigorate our mindsets with the help of one of our lis...
What Is The Right Way To Compliment A Man?
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s the Wednesday before the big weekend – Jordana’s birthday getaway and Jared’s time to shine as his brother’s best man. Before diving in...
Erotic Energy, Rethinking Infidelity, And Psychotherapy ft. Esther Perel
24 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dreams are coming true today– Jordana’s #1 guest, mental health icon, and host of “Where Should We Begin?,” Esther Perel is making this a stan...
The Worst Kind Of Rematch on Hinge
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Spring is in the air, and we’re ready to welcome all the fun that comes with more sun and warmer weather. Before diving into emails, J&J both have e...
A Message To Cheaters
17 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve cheated or been cheated on, this Sunday Special is for you. Before diving in, Jared has some pre-wedding thoughts as we get closer to his ...
AITA For Thinking You’re Full Of Sh*t?
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Nature is healing this week! Jordana is tan and refreshed from her trip to St. Kitts, JetBlue made amends, and Jared brought gifts for himself! Next, ...
SOS: I've Invested Too Much In A Dead-End Situationship To Walk Away
10 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re getting to the bottom of an on-again, off-again relationship in this Sunday Special! One of our listeners, Natalie, knows she’s dating a man...
If It’s Giving Boyfriend, Just Say That
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J have a lot to discuss this week! Jordana is finally about to get her vacation fill, but it’s going to take a JetBlue flight to get to her destin...
Is Jared Just Like The Bachelor? ft. Joey Graziadei
03 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This Sunday Special is a birthday gift to Jared! Joey Grazadei, the Bachelor and the internet’s newest boyfriend, is in the studio and ready to face...
When To Walk Away From The Person You’re Dating
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The Worst Month of the Year is wrapping up, but before it ends, we’ve got a lot of off-air moments to recap from the past week! Since last week’s ...
How To Break Up Like A Gentleman
25 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hopeful season is on the horizon, but for now, J&J are getting you through the bleakest part of winter with another Sunday Special! The episode kicks ...
Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s the Worst Day of the Year, which happens to be the day Jared Freid was born! The episode starts with reflecting on Jordana’s unhinged rant th...
I Hate My BF’s Therapist
18 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Still in awe of Tracy Chapman’s reemergence at the GRAMMYs, J&J’s pre-show talk spills into the start of this Sunday Special. Next, they jump into...
V-Day, TikTok Backlash, And Where The Single Men Are
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Valentine’s Day! Today’s episode has something for everyone – lovers, new listeners, singles, and anyone struggling in a situationship. J&...
Bland DMs: Why You Might Be The Problem
11 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As Valentine’s Day gets closer, we’re anticipating make-or-break reveals hitting a high, but there’s a silver lining: J&J explain why this V-Day...
Get Pookie TikTok Away From Us
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio and Jared is in a mood. He reads the DM that’s been stewing in his mind before they look into TikTok’s new favorite cou...
Icks Are Ruining Dating ft. Jay Shetty
04 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are too many icks and options stopping you from finding love? Jay Shetty, host of the On Purpose podcast, is back in the studio with hot takes on toda...
Failures Make You A Better Dater
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve finally made it to the end of January, but Jordana can’t get into this week’s dating topics until she addresses the change on Jared’s fa...
SOS: Does My Ex Want Me Back Or Is She Messing Around?
28 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re overdue for an SOS episode so this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Rob, one of our listeners, to talk through his current situation with an ...
What’s Wrong With Settling?
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s a debate day in the studio this week! Winter freeze is in full effect, and J&J are coming in hot with reality checks about settling and where y...
The Hard Truth About Getting “The Ick”
21 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
January is slowly trudging on and J&J are already counting down to one month from now–the Worst Day Of The Year. As Jared’s next birthday creeps c...
How Much Does Your Past Impact Your Dating Future?
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are coming in hot with a debate on the difference between “seeing” someone and “dating” someone. They put dating stages on a sc...
