U Up?
Episodes
Why Can’t I Make It Past A 3rd Date?
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Jared and Jordana are recording from home and they kick off with the joys and goals of being moderately effective, from daily living to dat...
Is Lust Worth Risking A Friendship?
14 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with a Sunday Special. This week, our email is about a friendship that spans nearly a decade, beginning at law school and still going str...
Is Being Exclusive Different Than A Relationship?
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are discussing the stages of relationships this week, from starting out to starting families, and what that means for your dating li...
Is He That Busy Or Am I A Benchwarmer?
07 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re kicking off with a chat about the subtle yet surreal reminders of being all grown up. ...
Getting Your Situationship To The Next Level
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, J&J are diving into the hurdles holding back your situationship from evolving into a relationship. Our first listener found a spark in a fo...
Is It Okay To Play Games In Some Dating Scenarios?
30 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this Sunday Special, J&J hear from a male listener who’s grown confused and frustrated with being branded as a “good guy” from dates that hav...
Why Do I Keep Getting Textzoned?
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode is full of common dating faux pas and how to steer clear, from the matches that only text but don’t really talk to guys unwitt...
We Matched, We Connected, He Canceled
23 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Picture this: you match with someone cute on an app, have great conversations and agree to go on a date… but on the day of, they cancel. Jared and J...
Does Your Parents’ Opinion Of Your S.O. Actually Matter?
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J break down Jordana’s recent move to – gasp – the suburbs! The first emailer is weighing whether the potential hurdles of different religious...
Behind The Scenes Of A Set Up By Jordana
16 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are joined by a surprise guest on this week’s Sunday Special. Julia, a Betches team member and friend (you may know her as Adam Pa...
Am I A Rebound Or Is He Ready To Move On?
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana cover dating advice we’ve all needed through the stages of starting out to getting serious. The first ema...
How Much Does Your Resume Matter On The Apps? Ft. Jesse Metcalfe
09 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener about how much your resume matters ...
Am I Insecure Or Is He Being Inappropriate?
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode is the “mean with purpose” special, starting with a story about a recent unhinged DM Jared received. The first emailer asks ...
The Dating Mistakes Everyone Makes
02 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about whether or not bachelor and bachelorette parties are on the...
Blindsiding Is A Spectrum Ft. Rebel Wilson
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a deep dive into Jared and Mike’s snacking habits. The first emailer asks how to get over her...
SOS: Can We Be Just Friends If We Made Out?
26 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another SOS episode, and this week they’re joined by Alysha to figure out whether or not she’s just friends with the guy she’s...
The Betchelor Crossover: Love Is Blind Eps. 1-2: The Beginning
24 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No you didn't press play on the wrong podcast, Jared and Kay are covering Love Is Blind Season 4! Every single week on the Betchelor podcast, you will...
Am I More Invested In The Relationship Than My BF?
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start by breaking down a recent Raya experience that started from Jared’s love of complaining. Is it tim...
Does Swiping Count As Cheating? Ft. Adam Pally
19 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Spesh and this week they’re joined by comedian and actor Adam Pally. They start with a chat about his new movie Who...
Why Are Situationship Breakups So Painful?
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared starts with a story about being on his phone at the bar. The first emailer asks how she can slow down the pace of dati...
Why You Should Have A Roster Ft. Violet Benson
12 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversa...
The Problem With #DatingTok
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are coming in hot this week with a lot to unpack. First, they break down the recent Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal and what people’s reaction...
SOS: How To Make First Dates Feel Less Like Interviews
05 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they get their first SOS call from a male listener. Danny joins the pod to ask how he can make...
Breadcrumbing, Cookie-Jarring, & Cobwebbing: Dating In 2023
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker scenario from Jared’s own dating life. Then, they get into a recen...
Is It “Limerence” Or True Love? (Oversharing Sneak Peak)
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content...
So Jared, Why Do Men Say Things They Don’t Mean?
26 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and Jared is in the hot seat this week answering an email about why men say things they don’t mean. But fi...
Lightning Round: Do Men Hate Situationships As Much As Women?
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round Episode, and this week they start by discussing the highs and lows of Jared’s 38th year and ...
SOS: Husband Or F*ck Off
19 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another SOS call from a U Up? listener on this week’s Sunday Special. Nicole joins Jared and Jordana to decide whether she should ...
How Much Can You Embellish On Your Dating App Profile?
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s Dad’s birthday party plans and how everyone goes a little cr...
Valentine's Day Dates: The Archive Dive
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As a special gift this Valentine's Day, J&J are diving into the archives and revisiting our Valentine's Day episodes past. In these throwback clips, J...
Nothing Happens When You Least Expect It Ft. Jay Shetty
12 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” ...
