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Does Playing Games Ever Work?

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a ...

Why Would He Act Like My Boyfriend But Not Want To Date?

18 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener...

Can You Set Your Standard Too Low?

15 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app we...

How To Date Multiple People At Once

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks ...

When Is It Time To Block Someone?

08 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener sh...

What Does Being A F*ckboy Actually Mean?

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What...

Your Love Language Is Whatever You’re Getting The Least

01 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they ...

Is Cheating Always A Deal Breaker?

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change on...

How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay

25 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about ho...

Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener ...

How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You

18 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a weddi...

Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all abou...

What To Do When You Catch Feelings And They Don’t

11 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she ...

Why Don’t My Friends Like The Guy I’m Seeing? Ft. Iliza Shlesinger & Margaret Cho

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’...

Am I Settling Or Did I Just Find The Right Person Early? Ft. Lori Gottlieb

04 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what ty...

How To Tell If A F*ckboy Has Actually Changed

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer a...

Am I Being Avoidant Or Do I Just Not Like Him?

27 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks beca...

How To Keep Your Summer Fling From Fizzling Ft. Jared’s College Ex, Ashley Bisman

23 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she tr...

Should I Call Out A Breadcrumber?

20 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are y...

Is It Weird To DM Someone If You Didn’t Match On The Apps?

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a list...

Is Infidelity Inevitable? Ft. Dan Savage

13 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage. They start out with a discussion of how Da...

Do I Have What It Takes To Have A Hot Girl Summer?

09 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about the world opening back up when you’re single versus when you’re in a relat...

Why Do Exes Come Back Pretending To Want Friendship

06 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. This week’s emailer wants to know if her ex actually wants to b...

Lightning Round: Dating App Pictures, Bad Kissers, And Emotionally Slutty Boyfriends

02 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round, answering 20 questions submitted by our Instagram followers with top...

Are Personality Types Relevant In Dating?

30 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

J&J are back with another Sunday Special all about personality types and how they factor into dating. They answer an email from a Type A listener with...

How To Hit On Someone Without Being Creepy Ft. Camille Kostek

26 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a pep talk for going back out into the world. Then they answer an email from a listener who...

Is Alcohol F*cking Up My Dating Life?

23 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reading texts from a listener who thinks she might have ruined her cha...

Dealing With A Breakup

19 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

J&J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s relationship status. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a 69 gone wrong. Later, they answer ...

How To Tell Your Best Friend You Have Feelings For Them Ft. Tinx

16 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, L...

Will My Relationship Survive After The Pandemic?

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman...

A Matchmaker’s Guide To Finding Love Ft. Matchmaker Maria

09 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into m...

Is Faking An Orgasm Anti-Feminist?

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is i...

Not Everyone Who Doesn’t Want To Date You Is A F*ckboy

02 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener receive...

How To Have Casual Hookups Without Feeling Disrespected

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email ...

Is My Coworker Flirting Or Just Being Friendly?

25 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in w...

What You Should Know Before You Pay For Dating App Features

21 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you loo...

Is He Bad At Planning Or Does He Just Not Care?

18 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling t...

Are You Setting Your Standards Or Avoiding Rejection?

14 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quar...

How To Spot a Lazy Dater Before You Get In Too Deep

11 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seein...

Lightning Round: Dating App Tips, F*ckboy Streaks, And Running Into Exes

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our ...

Why Do People Still Get Married?

04 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emaile...

How Long Should It Take For Them To Say “I Love You”?

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good w...

Am I An As*hole If I Keep Hooking Up With Someone Who Has Feelings For Me?

28 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether...

Can You Call Dibs On A Dating App Match?

24 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started ...

How Many White Lies Make A Red Flag?

21 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what w...

Do I Really Want To DTR Or Is It Just Relationship Anxiety? Ft. Victoria Justice

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship co...

How To Ask For What You Want In Bed Without Offending Your Partner Ft. Dr. Emily Morse

14 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversatio...

Should I Wait To Break Up Until It’s More Convenient To Move Out?

10 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dati...

How Do I Know If The Person I'm Dating Is Ready To Move On From Their Ex?

07 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to resch...

How To Apologize To An Ex You Treated Poorly

03 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re ...

Is It Ever Worth Trying To Make It Work With a Bad Communicator?

28 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your r...