Beware Of Breakup January
14 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s un-cuffing season and we’re talking all about whether or not it’s time break up. J&J start with a preview of their upcoming travel plans —...
Are You Dating An Aidan Or A Mr. Big?
10 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio for their first recording of 2024, starting with a New Year’s Eve recap and their own thoughts on Jared’s post-date epi...
How I Got Engaged After 6 Months Of Dating ft. Rosebud Baker
07 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are solving couple's conundrums in today’s Sunday Special. Comedian Rosebud Baker joins the pod and gives a breakdown of the reveal that led to ...
Did Jared Find Love On His Blind Date?
03 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with a very exciting episode to ring in the New Year. Jared breaks down how he was feeling before, during, and after his blind date with ...
Rizz, Sober Dates, And Dating In 2024
31 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are saying goodbye to 2023 with today’s Sunday Special and, from Oxford’s acknowledgment of “rizz” to Taylor Swift’s TIME honor, they’...
It’s The Week Of Nothingness
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Twixmas time (the days between Christmas and New Year’s–it’s a thing) is here, and J&J are winding down 2023 with a regularly scheduled episode....
Toxic Exes, Moms, And Ruining Christmas
24 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
‘Twas the episode before Christmas and in the spirit of holiday fun, Santa Claus and Mama Elf are stepping into the studio to do this one. They kick...
Who Won The Date With Jared?
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are switching things up for this episode because Jared has a date with a listener and, in this episode, they figure out who that will be. They s...
Rejections Are Good For You
17 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special and the senioritis of 2023 is hitting. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a break...
The Problem With Playing It Cool
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are ready to dive into another episode, but first, they have a very New Yorker debate and give a preview of the “Win A Date With Jared” submis...
Should I Be Cleaning My Boyfriend’s Apartment?
10 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This Sunday Special is all about settling debates between couples, but first, there are some clarifications to set about the eligibility to win a date...
You Want To Be The Prize, Not The Pick Me
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Before J&J can solve dating, Jared explains how he ended up in a Turkey Trot and on “Celebrity Row” in MSG. Then, the first emailer has her eye on...
Crystals, Spells, And WTF Is Up With Jared ft. Kelley Knight
03 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s our first Sunday Special of December, and Jordana gifted Jared a tarot reading to kick it off. Kelley Knight, owner of Modern Mystic Shop and r...
Your Words Are Like Spells: Cheating, Standards, and Situationships
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Now that we’re heading into December, J&J are ushering in F*ck It Season with this week’s episode. The first emailer likes the guy she’s seeing,...
The Love Of Your Life Is A Teammate, Not A Goalpost Ft. Vir Das
26 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. H...
‘Tis The Season For Hometown Hookups
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are read...
SOS: Insecurities Are Cockblocking My Dating Life
19 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the...
Thanksgiving Prep: Is It Too Early To Invite My SO?
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer won...
6 Years, 500 Episodes, And More Dating To Solve
12 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the...
When The Honeymoon Phase Ends, What’s The Next Step?
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonde...
Jared VS Jorge: Is Jared Really 10% Away From All Men?
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to fin...
Is Caspering The New Ghosting? (Debating This Year’s Spookiest New Dating Terms)
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop qui...
How Honest Should You Be During A Breakup? Ft. Sam Morril
29 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, J&J are joined by comedian Sam Morril. He talks unhinged exes and shares a recent text exchange...
Dating Is So Much Easier Now That I’m Married
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Something major happened and J&J are kicking off this week by announcing the news! After Jordana spills what’s new, a listener writes in asking abou...
Dating When You Don’t Want Kids ft. Girls Gotta Eat
22 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s Sunday Special fits double the podcasts into a bite-sized episode as Jared and Jordana reunite with Girls Gotta Eat podcast hosts, Rayna Gre...
The Problem With Dating Dog People
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s episode, J&J settle a few doggy debates among our listeners. Is it worth telling a SO that you hate their dog? Would sharing joint cu...
