U Up?
Episodes
Should I Respond To A Random Text From An Ex?
01 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. ...
How Do I Get My Partner To Improve Without Insulting Them?
24 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to a...
Why Was My Ex Able To Move On So Fast And I Can’t?
17 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way....
Is It A Huge Mistake To Tell A Guy That You’re Open To Something Casual?
10 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love sa...
Is It Okay To Ask Your Quarantine Fling Not To Hook Up With Others?
03 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writ...
Is This Relationship Real Or Just A Quarantine Distraction?
27 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living a...
Is It Okay To Like Photos Of Your Friend’s Ex?
20 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette...
Should Couples Stop Moving In Together Before Getting Engaged?
13 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped ind...
Who Gets To Decide Where You Quarantine As A Couple? Ft. Mark Manson
06 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of...
How To Tell If You’re Bored In Your Relationship Or Just Bored Of Quarantine
29 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will becom...
What Do You Do When You’re Fed Up With Quarantine Dating?
22 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexis...
This Is What It’s Like To Quarantine In A New Relationship Ft. Sam Morril & Taylor Tomlinson
15 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to f...
Are You Willing To Go On A FaceTime First Date? Ft. Nicole Byer
08 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try Face...
How Do I Know If My Partner Is Ready To Move In With Me?
01 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener ...
How To Admit That Your Toxic Hookup Is Never Going To Change
25 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too...
Love In The Time Of Corona
18 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined wit...
How Many Times Should I Let Him Reschedule?
11 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel...
U Update: He Wouldn't Call Me His Girlfriend
06 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girl...
The One Where We Talk About Love is Blind
04 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation abou...
How Do I Turn My Work Hookup Into A Real Relationship?
26 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to...
Am I Allowed To Be Upset With My Partner About What They Did Before We Were Exclusive?
19 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got...
Should You Expect A Valentine’s Day Date After A Month Of Dating?
12 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should ex...
When Is It Time To Admit Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working?
05 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether o...
Should I Come Clean About My Past On A First Date? Ft. Jordana’s Sister
29 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do...
Is It A Bad Sign If My Partner Still Talks About Their Ex? Ft. Luann de Lesseps
22 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say...
Why Do So Many Daters End Things At The Three Month Mark?
15 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going....
What Should You Do If You Find Out Your Partner Cheated On Their Ex?
08 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next...
How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me?
01 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Th...
How Do I Handle A Guy Who Tries to Make It Too Sexual Too Fast?
25 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship...
Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media?
18 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip...
When Is The Right Time To Unfollow An Old Hookup?
14 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering ...
What Do I Do When My Partner Sucks At Buying Gifts?
11 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your...
How Soon Can You Start Dating After A Breakup?
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from...
Can You Ever Really Be Friends With An Ex?
30 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted ...
How Do I Avoid Being The Drunkest Person In The Room?
27 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy o...
How Do I Find Closure After An Unexpected Breakup?
20 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holida...
If A Guy Likes My Instagram, Does That Mean He Likes Me?
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted ...
Is It A Mistake To Follow Someone To Another City Just For Love?
13 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it ...
How Often Do I Need To Text My Significant Other While I’m Away?
06 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to ...
Would You Swipe Right On Someone From NSYNC? Ft. Joey Fatone
02 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the quest...
What’s the Best Way To Decline a Request For Nudes?
01 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message th...
The Easiest Way To Get From A Dating App Convo To a First Date
23 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where yo...
Do I Get To Care About Who My Partner Used To Sleep With?
16 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that ...
Is It Shallow To Only Want To Date Rich People?
09 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wonder...
How Do I Confront My Partner About Their Terrible Texting? Ft. Jonathan Van Ness
02 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning ...
What’s the Best Way To Be Broken Up With?
27 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the quest...
Why Are Guys So Afraid Of Commitment?
25 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transiti...
What Counts As An Appropriate First Date Location?
18 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back and ready to bring in everyone’s favorite month, fucktober. At 21:50 they break down the science behind the ‘walking date.’ Wha...
How Do I Bring Up Weird Instagram Activity Without Sounding Crazy?
13 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Agora Theatre in Cleveland. They begin the show by asking the ...
Should I Delete My Instagram Photos With My Ex? Ft. Rachel Lindsay & Travis Mills
11 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Js ride again and following Jordana’s 30th birthday, she wants to speak to the manager. At 12:45 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a ...
How Many Dates Should It Take To Decide if You Have Sexual Chemistry With Someone?
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jared and Jordana are here to wrap up the summer and kick off fall hook up season. At 10:00 they discuss when the exact start date of cuffing season s...
Is It Hot Or Offensive To Leave Right After A Hookup? Ft. Tyler Cameron
28 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to...
How Do I Slide Into A Guy’s DMs Without Seeming Desperate?
21 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the ri...
How Do I Handle The Guy Who Wants To Take Things Slow?
16 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how d...
Does It Count As Cheating If Your Partner Pays Strangers For Nudes?
14 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothet...
Is It Better To Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee?
07 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at T...
Who Should Pay For The Couples Vacation? Ft. Maddie Poppe
31 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with a conversation about money in relationships. At 18:55 a listener asks if it’s fair to expect her boyfriend to cover the ...
Is It A Deal Breaker If Someone Late Cancels A Date?
24 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with an explanation of why men love The Rock and women are obsessed with Beyoncé. At 17:45 a listener writes in to ask why peo...
How to Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Everyone Else's
17 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s kick off the show with a conversation about Jared’s trip to Napa and how hard it is to fulfill your partner’s expectations. Is everyone ...
Is It Ever Okay To Question The Sexuality of the Person You're Dating?
10 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with a debate about what counts as the first date when calculating your anniversary. Should you start counting from your very f...
