U Up?

Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?

15 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s rece...

Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?

12 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email i...

What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?

08 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks w...

Vague Questions Get Vague Answers

05 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of Ame...

How To Do A Mini Reveal

01 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The f...

How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?

29 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boy...

What’s The Right Answer To “How Are You Still Single?”

25 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jared’s upcoming Ted Talk and our new segment for the live tour called “Se...

How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To My Boyfriend’s Ex?

22 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener whose boyfriend drunkenly told his ...

Is The Saying “When You Know You Know” Actually True?

18 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of the best day of the year for a birthday and how the internet can be a fickl...

Is This A Red Flag Or Am I The As*hole?

15 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they start out with a chat about the summer dating season. Next they listen to two new listener jingles which ...

When Does A White Lie Become A Regular Lie? Ft. Rebel Wilson

11 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about how to keep dating momentum going while you're traveling for work. The...

How To Take The Hint After Shooting Your Shot

08 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and her almost contractor to decide whether or not h...

Dating Before & After College

04 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with a very special episode recorded from the Pizza Hut struggle bus in Athens, GA. The first emailer asks how to deal with...

“The Ultimatum” Review

01 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reviewing Netflix’s newest dating show “The Ultimatum.” They break down why th...

How To Weed People Out On The First Date

27 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Dallas and a discussion about how Jared’s feeling now that...

You Can’t Hack The Dating Apps

24 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they answer an email from a guy who has been disappointed by his recent dating ...

The Key To A Better Dating Life Is Your Life Outside Of Dating

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

IRL Spring is officially here, and Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s move and a very exciting U Up? Live annou...

Does Being "Adventurous" Mean Putting Up With No Effort?

17 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special, but first they listen to a couple jingles created by listeners. T...

Is It A Good Sign If A First Date Lasts a Long Time?

13 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a very exciting Betches announcement plus discussions about Jordana’s love of moving and ...

Are Men Intimidated By Women’s Success?

10 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week the emailer asks if she’s too independent to be in a relationship. She...

Better App Conversations Come From Better Prompts

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are reunited in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start out with a recap of Jordana’s honeymoon and a few luxury loun...

Men Picture The Breakup, Women Picture The Wedding

03 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, the emailer asks Jared and Jordana to help her understand what’s happening with her “best guy friend” who said ...

The Upside Of A “Failed” 3-Monther

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with an email from a listener who doesn’t know how to tell her boyfriend that she used to hook up ...

Is Ghosting Ever Okay?

27 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they answer an email from a listener who wants to know if we’ve create...

The Only Dating Rules That Matter Are Your Own

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s honeymoon plans and their favorite jingles. The first emaile...

Temporary Relationships: Every Man’s Dream?

20 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to date seriously when you travel for work. The emailer submitted ...

Is Instagram The Ultimate Relationship Test?

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a story about how Jared accidentally ended up on a 2-on-1 date. The first emailer asks if she shoul...

Is Sliding Into The DMs Less Creepy When Women Do It? Ft. Taylor Tomlinson

13 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by comedian Taylor Tomlinson to solve dating and chat about her new Netflix special. The...

Is Going On Dates The Same As Dating? Ft. Sebastian Stan & Daisy Edgar-Jones

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s friend’s wedding and a discussion about how men and women look at ...

Is Timing a BS Excuse?

06 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she went on a date with while visiting a friend in the c...

Closing The Sexting Gap

02 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jared’s birthday reflections and why he doesn’...

Is The Instagram Follow A Big Deal In Dating?

27 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she almost overlooked on the ap...

How Do I Stop Being A “Cool Girl”?

23 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by discussing Jared’s plan for the worst day of the year (AKA his birthday) and his recent for...

Does Acting “Coupley” Actually Mean Anything?

20 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Fuckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she met before the holidays...

Winter Dating Pep Talk

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are talking all about how to keep dating fun in the winter. The first emailer asks if it’s worth it to d...

Can We Still Be Friends If He Wants To Hook Up With Me?

13 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with Jared’s love letter to Tom Brady. Then, they break down the t...

Valentine’s Day Lightning Round: Embrace The Cliché

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round episode, and this time it’s all about Valentine’s Day. They answer 10 questions submitted ...

“And Just Like That...” Season Review

06 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are talking all about the first season of And Just Like That. They start out by discussing the glos...

Will Men Settle Down With Literally Anyone If The Timing Is Right?

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s entry to TikTok and how it differs from Instagram. Then they...

Does Anything Justify Not Texting Back For Over A Week?

30 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about Jared’s favorite sandwich in LA and how to date someon...

How NOT To Do Long Distance Relationships

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of how Jordana’s husband feels about her most recent U Up? With Benefits epi...