It’s Not Your ADHD, You’ve Got Dating App Fatigue
15 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back for a Sunday Special and, while the weather is shifting, some things never change. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent...
Bumble’s New Update: Isn't This Just “Love Is Blind”?
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A lot has changed since J&J were in the studio a week ago: Jared and Jordana had a first in their friendship, someone wasn’t happy about Jared’s B...
37, Single & Gay ft. Emma Willmann
08 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are joined by comedian, Emma Willmann! They start with talking about the stereotypes between straight and gay relationships, how she an...
Why Does My BF Keep Backing Out Of Plans?
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared feels garbage about a post-show interaction with fans in Atlanta and Jordana recalls humbling ex...
My Interracial Relationship Isn’t An Insult ft. Nimesh Patel
01 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Nimesh Patel stops by the pod. J&J engage Nimesh in a “Petty or Prudent?” debate a...
Introducing: Ask Men Anything with Emma Willmann (Ft. Jared Freid)
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There’s one question that has stumped our universe for centuries: Why do men? Emma Willmann is on a quest to find out the answer in this podcast fro...
Can You Be Old-Fashioned In A Modern Dating World? Ft. The Golden Bachelor
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J have the honor of sitting down with Gerry Turner, the Golden Bachelor, himself! But first, Jordana is catching us up on married life in the ‘bur...
And Just Like That, We’re In A New Season Of Love
24 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Seasons are changing, and so are dating norms! This Sunday Special, J&J kick off with excitement about what’s to come–cool weather, new reality da...
You Can’t Find A Date Because You’re Missing The Point
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Fall is officially days away, and J&J are predicting a shady season ahead. They take a trip to Plug City before reminding single listeners what the go...
Surviving Your Family Trip As “The Single One”
17 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are ready for another Sunday Special, and we’re starting off with a “Petty or Prudent?” about an invoice being sent after the breakup. A lis...
How To Tell If It’s A One-Sided Setup
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio and it’s Jordana’s birthday eve! Before they jump right in, Jared shares a recent text exchange between him and a woman...
Nothing Good Comes From Keeping Your Ex Around
10 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This Sunday Special has Jared heated! The episode starts with a “Petty or Prudent?” submission about an ex’s mom asking for her gift back. Then,...
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Kids, But He’s A Father
06 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Before solving dating again, J&J are catching up after a short break. Jordana gives the rundown of her week in Italia, and Jared talks about the big s...
Sometimes, You’ve Got To Take The “L”
03 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re ushering in September with a Sunday Special, and J&J are dubbing fall as the better season to be in the dating game. We know all too well that...
Lightning Round: How Do I Know If They’re “The One”
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are celebrating summer’s end with a Lightning Round episode, but first, Jordana has a surprise for Jared. Still reeling from his s...
Does Cheating Once Make You A Cheater For Life?
27 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week, they’re starting with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that pissed Jared off...
Who’s Responsible For Texting After The Date?
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio and, this week, they’re both on a high! Jordana is fresh off her biggest move to date and Jared is mere hours into his Ne...
My Exes Don’t Exist To Me Ft. Sasheer Zamata
20 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Comedian and actress Sasheer Zamata joins J&J for this Sunday Special. She and Jared both released comedy specials this month, so they trade insights ...
The Unspoken Rules Of Arguing With Your SO
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re talking big life moments professionally and personally! Jordana is officially a homeowner and moving into her new house. Meanwhile,...
Should I End My Situationship Before It Gets Serious?
13 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This Sunday Special marks the start of a big week for the OKPs! We’re only a couple days away from Jared’s special release on Netflix. Plus, our n...
Does A Small Age Gap Still Make Me A Cougar?
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are clearing the air about age gaps. Is it only weird if the woman is older? After hearing from an “old ...
How Petty Are Exes Allowed To Be?
06 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special, and Jared and Jordana are jumping right into our first round of “Petty or Prudent?” with a submission abou...