What’s Worse, Looking Jealous or Crazy?
03 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with a recap of their weekends and give tips on how to make the best wedding speech possible. They talk about what to do when y...
What Percent Of The Time Should You Expect To Be Happy In A Relationship?
26 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s start the show with a listener DM about a friend who constantly responds to her boyfriend’s Instagram stories. Does she have a right to be...
Should I Put My Instagram Handle In My Dating App Profile?
19 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J kick off the show with the latest details on the U Up? LIVE national tour, including how you can get your chance to be part of the show. At 10...
Am I Being Ghosted Or Did The Conversation Just End?
12 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with an exciting announcement... UUp? LIVE is going on a national tour! They share the list of all 20 cities the show is coming...
When Is The Right Time To Ask If Someone Is Looking For A Relationship?
05 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J start the show with an impromptu conversation about outside pressure to get engaged. Why is the default conversation for so many women to ask ...
Are You Obligated To Reveal Your Phone Passcode In A Relationship? Ft. Dr. Helen Fisher
29 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back and start the show with a conversation about girls taking on the role of vacation planner in a relationship. Why does it seem like it...
What’s The Difference Between Sexual Preference And Sexual Racism? Ft. Ronny Chieng
22 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s kick off with news about the Red Flag or Dealbreaker card game, and Jared reveals where he’s headed for the long holiday weekend. At 16:30...
Can A Relationship Survive A Huge Body Transformation?
15 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back to talk about Jordana’s trip to Mexico and Jared shares a family rule for weekend beach trips. They tell us what you should and sho...
When Is The Right Time To Ask Someone To Move In Together?
08 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back to talk about moving in together with your boyfriend. Is the end of your lease a good enough reason to talk about getting a place tog...
How Do I Show Guys On Dating Apps That I'm Not Only Interested In Hooking Up?
01 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s return to declare cuffing season officially over. They start by talking about the new phenomenon of guys making their location status on dat...
Is Jealousy In A Relationship Flattering Or Annoying? Ft. Vinny Guadagnino
24 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Double J is back asking the tough hypothetical questions. Is some amount of jealousy in a relationship actually healthy? At 20:40 they breakdown their...
How Do We Ask Our Partners For More Sex?
17 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back asking the tricky question, how do we ask for more sex in relationships? At 14:45 an undersexed listener writes in wondering what to ...
Is It Tacky To Talk About Money With The Person You’re Dating?
10 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Double J are back to defend all the basic bitches in the world. Obviously people are going to Iceland because it’s fun, what’s there to be embarra...
How To Stop Sleeping With Someone Who Doesn't Want To Date You
03 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Double J return to give you their latest opinions on Netflix’s hit show “Dating Around”. At 25:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of...
Is Refusing to Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker? Ft Nev Schulman & Laura Perlongo
27 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J return and they both need a little “me” time. Jordana tries to anticipate some issues she might run into once she moves in with her boyfri...
What To Do When He Can't Get It Up
20 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jordana and Jared are back to talk about erectile dysfunction. They discuss Jordana’s bachelorette trip to Colombia and her upcoming move-in plans w...
How Do I Say "I Love You" First?
13 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Js are back and they’re talking about Netflix’s classy dating show “Dating Around.” Jared has a full breakdown of the dating adventures of...
How Do I Hit On A Guy At The Gym?
06 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The Js are back and they’re asking a question that has been tough for women for a long time, “how do you hit on a guy at the gym?” Jared insists...
How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Sleeping With Someone?
27 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 th...
What Do We Owe An Ex After a Breakup?
20 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about...
Bonus UUP?: Live At Murmrr Theatre
15 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Murmrr Theatre in Brooklyn. At 5:20 they ask the question “how h...
How Do I Wear Lingerie Without Looking Stupid?
13 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back just in time for Valentine’s Day. While Jordana has planned a romantic magic show/dinner for her BF, Jared hasn’t made plans and ...
Bonus U UP?: Live At Underground Arts
08 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Underground Arts in Philadelphia. At 4:40 they ask the question “...
How Long Into Dating Someone Should You Expect To Have Valentine's Day Plans?
06 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jordana and Jared return to talk about Valentine’s Day anxiety. Is Valentine’s day the most romantic day of the year, or is it really a deadline f...
Bonus U Up?: Live At Sixth & I
01 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Sixth And I in Washington, DC. At 7:40 they ask the question”why...
Were Jim and Pam Assholes or the Best Couple Ever?
30 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
J and J have returned from their live tour! They start by talking about what a low-key blessing it is to be a third wheel in social scenarios when you...
What To Do When You're Blindsided By A Breakup
23 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launche...
How to Date as A Single Parent Ft. Chris Distefano
16 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Jordana and Jared return with a Jared undergoing a personal dating dilemma. What should you expect when you ‘come out’ as a couple on Instagram? A...
How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues
09 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and N...
Does The Person I’m Dating Care About My Instagram Brand?
02 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are tu...
Should You Be Mad If Someone You're Seeing Is Still Updating Their Dating App Bio?
26 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are back and the Christmas break isn’t slowing them down. At 7:20 a listener writes in asking if lying about your age on dating apps is ac...
Did Carrie And Big Have An Abusive Relationship?
19 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The J’s are back just in time for Christmas. At 6:50 they discuss the best way for a single person to approach the dreaded New Year’s Eve kiss. At...
Why are Millennials Having Less Sex than Our Parents' Generation? Ft. Kate Julian
12 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s researc...
What's The Best Way to Tell My Significant Other That They’re Getting Fat?
05 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jare...
Were Ross and Rachel On A Break?
28 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss the...
Is It Too Soon To Take A Trip With My BF?
21 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:...
Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?
14 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the h...
Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo Sales
07 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales...
Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?
31 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that ...
What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny Bananas
24 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agr...