Was Your DTR Talk Too Vague?
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The f...
Do You Need To Be Single To Work On Yourself?
05 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breaku...
What Counts As Cheating?
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their b...
SOS: Blindsided By A Breakup
29 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindside...
Is Ambition A Valid Reason For A Breakup?
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who sa...
Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? (Jared's Oversharing Therapy Session)
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content...
The Problem With Being Comfy
22 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista...
How To Revive A Dating App Match
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana...
Don’t Fall For A Selfish Apology
15 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great ...
How Much Does Sexual Chemistry Matter?
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boc...
Playing It Cool Is Overrated
08 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to ...
How To Be More Charming
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes ...
You’re Not Annoying, He’s Just An Asshole
01 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal...
Make Your Dating Life About You
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. The...
What Does Emotional Availability Actually Look Like?
25 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, ...
Does Splitting The Check On The First Date Mean He’s Not Into It?
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our...
To Play Games Or Not To Play Games
18 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jo...
How To Ask For More Romance In A Relationship
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship...
Was He Using Me Or Did He Just Change His Mind?
11 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The e...
Are You Too Picky Or Not Picky Enough?
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The firs...
How Gender Norms Are Hurting Your Sex Life Ft. Emily Nagoski
04 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. Th...
Do I Need To Live In A City To Date?
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experi...
How To Deal With Weird Texts From An Ex
27 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ...
Sliding Vs. Deciding
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksg...
Do You Have To Like Your S.O.’s Friends?
20 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. ...
The Anniversary Episode
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from pr...
Can Family Dynamics Be A Deal Breaker?
13 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’...
Why Won’t My Friends Set Me Up? Ft. Fortune Feimster
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The fir...
Do You Have To Reply To A Breakup Text?
06 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itc...
Why Doesn’t He Ask Me Any Questions?
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break do...
Why Do Men Make Promises They Can’t Keep? Ft. Delaney Rowe
30 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the me...
Is “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Accurate?
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. Th...
How To Talk About Money With Your S.O. Ft. Ramit Sethi
23 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with ...
Am I Giving Up If I’m Not On The Apps?
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwauk...
Stop Romanticizing Your Ex
16 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences t...
Do Guys Care Less Once It’s Official?
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her fami...
Should I Reach Out Again If The Timing Wasn’t Right?
09 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emai...
Lightning Round Part 2: Embracing Disappointment, The World’s Saddest Pep Talk, and Romantic Coffee Dates
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park ...
Will Losing Weight Fix My Relationship?
02 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jo...
Lightning Round Part 1: Adam Levine, Standing Out On Dating Apps, & Living With A Disgusting
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Ja...
What Should You Expect When Visiting A Long Distance Fling?
25 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long...
How Much Time Do You Need Between Relationships?
21 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by J...
Are You Dating Like You’re In A Relationship?
18 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a m...
How To Avoid Dating App Burnout
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion...
How Secure People Respond To Rejection
11 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a r...
How To Take The Pressure Off Of Your Dating Life
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a chat about the start of fall (aka hookup season), Jordana’s birthday plans, and her gift to all of you. T...
Are Work Crushes Hurting My Love Life?
04 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks why she keeps falling for her long distance coworkers. She explains that she ...
“The Rise Of Lonely, Single Men”?
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Charleston and Jared’s side hustle as a bachelorette party...
Can You Trust A Drunk Text?
28 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out by planning Jordana’s trip to Charleston. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana ...
Should I Join A “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook Group?
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about a recent date Jared went on where he might be the red flag. The first emai...
How Much Vetting Is Too Much Before A First Date?
21 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jordana’s dorm mistakes and the vulnera...
Would You Want To Be On A Singles List?
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared is back from his French adventure and ready to give Jordana the full recap of the trip and responses to his social med...
Do You Actually Want To Know Why They Ended It?
14 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they’ve got the screenshots from a listener who’s confused by the lack of communication f...
Am I Trusting My Gut Or Being Judgemental? Ft. Zoey Deutch
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how every family has a “lazy one” and why they need a travel agent. The ...
Stop Worrying About The Friend Group
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are fresh off the flight from the U Up? Live show in Chicago and ready to solve dating with another Sunday Special. The listener writes in about a...
What’s The Right Texting Ratio?
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” ...
Can Height Be A Deal Breaker? Ft. Patti Stanger
31 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation ab...
Can I Ask My BF To Clean Out His Following List?
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vac...
Do Men Avoid Hookups To Avoid Blame?
24 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for...
It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the...
Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?
17 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer ...
What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy...
How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?
10 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This ...
Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone....
“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing
03 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about sin...
Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating....
How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear
26 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation abou...
How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following a...
Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?
19 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emaile...