West Elm Caleb Is Everything That’s Wrong With Modern Dating

23 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with an emergency Sunday Special all about West Elm Caleb, a New York guy who’s blowing up on TikTok for ghosting, love b...

Stop Judging Yourself So Much When Dating

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the most annoying person on vacation and Jared’s conflicted feelings a...

Can Awkward Sex Be A Deal Breaker?

16 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana answer an email from a listener asking if her situationship fizzled because of an awkward sexual en...

Is It Normal To Have FOMO When You’re In A Relationship?

12 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about how we’re all living in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what it...

It’s Okay To Admit You Don’t Want Something Casual

09 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she’s seeing casually. They t...

Is It A Red Flag If My Boyfriend Stays In Touch With His Ex?

05 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about their New Year’s resolutions. Then, they answer an email regarding a T...

Is It Possible To Separate A Potential Love Interest From Their Income?

02 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about money and dating. First, they answer an email from a...

What Does “Settling” Actually Mean?

29 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by reflecting on this year of the pod. The first emailer asks if she’s being too picky or not ...

Why Do Some Women Reject “Sweet” Guys?

26 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about being single around the holidays. Then, t...

Jordana’s Wedding: A Dramatic Reading (U Up? With Benefits Excerpt)

23 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As a special holiday gift, we present to you an excerpt from Jordana’s wedding, as read by J&J on the latest U Up? With Benefits. To hear more, subs...

Does Every Situationship Deserve A Breakup?

22 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion of Jared’s first appearance on @deuxmoi and how men approach commitment differently ...

Why Does He Keep Texting Me Without Planning A Date?

19 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener submitted screenshots from a guy who rescheduled a dat...

Does It Matter How Many People They’ve Slept With Before You?

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s new favorite first date spot and Jordana’s first date shirt. The ...

All Too Well (Taylor’s Version) (J&J’s Version)

12 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about Taylor Swift and the ten minute version of All Too W...

Jared Reviews Jordana’s Wedding

08 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s wedding and her feelings about being married. The Awkward Sexual Encount...

Do I Really Need My Stuff Back From My Ex?

05 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff bac...

You Are Your Explore Page

01 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for ...

When To Take The Loss In Dating

28 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was t...

The Pros & Cons Of Meeting On The Apps

24 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post...

How To Handle A Breakup With A Coworker

21 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break...

Lightning Round: Thanksgiving Invites, Holiday Gifts, And Nosey Family Members

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all abou...

How To Stop Wasting Time On People Who Aren’t Making You A Priority

14 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling b...

Do Exes Always Come Back? Ft. Ricky Velez

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first...

When Should Couples Start Mixing Finances? Ft. Berna Anat

07 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start wit...

Is Dating Easier For Men?

03 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is...

The Best Way To Approach Failed Situationships

31 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costum...

What Is “The Reveal”?

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The ...

How To Cut Ties With The Guy In Your DMs

24 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or j...

How To Talk To Your S.O. About Sex

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates ...

How To Write An Effective Standard-Setting Text

17 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever wo...

What Are The Signs That You’re In Love?

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The W...

When Is It Okay To Have A Serious Conversation Over Text?

10 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communicati...

How Dating Buzzwords Might Be Hurting Your Love Life

06 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at usin...

Am I The F*ckboy?

03 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckbo...

Would You Really Want To Know Why Someone Broke Up With You?

29 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on...

How To Confront Your S.O. About Sketchy Texts

26 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s p...

How To Know If You’re A Rebound

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email ...

Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?

19 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating...

Can I Be Confident And Insecure At The Same Time? Ft. Violet Benson

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How...

What Does A F*ckboy Get Out Of Being Friends?

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met las...

What To Do When You Let Your “Crazy” Show Too Soon Ft. Giannina Gibelli

08 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she...

How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Text Back?

05 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign....

Should I Accept A “Hangout” Date?

01 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana...

What You Should Ask Yourself Before You Break Up Ft. Logan Ury

29 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share mor...

Lightning Round: Dating In The Age Of Social Media

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers...

Does Playing Games Ever Work?

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a ...

Why Would He Act Like My Boyfriend But Not Want To Date?

18 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener...

Can You Set Your Standard Too Low?

15 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app we...

How To Date Multiple People At Once

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks ...

When Is It Time To Block Someone?

08 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener sh...

What Does Being A F*ckboy Actually Mean?

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What...

Your Love Language Is Whatever You’re Getting The Least

01 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they ...

Is Cheating Always A Deal Breaker?

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change on...

How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay

25 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about ho...

Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener ...

How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You

18 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a weddi...

Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all abou...

What To Do When You Catch Feelings And They Don’t

11 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she ...

Why Don’t My Friends Like The Guy I’m Seeing? Ft. Iliza Shlesinger & Margaret Cho

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’...