How To Set The Expectation That You Won’t Be Hooking Up Before A Date

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “...

How To Get A Straight Answer About Why Your Fling Suddenly Ended

21 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal...

Can I Ask My Partner To Pay More If They Make More? Ft. Mike Johnson

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in...

How Do I Tell My New Partner About My Food Issues? Ft. Aleen Dreksler

14 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They s...

What Are The Valentine’s Day Expectations In A New Relationship?

10 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whet...

How To Not Die Alone Ft. Logan Ury

07 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk abo...

Is There A Way To Salvage A Relationship With Very Different Marriage Timelines?

03 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask ...

How Many FaceTime Dates Equal One IRL Date?

31 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about ...

How To Get Your Parents To Stop Pressuring You To Date

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about p...

Everything You Need To Know About Dating With Herpes Ft. Erica Spera

24 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about d...

Should I Tell Him I Snooped On His Phone If I Didn't Like What I Saw? Ft. Stephen Colletti & James Lafferty

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think...

Does An Expensive Date Imply That He Wants A Relationship Or Sex?

17 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than j...

Is It Normal To Keep Track Of Every Date You’ve Been On?

13 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to rom...

How To Spot An A*shole Who’s Pretending He’s a Nice Guy

10 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly ...

Is There Ever A Chance A Long Term Hook Up Can Turn Into A Relationship?

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes...

Is It a Bad Sign if He’s Saying He Doesn’t Want to See Me Until the Pandemic is Over?

03 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listene...

How To Move On In The Midst Of A Pandemic

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and r...

How To Get A Guy Who Won't Date You To Stop Looking At Your Instagram Story

27 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hook...

How Do I Get Over An Ex Moving On Too Quickly? Ft. Bo Burnham

23 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into th...

Is It Possible To Turn An Out-Of-Town Fling Into Something Real?

20 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text e...

Here Are The Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Trying To Break Up With You

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she sh...

Does A Random “How Are You?” Text Mean They’re Looking To Hookup?

13 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine ...

How Do I Relay That I Want An Expensive Engagement Ring Without Seeming Shallow?

09 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk a...

Why Would An Ex Swipe Right On My Dating Profile?

06 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a s...

Is It Okay To Judge Someone You're Dating By Their Friend Group?

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emaile...

These Are The Signs You Shouldn’t Go On That First Date

29 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock i...

Do I Have a Right To Ask The Guy I'm Seeing Why He's Following Girls On Instagram?

25 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relations...

Is It Worse To Be A Cynical Dater Or A Naive Dater?

22 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text e...

How Soon Should You Expect To Get Daily Messages From A Person You Started Dating?

18 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship...

Does It Count As Cheating If He's Getting Nudes From Someone He Never Met?

15 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the email...

Is It a Dealbreaker If Your Significant Other Won’t Get a Dog?

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a ...

Should I Keep Talking To Someone Who's In An Open Relationship?

08 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who tu...

Where's the Line Between Being Shady and Wanting Privacy?

04 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A...

Is It Ever Too Early To Tell a Guy You’re Really Into Him?

01 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if the...

Is It Time to Start Accepting That Closure Isn’t A Real Thing?

28 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on ...

Is It Possible To Wait Too Long To Have Sex With Someone?

25 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too l...

Can I Improve My Dating Life By Moving to a New City?

21 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if s...

Is It Worse To Do The Slow Fade Or Ghost Someone Completely?

18 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silen...

Should I Stop Seeing A Guy That Won’t Call Me His Girlfriend?

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a...

How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Talk About His Erectile Dysfunction?

11 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the...

Is It Fair To Judge My Partner For Not Being Ambitious Enough?

07 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ...

What's the Best Way to Handle Rejection?

04 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out...

Should We Stop Asking People What They’re “Looking For” On A Dating App?

30 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a li...

Should I Reach Back Out To Someone Who Ghosted Me?

27 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s te...

Can You Ask Someone To Delete Your Nudes After You Break Up?

23 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a lis...

How Detailed Should A Breakup Text Be After Just A Few Dates?

20 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange abou...

Can You Ever Assume You’re In A Relationship With Someone Without Having “The Talk”?

16 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what t...

How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Spend More Time With Me? Ft. Dr. Naomi Bernstein (Jordana’s Sister)

13 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Nao...

Why Does He Keep Texting Me If He Won’t Make A Date?

09 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be conc...