Can A Relationship Ever Survive A “Break”?
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are settling into a change of pace, whether it’s walking in the suburbs versus a city, or having to let go of their expectations for this summer...
Is It Fair To Ask Your Partner To Subsidize Your Dreams?
30 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re getting serious about the future in today’s Sunday Special, but first, Jordana’s brother came up with a new game for the pod, “Petty or ...
How Do I Get Over A Breakup If Nobody Was The Villain?
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J have a lot going on, but they’ll always make time to solve dating! Jared is beaming as we get closer to his upcoming Netflix special, and Jordan...
Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex? Ft. Robyn Schall
23 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are joined by Robyn Schall, comedian and host of the “Call Waiting” podcast, to talk about what it’s like to get feedback from your exes. Sh...
How Bad Were Jonah Hill's Texts Really?
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, but first, Jared has big news! Then, J&J give their takes on the trending buzz around Keke Palmer and...
Some Dishonesties Are More Dangerous Than Others Ft. Dr. Drew
16 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Drew, one of reality TV’s favorite experts and dating pioneers. They interview Dr. Drew about his expe...
I’m Single And Happy, But Should I Try Dating Anyway?
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are talking about how to be happy while single, an awkward first time hookup and how to get back into the dating world when you’ve ne...
Enough With The Beige Flags
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back for a Sunday Special, and J&J can’t believe it’s already July. Jared is waiting for the weather to be good enough to fit his summer v...
Your Issue Isn’t Your Baggage, It’s How You Address It
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after wrapping the U Up? Live tour, and Jordana’s feeling sick. But, marriage is in sickness and in health,...
You’re Putting Too Much Pressure On The Penis Ft. Dr. Emily Morse
02 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special, and J&J are joined by sex expert, podcast host and author, Dr. Emily Morse to discuss her new book, “Smart S...
What’s An Appropriate Age Gap?
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week’s conversations have everything to do with age, sex and a special message for Nick Vi...
Husband Or F*ck Off: What Happened Next?
25 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J kick this Sunday episode off with an update from a fan favorite SOS episode, so you’ll want to listen to “Husband or F*ck Off” from February...
How Long Should I Wait For Him To Propose?
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio and with summer wedding season in full swing, they’ve got some tips for all the single wedding-goers out there. Jared end...
You’re Wearing The Wrong First Date Outfit Ft. Liza Lieberman
18 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are joined by Betches’ favorite stylist (and Jordana’s BFF) Liza Lieberman for the Sunday Special. Before getting into your questio...
Announcement: Subscription Update!
17 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The U Up?: With Benefits subscription is getting a glow up! Go to subscribe.betches.com and sign up for the annual subscription before the end of July...
What’s A Socially Acceptable Way To Ghost?
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are decompressing after spending the past weekend at different weddings. They dish out their views on the perfect reception, Jordana co...
Rejection Isn’t Always As Deep As It Feels
11 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week starts with an update from our 5/14 episode! A lawyer crushing on her colleague,...
What Are The New “Love Languages?”
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s episode, J&J are reflecting on how their realities fits into the lives of their loved ones. Jordana realizes her nieces and nephews w...
What’s The “10-Monther” Timeline?
04 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special and this week starts with Jared sharing more about his Euro trip… from hotel preferences to a w/Benefits teas...
Scandoval And The Audacity Of Men
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after weeks of travel and touring to talk about the word on everyone’s minds and TVs: Scandoval. Jordana gi...
Heather McMahan’s Guide To Relationships
28 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with a Sunday Special and, this week, they’re joined by comedian Heather McMahan. Heather and Jared have only known each other digitall...
How Do I Know If I'm Ready To Date Again?
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, this week’s emails focus on how you view yourself playing a role in your relationships. First, Jar...
Is He Self-Sabotaging Or Does He Just Not Like Me?
21 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for another Sunday Special, and this week, Jared and Jordana hear from an emailer confused about where she stands with a guy she’s datin...